If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a game of “Spot the Shallow,” fret not—here’s your cheat sheet. 

From judging books by their covers to chasing trends like it’s an Olympic sport, if you’re nodding along, chances are you’ve crossed paths with a master of superficiality. 

Buckle up as we unveil 11 telltale signs of those who prefer gloss over substance.

1) They always focus on appearance

Ever come across those folks who only chatter about looks, whether it’s theirs, someone else’s, or the newest celeb’s glam shots? Yes, that’s the telltale sign of someone skating on the shallow end.

Sure, we all enjoy looking sharp, but when someone’s all surface, no depth, it’s as if they’re stuck in a fashion magazine. 

They’re all about the surface glitter, spending hours dissecting trends or perfecting their locks, but throw a meaningful convo their way, and you might as well be talking to a mannequin.

2) They avoid deep conversations

Another sign of a superficial person is their aversion to deep conversations. They’re usually the ones who steer the conversation back to lighter topics when things start getting a bit too real or emotional.

You might find that they’re uncomfortable discussing anything that requires a little bit of thought or introspection.

Whether it’s a discussion about philosophy, socio-political issues, or personal beliefs, they’d rather chat about last night’s reality TV show or the latest celebrity gossip.

While it’s completely fine to enjoy light-hearted chats, consistently avoiding meaningful discussions might indicate a lack of depth in a person.

3) They’re obsessed with social status

If someone is overly concerned with social status and constantly name-drops or brags about their connections, it’s a pretty clear sign of superficiality.

For instance, I once knew a person who would always find a way to mention the celebrities they’d met or the high-profile events they’d attended.

Every conversation seemed to circle back to the ‘important’ people they knew or their latest luxury purchase. It felt like their self-worth was tied to these status symbols, rather than their personal values or achievements.

Being proud of one’s accomplishments is one thing, but an obsession with status can suggest a person lacks depth and substance in their character.

4) They’re always on their phone

Ever come across someone who just can’t tear their eyes away from their phone, even in the middle of a conversation? That’s a glaring sign of being all surface, no substance.

These phone-obsessed types? They’re using those screens like shields—dodging real talks and awkward vibes with the tap of a finger.  

And here’s the kicker: researchers say folks with a heavy dose of narcissism tend to be the ones with a phone addiction. And let me tell you, narcissism and superficiality practically go hand in hand.

Now, I’m not saying ditch your phone altogether. But if you’re stuck in a screen trance 24/7, you might be missing out on the genuine connections right in front of you.

5) They lack empathy

One of the most heartbreaking signs that you’re dealing with a superficial person is a noticeable lack of empathy.

Empathy—the ability to feel what others feel—is key. Without it, connections feel shallow.

Look, empathy isn’t just about understanding pain. It’s also celebrating joy. If they can’t genuinely share your successes or joys or always dismiss your feelings, it’s a a red flag for superficiality.

Keep in mind, surround yourself with those who can empathize in both good times and bad.

6) They’re materialistic

You know, spotting a superficial person can sometimes feel like recognizing a pattern in the way they prioritize stuff over substance. 

I had this friend once who seemed to have a radar for the newest, flashiest things on the market. It didn’t matter if it was the latest iPhone, a designer handbag, or a sleek car – they were on a perpetual quest for the upgrade.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing inherently wrong with enjoying nice things. But when it feels like possessions are running the show, it raises some flags.  

7) They’re not interested in self-improvement

Okay, let’s get real here. Another indication that you’re dealing with a superficial person? They show no interest in personal growth or self-improvement.

These folks are often satisfied with the status quo and aren’t bothered about developing their skills or expanding their knowledge. They don’t see the need for self-reflection or introspection and are generally resistant to change.

Why? Because growth is hard. It requires us to step out of our comfort zones. And let’s be honest, it’s far easier to stay in the shallow end than to dive into the deep waters of personal development.

8) They jump from trend to trend

Superficial people often hop from one trend to another without really investing time or effort into understanding the value or history behind these trends.

Fashion, music, fitness, you name it – they’re quick to jump on the bandwagon of whatever’s hot. But here’s the kicker: as soon as that trend cools off, so does their interest.

Now, while it’s fine to enjoy trends, constantly chasing after what’s popular without developing your own tastes and opinions can be a sign of superficial behavior.

9) They crave attention

From my own experiences, I’ve noticed that deeply superficial people often have an insatiable craving for attention. They love being in the spotlight and can go to great lengths to ensure they’re always the center of attention.

I recall a former colleague who would always find a way to turn every conversation back to herself.

Whether it was interrupting someone else’s story to share her own ‘more interesting’ version or constantly bragging about her achievements, it was clear that she thrived on being noticed.

While it’s natural to want recognition and appreciation, constantly seeking validation and attention from others can be a sign of superficiality.

It often indicates a lack of self-confidence and an inability to find contentment within oneself.

10) They’re judgmental

Let’s be brutally honest here: superficial people tend to be judgmental.

They often form opinions about others based on surface-level factors such as appearance, wealth, or social status, without bothering to understand the person beneath these superficial traits.

Thing is, this snap-judgment habit usually springs from their own deep-seated insecurities. All that judgment says more about them than the folks they’re sizing up.

11) They lack authentic connections

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, superficial people often lack genuine relationships. Their interactions tend to be surface-level, with little emotional intimacy or deep connection.

Why? Because real relationships require vulnerability, understanding, empathy – things that go far beyond the surface.

Superficial people often struggle with this depth of connection because it requires them to reveal their authentic selves, warts and all.

Remember, we all deserve relationships where we’re seen, understood, and loved for who we truly are – not just our surface-level identities.

Unmasking superficiality: Why spotting the depthless matters

In a world where looks often steal the spotlight from what truly matters, spotting a deeply superficial person is crucial.

These folks are pros at hiding their lack of depth behind a facade of materialism or trend-chasing, which can seriously mess with real connections and personal growth.

By quickly sizing others up based on appearances or passing trends, they keep feeding into a culture that values surface over substance.

Spotting these types isn’t just about protecting your own vibe and relationships—it’s about building a world where realness, understanding, and genuine connections take center stage.