Have you ever found yourself feeling utterly drained after spending time with someone, without fully understanding why?

My guess is, you’ve probably encountered a person who unknowingly exhibits behaviors that can be emotionally taxing for those around them. 

In this article, let’s check out the 7 common behaviors that women might display, often unintentionally, but which can leave others feeling emotionally drained in their wake. 

1) Constant negativity

There’s a big difference between sharing your troubles with a friend and turning every conversation into a venting session. Constant negativity can be overwhelming and exhausting for those on the receiving end.

This behavior is often accompanied by a lack of accountability. Everything is always someone else’s fault or due to circumstances beyond their control. They never seem to take responsibility for their own actions or mistakes.

The problem with this is, it creates a cycle of negativity that’s hard to break free from. The more negative they are, the more problems they encounter, which leads to more negativity, and so on.

2) Excessive agreeability

Surprisingly, being excessively agreeable can be a draining behavior. At first glance, it might seem like a positive trait. After all, who doesn’t like someone who is always agreeable and never causes conflict?

However, when a woman never voices her own opinion and just goes along with everything, it can be both frustrating and exhausting.

It’s hard to build a meaningful relationship with someone who doesn’t contribute their own thoughts or feelings. It’s like trying to interact with a mirror; all you see is your own reflection.

Also, it may lead those around them to question the authenticity of their agreement. It could feel like they’re just saying what they think you want to hear, rather than expressing their true feelings.

3) Codependency

Another emotionally draining behavior can be codependency. This is when a woman’s happiness and self-worth are tied too closely to her relationships.

It’s not uncommon for people to lean on their loved ones for support, but when it crosses into codependency, it becomes a problem. The other person starts to feel more like a lifeline than a partner or friend.

This can put an immense amount of pressure on the relationship. The other person may start to feel like they’re walking on eggshells, always trying to keep the peace and avoid conflict.

In my own journey, I’ve seen how destructive this pattern can be. It’s a difficult cycle to break free from and often requires deep self-reflection and personal work.

In fact, I’ve dedicated an entire section of my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship to understanding and overcoming codependency. It’s worth checking out if this behavior resonates with your experience.

But remember, recognizing codependency is the first step towards healing. So don’t be too hard on yourself if you’re noticing these traits within you. Change is possible!

4) Lack of boundaries

Boundaries matter.

They define where you end and others begin, keeping relationships balanced and respectful. But some women who drain emotionally? They struggle with boundaries big time.

Imagine this: They’re all up in your business, prying into your personal stuff or oversharing theirs. It’s like there’s no line between your life and theirs, and it can suffocate you with frustration.

Keep in mind: setting boundaries isn’t about pushing people away—it’s about honoring yourself.

5) Emotional volatility

We’ve all ridden the emotional rollercoaster of life—it’s just part of the human experience. But when those ups and downs turn into full-blown loops and twists, it’s a whole different story.

Let’s talk about emotionally volatile women. One minute they’re your best buddy, and the next, they’re ready to blow like a volcano. It’s like tiptoeing through a minefield, never knowing what’ll set them off.

Trust me, I’ve been there. Dealing with these folks is like strapping yourself into a roller coaster that forgot the brakes.

But here’s the kicker: It’s not personal. Most of the time, their emotional chaos comes from some deep-rooted stuff. They’re not out to make your life harder—they’re just wrestling with their own demons.

6) Victim mentality

Playing the victim is another emotionally draining behavior that can be hard to deal with. It’s when a woman constantly portrays herself as a victim, no matter the situation.

Instead of taking responsibility for her actions, she always finds someone or something else to blame. This behavior can create a toxic environment where it’s impossible to have a productive conversation or resolve conflicts.

As someone who has encountered this in both personal and professional settings, I’ve learned that dealing with a victim mentality requires patience and firmness. You can’t let yourself be drawn into their narrative of always being the victim.

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7) Emotional unavailability

The last behavior I want to touch on is emotional unavailability. This is a tough one to grapple with, and it’s often misunderstood.

Picture this: A woman who keeps her feelings locked up tight, avoiding any hint of vulnerability. It’s like there’s an invisible fortress around her heart, and no one’s got the key.

Now, imagine being in a relationship with someone like that. You’re pouring your heart out, but it feels like you’re talking to a brick wall. It’s draining, like you’re giving everything and getting nothing in return.

But here’s the raw deal: It’s not about you. Emotional unavailability? It’s a shield, a way to protect themselves from past hurts. It’s their story, not yours.

Unlock growth: Confront, change, thrive!

We all carry our emotional baggage and quirks—it’s part of being human. But here’s the deal: Acknowledging these behaviors, understanding their impact, and being open to self-improvement is where the magic happens.

In my own experience, I’ve learned that real growth occurs when we confront these behaviors head-on and commit to making positive changes. Yeah, it’s a challenge, but the payoff? It’s huge—think healthier relationships, improved communication, and a more satisfying life overall.

Now, for those of you grappling with emotionally draining people, here’s a reminder: Set those boundaries and prioritize your mental well-being. It’s totally okay to step back when things become overwhelming.

And hey, if you’re keen on diving deeper into this topic, I’d highly recommend checking out this eye-opening video by Justin Brown. He dives into the complexities of finding a life partner and shares some invaluable insights that could help you navigate your own journey.

In the end, remember this – relationships are a two-way street. They require effort, understanding, and compassion from both sides. As we continue to learn and grow, let’s strive to be better – for ourselves and for those we share our lives with.