There’s something undeniably empowering about a woman who thrives in her independence.

She’s not waiting for a relationship to feel complete or fulfilled—she’s already living her best life on her own terms.

In a society that often places so much value on romantic relationships, seeing someone fully enjoy their singlehood is like a breath of fresh air.

These women possess certain qualities that allow them to embrace life solo, not as a waiting game, but as a time to grow, explore, and be their true selves.

I’m Jeanette Brown, and as the creator of Reset Your Life Compass and a Life Transition coach, I’ve had the privilege of working with many such women.

And I’ve noticed some common traits among them.

Without further ado, let’s delve into these 9 distinctive qualities often found in women who truly love being single.

1) Embracing change

The first quality I’ve noticed in women who genuinely enjoy being single is their ability to embrace change.

They confront life’s unpredictability with a sense of adventure and curiosity, rather than fear.

These women understand that change is not only inevitable, but also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Think of it as setting sail on an open sea.

Sure, the waves may be daunting at times, but those who truly relish their independence are the ones who are able to navigate their way through the choppy waters to a more fulfilling life.

They don’t shirk from challenges or shy away from new experiences.

Instead, they seize these as opportunities to learn more about themselves and the world around them.

That’s why they find it easy to:

• Adapt to new circumstances
• Actively seek out opportunities for growth
• Embrace the journey of self-discovery that comes with it

And that’s a quality we can all aspire to, whether we’re single or not.

2) Understanding self and core values

Another quality that stands out in women who enjoy their single status is a deep understanding of themselves and their core values.

It reminds me of a quote from Oscar Wilde, who once said, “To thine own self be true.”

These women epitomize this sentiment.

They have taken the time to do the introspective work necessary to understand who they are at their core.

Personally, as a Life Transition coach, I’ve seen how transformative this journey of self-discovery can be.

When you understand your core values, it becomes easier to make decisions that align with who you are and what you stand for.

That’s why I’ve created the Defining Your Values Exercise.

It’s a tool designed to help you uncover your own unique set of values.

Women who love being single usually have a clear understanding of their values and use them as a compass guiding their life decisions.

This clarity gives them an incredible sense of self-assurance and independence.

3) Goal-oriented

The third quality that single women who love their independence often possess is the ability to set meaningful goals for themselves.

Let’s be honest here, it’s easy to get swept up in societal expectations or the goals of those around us.

It’s easier still to lose ourselves in a relationship, adopting our partner’s aims and ambitions as our own.

But women who enjoy being single are usually those who have taken the time to consider what they truly want from life.

They set their own goals – goals that are meaningful and fulfilling to them, irrespective of societal norms or expectations.

And most importantly, they pursue these goals with passion and perseverance, recognizing that their fulfillment lies in their own hands.

This is a powerful trait that reflects their confidence and self-assuredness.

After all, setting meaningful goals isn’t just about achieving certain milestones.

It’s about creating a life that resonates with who you truly are.

This brings me to the next point…

4) A sense of agency and responsibility

Women who relish their single status have an innate sense of agency over their own lives.

They aren’t waiting for someone else to chart their path or make decisions for them—they’re fully in the driver’s seat, steering their life in the direction that feels right for them.

This sense of self-direction gives them a deep sense of purpose and control, allowing them to chase their passions, explore new interests, and set personal goals without external influence.

When you have the freedom to live life on your own terms, there’s a kind of empowerment that comes with it.

These women make choices based on their own desires and values, not societal expectations or the fear of being alone.

Whether it’s pursuing a career, traveling, or simply enjoying their own company, they are confident in their ability to shape their lives the way they see fit.

This autonomy fuels their sense of fulfillment and makes singlehood a time of growth and exploration.

Let’s face it, life can sometimes feel like a raft adrift in a turbulent sea.

It’s easy to feel like we’re at the mercy of the waves, being tossed about without any control.

5) Strong sense of self-care

Women who thrive in their independence often have a deep commitment to self-care.

They understand that looking after themselves—physically, emotionally, and mentally—is not an indulgence, but a necessity.

For these women, being single provides the perfect opportunity to prioritize their well-being without compromise or guilt.

They don’t wait for someone else to nurture them; they make it their mission to nurture themselves.

This could mean anything from developing a regular fitness routine, indulging in their favorite hobbies, setting healthy boundaries, or simply taking time to rest and recharge.

They see self-care as an essential foundation for happiness and fulfillment.

By giving themselves the care they deserve, they cultivate resilience, balance, and a sense of inner peace that allows them to flourish solo.

6) Cultivating meaningful connections

Just because they enjoy their independence doesn’t mean women who love being single don’t value relationships.

In fact, they often cultivate deep, meaningful connections with friends, family, and their community.

These relationships are based on mutual respect, shared interests, and genuine connection, rather than a need for validation or companionship.

They understand the importance of having a strong support network and nurturing the bonds that matter to them.

The difference is that they aren’t relying on these relationships to complete them.

Instead, they see them as enriching their life, offering love and support without compromising their autonomy.

These women know how to balance the joy of being alone with the warmth of connection, making their relationships more intentional and fulfilling.

7) Embracing solitude

Speaking of being alone, it’s a common misconception that single women must be lonely.

Not at all. In fact, women who love being single actually embrace the solitude that comes with it.

Solitude gives them time to reflect, recharge, and reconnect with themselves. It’s a space where they can explore their thoughts, work on personal projects, or simply enjoy the peace and quiet.

Rather than seeing alone time as something to be avoided, these women view it as an opportunity to grow.

They’re comfortable with their own company and find joy in the freedom it brings.

Whether it’s spending a quiet evening with a good book, going on a solo adventure, or simply sitting in stillness, they know that solitude is not loneliness—it’s a gift.

And in embracing that gift, they discover a deeper sense of contentment and self-reliance.

8) Living with purpose

Friedrich Nietzsche once said, “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”

These women seem to embody this idea.

They live with a clear sense of purpose, a ‘why’ that guides their decisions, fuels their passion, and gives meaning to their lives.

Let’s get real here. Living without a purpose can feel like drifting aimlessly in the ocean.

But when you have a purpose, it’s like having a compass that always points you in the right direction.

It brings clarity, focus, and an inner drive that can propel you through life’s challenges and towards your dreams.

For more on this, I invite you to watch my video on Tips for finding your purpose in life.

Remember, your purpose is unique to you and discovering it could be the key to living a fulfilling and meaningful life.

9) Living authentically

Finally, women who truly enjoy being single are all about realness. 

Living authentically is about being true to oneself, even when it’s uncomfortable or goes against societal norms.

It’s about honoring your feelings, expressing your thoughts honestly, and making choices that resonate with your true self.

So despite what society says about needing a partner to feel fulfilled or the pressure to settle down, these women choose to honor their own journey.

They understand that happiness isn’t found in conforming to what’s expected but in embracing who they truly are.

They won’t compromise their values, desires, or dreams just to fit into someone else’s narrative.

By staying true to themselves, they create a life that is rich with meaning and purpose.

They are confident in their choices, whether it’s pursuing a passion, building a career, or simply enjoying life solo.

Ultimately, living authentically allows these women to enjoy their independence fully because they are living life on their own terms—without apology, and with full ownership of their happiness.

Final thoughts

These are not traits exclusive to single women.

They are qualities that each one of us can cultivate to live a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

If you’re keen on embarking on this journey of self-discovery and personal growth, I invite you to join my course, Reset Your Life Compass.

It’s designed to help you navigate life transitions, discover your purpose, and reset your life compass towards a more fulfilling journey.

Remember, whether you’re single or in a relationship, the key to happiness lies in living a life that is authentic to you.