Is there anything as fabulous as a truly confident woman? 

And I’m not talking about the type of female ‘confidence’ that gets so much traction online and through media.  

Confident women are frequently put into categories based on jaded stereotypes like the sexy girl, the ambitious and successful career woman, and the altruistic feminist.  

But fitting into one of these categories doesn’t indicate true confidence. In fact, it says nothing at all about a woman’s level of self-assurance.  

A woman can be smart, stunning, and successful and still not feel good about yourself. 

She can appear to ‘have it all’ but be riddled with insecurities (something that doesn’t get highlighted enough, sadly). 

To discover if a woman is truly confident or not, we must look beyond her intelligence, accomplishments, attractiveness, physique, and lifestyle. 

We must look at what she does.  

Women who are truly confident in themselves usually display these 12 subtle behaviors. 

1) She states what she wants

There isn’t much more indicative of strong self-belief and determination than someone who is comfortable saying what they want.  

When a woman is direct about what she wants in a calm and undemanding way, it shows solid self-belief and self-worth. 

It also shows an assurance that if she is denied, she will be OK.  

So, whether it’s a promotion at work, exclusivity in a relationship, or setting personal boundaries with family, a truly confident woman won’t hesitate to make her feelings clear. 

Regardless of the outcome.  

2) She takes care of herself, for herself

Another subtle behavior of a truly confident woman is that she devotes time and energy into taking good care of herself. 

This means physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  

She respects herself so much that leaving her comfort zone and pushing herself to become a better version of herself comes naturally. 

And, importantly, she doesn’t do this to look better in yoga pants, keep her partner happy, or illicit admiration from others. 

She does it for herself.   

3) She isn’t afraid to appear foolish or vulnerable

As we’ve just established, a truly confident woman is on a mission to better herself.  

And this means pushing herself to learn and try new things all the time.  

And unlike someone who is more insecure in themselves, she won’t be afraid to be a beginner or to mess up.  

She will genuinely enjoy challenging herself and developing another skill.  

And the same goes for emotional vulnerability; she has the self-assurance to understand that we all have our vulnerabilities and that embracing them is the only way to overcome them. 

4) She is pursuing a definite goal

Another subtle behavior of truly confident woman is that she will be focused on realizing her goals.  

Her confidence will empower her to pursue her passion and dedicate herself to achieving whatever it is that she strives for. She won’t hesitate or procrastinate.  

She will be driven and purposeful but won’t bore others to tears talking about her dreams. 

Instead, she will focus on making them a reality.  

And, in turn, her ambition will grow her confidence further.  

5) She elevates other women (and people in general)

And because she is definite in the pursuit of her personal goals, she is happy to see others doing the same.

She’s not threatened by other’s success or good fortune. On the contrary, this is something a truly confident woman will celebrate in others.  

So, you won’t see this woman undermining other people’s achievements or gossiping.   

She will elevate those around her, giving them great support and sending positive vibes.  

And staying with being supportive and celebrating others… 

6) She isn’t threatened by attractive women

If a woman has true confidence in herself, she is infinitely nicer to other women.  

Particularly those who others may see as competition and dislike automatically as a result. 

But a confident woman is accepting of herself and comfortable in her own skin. 

She acknowledges the beauty in others as she acknowledges it in herself.  

And this means she won’t get defensive around attractive women or try to diminish them.  

And this is probably helped by the fact that… 

7) She is happy on her own

Alone time is a necessity for truly confident women.  

Because too much external noise can interfere with her focus, and she doesn’t need the outside world to reassure her.  

She is incredibly independent and content in her own company.  

She is likely a low profiler who keeps to herself for the most part.  

8) She gives herself the validation she needs

As we’ve said, she doesn’t rely on external assurance or validation! 

A truly confident woman relies on her own estimation of her self-worth. 

So, you definitely won’t see her posting selfies for likes and compliments.  

She doesn’t need or appreciate superficial attention.   

9) She doesn’t do frivolous relationships

And sticking with superficiality… 

Confident women don’t waste time on relationships that are going nowhere. 

Whether romantic or platonic, she only invests her time and energy into meaningful connections with similarly minded people.  

You won’t hear her complaining to friends about the guy she’s seeing disappearing for weeks at a time and then coming back into her life. 

She wouldn’t accept this sort of behavior.  

Not from lovers or from friends. 

So, her social group may not be bursting at the seams, but it will include people who are sound, grounded, and driven.  

And the relationships she does invest in will be real.  

10) She can (and does) laugh at herself

Nothing screams insecurity like someone who takes themselves super seriously.  

And a confident woman doesn’t. She is able and willing to laugh at herself when she’s being silly or messes up. 

Why? 

Because deep down she is sure of herself and knows that if she fails, it will be a good lesson.  

(Self-depreciation is totally normal, so long as it is in moderation.)  

Only an insecure woman would think they always have to appear perfect.   

11) She accepts compliments graciously

A truly confident woman doesn’t put all her self-worth into one basket. 

Whether it’s her career achievements, sporting prowess, beauty, or anything else, she won’t rely on one aspect of herself as currency.  

So, she won’t seek out compliments to validate her and bask in them when she receives them. 

But nor will she struggle to accept them when they are given. 

Her innate self-esteem will make her comfortable accepting praise she didn’t seek out.  

12) She is modest

Finally, and not too far removed from accepting compliments with grace… 

A truly confident woman is modest.  

She isn’t likely to bang on about herself or tell stories showing how great she is.  

Because she doesn’t need this sort of attention and would be uncomfortable getting it.  

She is more likely to deflect attention and focus on others.  

Her humility demands it. 

Final thoughts  

Truly confident women live for themselves, they don’t have anything to prove to anyone.  

They are self-reliant and know and love who they are.  

This enables them to make the best of their lives, and they always do! 

If you’re interested in developing genuine self-confidence, check out this article.