Loneliness is a tricky emotion, often hiding behind unexpected masks. Women, in particular, can feel deeply lonely while keeping their emotions hidden behind a smile, a busy schedule, or a seemingly social lifestyle.

But loneliness leaves subtle clues. As a relationship expert, I’ve noticed seven behaviors that often go unnoticed. These are the telltale signs of a woman who feels deeply lonely but never shows it.

In this article, I’ll shed light on these subtle behaviors so you can better understand the silent struggle many women face.

In recognizing these signs, you might reach out and offer understanding to someone who’s carefully concealing their loneliness.

Let’s dive into it.

1) They’re always busy

You know that friend who’s always on the go, never having a moment to rest? That could be a sign of hidden loneliness.

Women who feel deeply lonely often keep themselves busy to distract from the emptiness they feel. It’s a protective mechanism, a way to avoid confronting the loneliness lurking within.

It can look like a jam-packed schedule, filled with work, social events, or endless chores. Or maybe it’s an inability to simply sit and relax, always needing to fill the silence with some form of activity.

Loneliness isn’t always about being physically alone. Sometimes, it’s about feeling disconnected even in a crowd. And keeping oneself constantly busy is one way women might hide their feelings of deep loneliness.

2) They’re the life of the party

Ironically, some of the women who feel the most lonely are the ones you’d least expect. They’re the life of the party, always laughing, telling stories, and making everyone around them feel at ease.

But this lively exterior often masks a deep inner loneliness. It’s a distraction, a facade they put up to hide their true feelings.

These women might seem to have it all—an active social life, lots of friends, and a vibrant personality. But beneath the surface, they might be grappling with a profound sense of isolation they never show.

Remember, loneliness isn’t just about being physically alone. Even in a room full of people, while making everyone else laugh and smile, a woman can still feel deeply lonely inside.

3) They’re overly self-reliant

A woman struggling with isolation might become extremely self-reliant. She’s the one who never asks for help and insists on doing everything herself.

This behavior often comes from a belief that she can’t rely on others or that showing vulnerability is a weakness. It’s a defense mechanism that keeps people at a distance, which only reinforces her feelings of isolation.

In my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve deeper into the concept of self-reliance and how it can sometimes become a barrier to forming meaningful connections with others.

In essence, excessive self-reliance can often mask loneliness, serving as a way to protect oneself from rejection or disappointment.

However, it’s important to remember that asking for help and leaning on others is perfectly okay. We’re all human, and we all need connection.

4) They’re always there for others

Often, the women who are always there for others are the ones who feel most alone.

They’re quick to offer support, lend a listening ear, or provide guidance to those in need. Yet, when it comes to their own struggles, they often keep them hidden, burying their loneliness beneath a facade of strength and care for others.

In my experience, I’ve noticed how easily this balance can shift. Many of us, especially women, have a tendency to prioritize the needs of others over our own. However, this can leave us feeling isolated and disconnected.

As Audrey Hepburn once said, “As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” This beautiful quote encapsulates the balance we all should strive for – taking care of ourselves while also being there for others.

5) They’re overly empathetic

Some women who feel deeply lonely might show an excess of empathy. They have a remarkable ability to connect with the emotions of others, often prioritizing everyone else’s feelings over their own.

While empathy is a beautiful quality, when it becomes excessive or a way to avoid dealing with personal emotions, it can indicate hidden loneliness.

I’ve observed this pattern in my own life and in the lives of many women I’ve encountered. We’re so attuned to others’ needs that we sometimes neglect our own. We understand everyone else’s pain but struggle to acknowledge or address our own.

Keep in mind: acknowledging and addressing our own feelings is just as important as understanding the emotions of others.

6) They seem detached from their own needs

Another sign of hidden loneliness in women is a detachment from personal needs. They might downplay their own desires or ignore them altogether, often putting the needs of others before their own.

This can be a way to avoid confronting feelings of loneliness. By focusing on others, they can distract themselves from the emptiness they feel inside.

As Virginia Woolf wisely said, “One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.” This quote serves as a poignant reminder that neglecting our own needs can impact every aspect of our lives, including our ability to connect with others.

In my journey, I’ve learned that acknowledging and addressing our own needs is not selfish. It’s necessary for our overall well-being and our ability to form meaningful relationships with others.

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7) They hide their true feelings

Finally, women who feel deeply lonely often become masters at hiding their true feelings. They might put on a brave face, always appear cheerful, and never let the cracks show.

This is often the hardest sign to spot because it’s intentionally hidden. It’s a mask, worn to protect themselves from judgment or pity, a wall built to keep others from seeing their vulnerability.

Being honest about our feelings can be scary. It opens us up to potential pain, rejection, or misunderstanding. But it also opens us up to deep connection, understanding, and love.

Hey, it’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to be vulnerable. And it’s okay to let others see that. Because in doing so, we allow them to show us empathy and understanding, and that’s the first step towards overcoming loneliness.

The power of connection

In my experience, addressing loneliness isn’t about finding a rapid solution. It’s about showing up, lending a listening ear, and creating a supportive environment for genuine conversations.

As Leonard Cohen wisely said, “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” It’s through acknowledging and understanding our feelings of loneliness that we allow the light of connection to seep in.

And in that spirit, I recommend this thoughtful video by Justin Brown, where he poignantly shares his experience of being single and lonely in a big city.

It resonates deeply with the themes we’ve been discussing in this article and offers valuable insights into navigating feelings of loneliness.

Remember, it’s okay to feel lonely. We are all intricately connected in this shared human experience, and it’s through these connections that we find solace and strength.