As an introvert, I often get misunderstood. People think I’m antisocial or shy. Others think I’m not interested in getting to know them.

The reality is that introverts like me have unique habits and behaviors that don’t always make sense to more extroverted people. This disconnect can lead to plenty of misconceptions.

So, I’d like to set the record straight and delve into 8 unique things that introverts do, which might seem odd at first but are just part of our way of navigating the world.

Let’s dive in. 

1) Choosing solitude

Solitude is often my sanctuary. But for others, it’s a mystery.

When I prefer my own company over a crowd, it’s not because I dislike people or because I’m antisocial. It’s simply that as an introvert, I recharge differently.

I find comfort and energy in my alone time, in the quiet moments where I can be with my thoughts, my book, or my music. This is where I gather my strength, only to be misunderstood as aloofness or indifference.

But that’s okay. Because if you’re an introvert like me, you know that our love for solitude is our unique way of self-care.

2) Being quiet in groups

As an introvert, I often find myself quiet in groups. Not because I have nothing to say, but because I enjoy observing and listening more than talking.

People who don’t really know me misunderstand this and think I’m either bored or I don’t want to be there. But that’s not the case at all. 

In those moments of silence, I’m not disengaged. Instead, I’m taking in the atmosphere, processing the conversations around me, and formulating thoughtful responses.

It’s not about being standoffish or uninterested, it’s about engaging in a deeper, more meaningful way.

3) Thinking before speaking

Introverts have a tendency to think before speaking. This isn’t because we’re slow or hesitant. It’s because our brains are wired differently.

Research suggests that introverts often take longer to respond because they’re actually processing information more deeply than extroverts. We’re considering every angle, every potential outcome, before we let our words out into the world.

This thoughtful approach may come across as hesitance or uncertainty, but in reality, it’s a sign of careful consideration and respect for the conversation at hand.

4) Preferring one-on-one conversations

As an introvert, I have a knack for one-on-one conversations. It’s not that I shy away from group discussions, but there’s something special about individual dialogues.

With our limited social battery and sensitivity to stimuli, we feel more comfortable with one-on-one conversations.

Plus, in a one-on-one setting, the conversation becomes more personal, more meaningful. It allows for a deeper connection, a chance to understand the other person in a way that’s simply not possible in larger groups.

While this preference may be mistaken for being antisocial, it’s actually our way of building authentic and meaningful relationships. 

This brings me to the next point…

5) Valuing quality over quantity

When it comes to friendships, I’ve always preferred quality over quantity. This isn’t me being selective or picky. It’s simply that as an introvert, I value deeper connections.

You see, I would rather have a few close friends who truly understand me than a large group of acquaintances. These are the friendships that stand the test of time, where you can be your authentic self without fear of judgement.

People might perceive this as being aloof or distant, but in reality, it’s just about being true to myself and valuing genuine connections.

6) Enjoying public speaking

Now, this might seem contradictory. An introvert who enjoys public speaking? But let me explain.

As an introvert, I find comfort in prepared situations. Public speaking, contrary to popular belief, provides that. It’s a controlled environment where I know what I’m going to say and when I’m going to say it.

While the spotlight might seem intimidating, it actually allows me to express my thoughts without the interruptions or diversions that can come with group discussions.

The thing you need to remember about introverts is that they are also capable of doing extrovert-type of activities, even more so if they are given the time to plan and prepare. 

So yes, despite the solitude-loving stereotype, many introverts can and do thrive on stage.

7) Finding small talk exhausting

As an introvert, I find small talk draining. It’s not that I don’t appreciate a good chat about the weather or the latest sports game. But small talk often feels superficial and can leave me feeling disconnected.

I thrive on deeper conversations that touch on ideas, experiences, and personal passions. These discussions energize me, make me feel connected and understood.

While this might be misunderstood as being disinterested or dismissive of others, it’s really about seeking meaningful connections and conversations.

8) Needing time to recharge

The most vital thing you should know about introverts is our need for downtime to recharge. It’s not about being antisocial or disliking people. It’s about maintaining our mental and emotional health.

Just like how a car needs to refuel after a long journey, introverts need time to replenish our energy after social interactions. 

This need for solitude can often be misunderstood as withdrawal or disinterest, but in reality, it’s quite the opposite. We value our relationships deeply, cherishing quality over quantity.

Our withdrawal is simply a pause, a necessary solitude that enables us to engage more fully when we do choose to connect. It’s an essential part of our well-being, not a slight to our friends or colleagues.

Final thoughts 

Introversion isn’t really a big deal once you understand that it’s just a different way of experiencing and interacting with the world around us.

Being an introvert is about valuing depth over breadth, silence over noise, and solitude over constant company. It’s about taking the time to process, reflect, and recharge in our own unique way.

So next time you encounter an introvert, remember these unique traits and what they actually mean.

And if you’re an introvert yourself, take pride in your qualities. They make you who you are — a thoughtful, observant, and deeply empathetic individual.

In a world that’s full of noise and chaos, you are definitely a valuable presence.