Ever found yourself feeling utterly drained after spending time with certain women? You’re not alone.

These energy-sapping encounters often stem from behaviors that fly under the radar. 

From incessant chatter to subtle yet constant demands for attention, these habits can leave you feeling like you’ve run a marathon with no finish line in sight. 

But here’s the kicker: most of these women aren’t even aware of the toll they take on those around them.

In this article, we’ll dive into seven common behaviors that make some women exhausting to be around.

1) Constant negativity

In social circles, constant negativity is a real energy sucker.

We’ve all crossed paths with them—those folks who seem to carry a storm cloud wherever they go.

Their talks are a parade of complaints, problems, and gloomy outlooks.

This habit can be a real drain on those around them, casting a shadow over the mood and vibe of any gathering.

What’s interesting is that many of these women may not even realize they’re doing it.

It becomes second nature, a way of engaging with the world that they might not recognize as negative.

Sure, we all have our off days and moments of negativity.

But when it’s a constant theme, it can really take a toll on those in their orbit.

2) Over-apologizing

Now, this might seem contradictory. Isn’t it polite to say sorry?

Absolutely, but here’s the twist.

Over-apologizing, tossing out “sorry” when it’s not warranted, can quietly drain those around you.

Why? Well, each unnecessary apology places an emotional load on the listener.

Every time we hear it, we instinctively feel the need to comfort or reassure the apologizer with a “It’s fine,” or “No worries.”

This cycle can create a dynamic where others constantly feel compelled to absolve them of any guilt or fault, even for minor slip-ups.

It becomes exhausting over time.

Simply being mindful of this tendency and swapping out “I’m sorry” for more empowering language can significantly reduce the unintentional strain caused by over-apologizing.

3) Codependency

This behavior often slips under the radar, but it can be exhausting for both parties involved. I’m talking about codependency.

Codependency, by definition, is excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, often driven by a need for approval or validation.

It can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics and put a lot of pressure on both individuals.

Here’s the kicker – many women who exhibit codependent behaviors aren’t even aware they’re doing it.

It’s an unconscious pattern that can be tricky to recognize and even harder to break.

For those interested in diving deeper into this subject and learning how to overcome these patterns, I’ve written about it extensively in my book.

It’s called Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship – highly recommended if you’re dealing with this issue or simply want to understand it better.

But remember, recognizing codependent behavior is the first step towards breaking the cycle and fostering healthier relationships.

4) Emotional dumping

Emotional dumping can be downright exhausting.

It happens when someone unloads their emotions or problems onto others without considering if the listener is ready or able to handle it.

Sure, sharing our problems with friends and loved ones is natural.

After all, that’s what human connection is all about—sharing life’s ups and downs.

But when it turns into a one-sided torrent of emotional dumping, it can leave the listener feeling overwhelmed and drained.

From my own experience, I’ve learned that setting boundaries and promoting healthy communication can make a world of difference in these situations.

Hence, when it comes to emotional dumping, be mindful of the impact your words might have.

It’s not just about what you say, but how and when you say it.

5) Constantly seeking attention

Constantly seeking attention can really take a toll.

Sure, we all crave acknowledgment and connection, but there’s a fine line between healthy interaction and attention-seeking.

Women who always demand attention often do so because of underlying insecurities or a need for validation.

This can be exhausting for those around them, requiring constant engagement and validation.

I remember dealing with a friend like this once.

It felt like being stuck on a never-ending stage performance, which can be draining.

Keep in mind: this behavior often stems from deeper issues of self-esteem and self-worth.

It’s not about pointing fingers; it’s about understanding these patterns and promoting healthier ways of communication and validation.

6) Lack of empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It’s a crucial element of any healthy relationship.

However, when someone lacks this trait, it can be incredibly draining for those around them.

Encountering a lack of empathy can feel like talking to a brick wall.

It’s as if your feelings and experiences are being dismissed or ignored.

I’ve experienced this firsthand, and I can tell you it’s frustrating, to say the least. It can leave you feeling unheard and unimportant.

As the famous author Stephen R. Covey once said, “When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it.”

This is the power of empathy.

If you notice a lack of empathy in someone close to you, try addressing it openly and honestly.

Remember, it’s not about attacking them, but about fostering understanding and healthier communication.

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7) Dishonesty

Let’s dive into something raw and uncomfortable: dishonesty.

Dishonesty isn’t always blatant falsehoods. It can be as subtle as regular white lies or withholding information.

But regardless of its form, it carries a heavy emotional burden for those affected.

Here’s the thing: dishonesty often springs from fear—fear of judgment, conflict, or disappointing others.

But in evading these fears, one can inadvertently drain and harm those around them.

Confronting dishonesty isn’t easy, but it’s essential for nurturing healthy relationships.

After all, honesty isn’t just about speaking the truth—it’s about being genuine with yourself and those you care about.

Understanding for change

Acknowledging that these draining behaviors often stem from unconscious habits is the initial step toward cultivating healthier interactions and relationships.

In my experience as a relationship expert, I’ve witnessed the remarkable impact of awareness and empathy.

They can transform exhausting encounters into opportunities for personal growth and deeper connection.

If you resonate with any of these behaviors, know that self-awareness is a potent catalyst for change.

And remember, we’re all on this journey together, evolving and learning with each passing day.

For further exploration of the themes we’ve discussed, I recommend watching Justin Brown’s insightful video titled “The Illusion of Happiness: Why Chasing It Makes You Miserable.”

It offers a fresh perspective on our pursuit of happiness, tying back to our conversation on draining behaviors.

Remember, every step towards understanding brings us closer to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.