Have you ever found yourself lying awake at night, replaying old memories with an ex and wondering if he still has feelings for you?

It’s a question I get a lot—does a man truly let go, or do some feelings remain long after you’ve both gone your separate ways?

In my experience, love can be a tricky emotion. It doesn’t always fade just because you’re no longer a couple.

And while every situation is unique, there are certain telltale signs, backed by psychology, that a man’s love for you is still very much alive—even if you’re no longer together.

Let’s dive into these 10 signs.

1) He stays in touch consistently

Some men cut all contact after a breakup. Others, however, keep texting, calling, or popping up on your social media.

When he consistently checks in, asks about your day, or shares random updates from his life, it could be a sign he cares more than he’s letting on.

From a psychological perspective, our brains crave the presence (even digitally) of those we truly love.

If he’s initiating contact—especially when there’s no obvious reason—he might be missing that emotional connection you once shared.

I’ve seen this play out with a buddy of mine who got divorced but couldn’t stop messaging his ex.

At first, it seemed like mere habit, but over time, it was clear he was still emotionally invested.

Consistency in communication often reflects an enduring emotional bond.

2) He reminisces about the past

Ever had a conversation with your ex where he brings up an old inside joke or a special moment you two shared?

Nostalgia is a powerful force.

According to psychologists, reminiscing is a way to reconnect with positive feelings tied to a person or situation.

If he’s revisiting good memories with you, chances are you’ve occupied a big space in his thoughts.

It’s like he’s trying to keep those moments alive.

And if those memories bring him comfort or joy, it’s a clue that his love for you still lingers beneath the surface.

3) He asks about your well-being (through friends or family)

Sometimes, pride gets in the way of a direct approach, so a man might check on you indirectly—through mutual friends, siblings, or even social media comments.

I once had an ex who would randomly ask my sister how I was doing.

She’d never tell me in the moment, but eventually it slipped out.

From a psychological standpoint, this behavior is rooted in genuine concern.

He might not feel comfortable reaching out directly (maybe too many unresolved feelings), but he still wants to make sure you’re all right.

That level of care often indicates that his emotions haven’t fully faded.

4) He shows genuine excitement for your achievements

Picture this: you share on social media that you’ve been promoted, started your own business, or accomplished a personal goal.

Out of nowhere, he likes the post, comments with supportive words, or sends you a heartfelt message.

Could be he’s just being nice. But often, this is a sign that he still feels a connection.

Psychologists frequently note that when we celebrate someone’s achievements wholeheartedly, it implies a deeper level of affection.

We’re happy for them because their happiness matters to us.

If he’s going out of his way to cheer you on—when there’s really nothing in it for him—chances are, his care for you remains strong.

5) He can’t move on easily

I’ve mentioned this before but it’s worth repeating: sometimes, the biggest sign a man still loves you is his inability to fully commit to someone else.

I’m not talking about rebounds or casual dating. I mean serious relationships that fall apart because he keeps comparing new partners to you.

This can manifest in subtle ways—he might bring you up in casual conversation or mention how certain habits of a new partner differ from yours.

While everyone has their own breakup timeline, consistent mentions of you in a new relationship might indicate unresolved feelings.

When a bond runs deep, our brains struggle to form a new attachment that feels as intense.

The comparison game often reveals a lingering sense of “No one quite measures up to what I had before.”

6) He offers unsolicited emotional support

Does he randomly text you, saying something like, “I’m here if you ever need to talk”?

Offering emotional support without being asked is a big sign that he still feels protective and caring toward you.

Many relationship experts point out that one hallmark of enduring love is the desire to be present for someone’s emotional highs and lows—even from a distance.

By making himself available in this way, he’s showing that your well-being still matters to him.

And often, men aren’t socialized to express their emotions as readily.

So when they do step up to offer that support—especially post-breakup—there’s usually a deeper emotional undercurrent at play.

7) He struggles to hide jealousy

I know jealousy isn’t the healthiest emotion, but it’s a very human one.

If he gets weirdly silent or outwardly irritated when you talk about a new date or post a photo with someone else, you might be witnessing a flash of unresolved feelings.

“As Epictetus once said, ‘What upsets people is not things themselves but their judgments about these things.’”

If he’s imagining scenarios where he loses any possible future with you, that jealousy might stem from a place of enduring love.

He’s not over you, and the idea of you moving on triggers an emotional response he might not even fully understand.

8) He still shares personal milestones

You know how some people go dark on social media or never mention personal changes in conversation with an ex?

But if he openly shares big life updates—whether it’s getting a new job, moving to a new city, or even adopting a pet—he’s letting you in on his life.

Why?

Because he values your input and wants you to be part of his story.

It’s a way of maintaining a deeper connection.

When we make a conscious effort to keep someone updated about our life journey, we’re inviting them to stay involved.

And we generally only do that for people who still hold significant emotional importance.

9) He respects your boundaries but remains attentive

Some breakups come with a mutual agreement to give each other space.

If he can respect that and not overstep—while still being there when you truly need him—it can be a sign of mature, lasting love.

It’s the balance between caring for someone’s feelings and not inserting yourself into their life uninvited.

That’s a form of love that’s more subtle but no less powerful.

A man who’s truly over you might just move on without a second thought.

But a man who remains attentive—and shows he’s there for you, albeit from a distance—often carries a torch for you, even if it’s unspoken.

10) He openly admits he cares

Sometimes, the simplest sign is the most direct one: he tells you he still cares or still loves you.

It might come out in a moment of vulnerability—after a few drinks, during a deep conversation, or when life throws a crisis your way.

Admitting lingering love can be scary, especially when you’re no longer together.

It requires humility and the willingness to face potential rejection.

If he’s bold enough to say it, that suggests he means it.

Many men would rather keep quiet than open themselves up to that kind of vulnerability.

If he’s laying his cards on the table, it’s usually the real deal.

Rounding things off

If you’ve spotted some of these signs in your ex, you might be dealing with a man who still loves you on some level.

That doesn’t necessarily mean you should jump right back into a relationship.

Sometimes love lingers but the circumstances aren’t right.

The important thing is to recognize these behaviors for what they are: emotional signals that he continues to care deeply.

If you suspect he still loves you and you’re open to exploring that possibility, consider having a genuine conversation.

It might lead to reconciliation, closure, or simply a clearer view of where you both stand.

Whatever happens, remember that your worth isn’t defined by who loves you or doesn’t.

You have the power to shape your own story, whether he’s just a chapter or remains part of the entire book.