Being an introvert in a world that can’t stop talking is tough. While we cherish our alone time, there are certain social situations that we dread to our core.

Psychology explains these discomforts; it’s not that we despise social interaction, but rather, we’re drained by certain types. Nine types, to be exact.

In this article, I am going to share with you these 9 types of social situations that introverts like me avoid at all costs. So, if you’ve ever wondered why we might turn down an invite or two, keep reading.

1) Networking events

Networking events can be a nightmare for introverts.

These events, by their very nature, require us to mingle, make small talk and generally engage in a level of social interaction that can be mentally exhausting.

Psychology explains this discomfort. Unlike extroverts, who gain energy from interacting with others, introverts expend energy during social situations. A networking event, filled with strangers and requiring constant interaction, can quickly drain an introvert’s energy reserves.

So, if you’re planning to invite an introverted friend to your next networking event, don’t take it personally if they decline. They’re likely just conserving their energy for more meaningful, one-on-one conversations.

2) Surprise parties

Oh, the dreaded surprise party.

Last year, my friends threw me a surprise birthday party. They thought it was the best way to show their love and appreciation.

But the moment I walked through that door into a room filled with people shouting “Surprise!”, I felt my heart rate spike and my palms start to sweat. It wasn’t joy or excitement I felt, but pure anxiety.

Having to instantly engage in conversation, respond to birthday wishes, and be at the center of attention was overwhelming. As an introvert, I prefer intimate celebrations with close friends or family, where the interaction is more meaningful and less draining.

Surprise parties are definitely on the list of social situations we introverts would rather avoid.

3) Crowded public places

Introverts often feel overwhelmed in crowded public places, like shopping malls, festivals, or busy restaurants.

The reason for this is rooted in how our brains process information. According to a study, introverts have a higher level of brain activity in response to external stimulation. This means that busy environments can quickly lead to sensory overload, making us feel stressed and anxious.

So, don’t be surprised if your introverted friend suggests a quiet coffee shop for your catch-up instead of the bustling city centre eatery. It’s not about being antisocial; it’s about managing our energy levels and comfort.

4) Group projects

Group projects can be a source of anxiety for many introverts.

Having to constantly collaborate, discuss ideas, and reach a consensus can be quite draining. We introverts thrive in solitude and often produce our best work when we’re given the space to think and create independently.

Even in a work setting, we might prefer to take on tasks that allow us to work alone. It’s not that we can’t work in teams or lack team spirit, it’s just that our creativity and productivity often flourish in a solo environment.

Don’t mistake our preference for solitary work as aloofness. We’re simply playing to our strengths.

5) Unplanned socializing

For introverts, unplanned socializing can be a real energy zapper.

We value our alone time and often schedule it into our daily routines. So, when an unexpected visitor shows up, or a friend calls for a last-minute get-together, it can throw us off balance.

This is not because we are antisocial or don’t appreciate spontaneity. Rather, we need time to mentally prepare for social interactions.

It’s all about balance. While we enjoy company and meaningful conversations, we also need our alone time to recharge. Respecting this need can make a world of difference in an introvert’s life.

6) Large family gatherings

Large family gatherings, although filled with love and familiarity, can be quite overwhelming for introverts.

Picture this: A room buzzing with animated conversations, kids running around, multiple conversations to keep up with – it’s a lot to process. Even though we’re among loved ones, the sheer energy and volume of interactions can be draining.

We cherish our relationships deeply, and we absolutely love our families. But the intensity of large gatherings often leaves us seeking a quiet corner or an early exit. It’s not about avoiding family; it’s about preserving our emotional well-being. Sometimes, a quiet dinner with our parents or a one-on-one chat with grandpa is more our speed.

7) Public speaking

Public speaking can be daunting for anyone, but it sends a particular shiver down the spine of us introverts.

I remember standing on a stage once, looking out at an audience of expectant faces. The spotlight felt too bright, the silence too loud, and the expectation too heavy. I felt exposed and vulnerable, like a deer caught in headlights.

While we introverts can articulate our thoughts well in writing or one-on-one discussions, standing on a stage to deliver a speech is a different ball game. It’s not about competence or knowledge; it’s about the intensity of the spotlight that can sometimes feel like too much to handle.

8) Open office spaces

Open office spaces, designed to encourage collaboration and communication, can often be a challenge for introverts.

The constant buzz of conversation, the lack of personal space, and the frequent interruptions can make it difficult for us to focus and be productive.

We’re not being grumpy or unsociable. It’s just that our brains tend to be more sensitive to distractions, and we often do our best work in quiet, solitary environments. So if you see us wearing headphones or seeking out a secluded corner, we’re just trying to create a mini sanctuary where we can concentrate and do our best work.

9) Forced participation

The most important thing to understand about introverts is our need for autonomy in social situations.

Forced participation, like mandatory team building exercises or icebreakers, puts us on the spot and can feel quite uncomfortable. It’s not that we don’t want to participate or contribute, but we prefer to do so on our own terms.

Respecting our boundaries and giving us the choice to participate can make a world of difference. We might just surprise you by stepping out of our comfort zone when we feel ready and comfortable to do so.