8 types of women that are difficult to be in a relationship with, according to psychology

Clifton Kopp by Clifton Kopp | November 20, 2024, 12:45 pm

Every relationship has its ups and downs, but some challenges go beyond the usual disagreements.

According to psychologists, certain personality traits can create persistent friction, making a relationship feel more like a battlefield than a partnership.

While no one is perfect, recognizing these traits can help couples navigate the issues more effectively or understand when it’s time to set boundaries.

This article explores eight types of women who, due to specific behavioral tendencies, may make relationships especially difficult—and offers insight into how partners can manage these challenges.

Let’s dive in:

1) The perpetual victim

We’ve all come across this type of woman at some point in our lives, haven’t we?

She always seems to be at the receiving end of life’s harshest blows.

Everything that goes wrong is someone else’s fault, and she’s just an innocent bystander caught in the crossfire.

You may have started the relationship with the noble intention of being her knight in shining armor, coming to her rescue every time.

But over time, you realize that nothing you do is ever enough. She is always the victim, and you’re left feeling drained and frustrated.

You see, being in a relationship with a perpetual victim can be emotionally exhausting.

It can feel like you’re in a constant state of crisis, always trying to put out fires instead of building something beautiful together.

2) The controlling type

We’ve all heard of this one, right?

She needs to have a say in everything you do, the clothes you wear, the people you hang out with, even the food you eat.

In my case, I had a girlfriend who would constantly check my phone, demand to know where I was at all times and criticize me for spending time with my friends.

She was always quick to point out my flaws and never missed an opportunity to tell me how I could be better.

At first, I thought it was because she cared about me and wanted the best for me.

But as time passed, I realized that her need for control was actually about her own insecurities.

She wasn’t trying to help me; she was trying to control me.

Being in a relationship with a controlling woman can be suffocating and emotionally damaging.

You start losing your sense of self and your freedom feels compromised.

Psychology warns us about this type of behavior as it can lead to emotional abuse in the relationship.

3) The overly dependent

Albert Einstein once said, “I am thankful to all those who said no to me. It’s because of them I did it myself.”

This quote rings especially true when dealing with overly dependent women in a relationship.

She expects you to solve all her problems, be it big or small.

She relies on you for her happiness and emotional stability.

In my life, I’ve observed a few such relationships where the woman is so emotionally dependent on her partner that it becomes suffocating for him.

At first, it may feel flattering that someone needs you so much.

But over time, carrying the emotional burden of another person can become draining and unhealthy.

Psychology tells us that such dependency often stems from low self-esteem and fear of abandonment.

Being in a relationship with an overly dependent woman can prevent both parties from growing as individuals.

4) The constant critic

Did you know that criticism is one of the most common reasons people end relationships?

It’s true.

The constant critic is a type of woman who always finds fault in everything you do.

Nothing is ever good enough for her, and she’s quick to point out your mistakes and shortcomings.

At first, it may seem like she’s just trying to help you improve, but constant criticism can erode your self-esteem over time.

I’ve seen relationships where the man constantly feels inadequate and starts doubting his abilities due to constant criticism.

A relationship should be about support, understanding, and growth.

5) The extreme flirter

You may have noticed this type of woman who seems to be always flirting, even when you’re right there with her.

She’s charming and charismatic, and everyone seems to gravitate towards her.

In the beginning, you might find it flattering that other guys are jealous of you.

But over time, her constant flirting can start to make you feel insecure.

You begin to wonder if she’s really committed to the relationship or just keeping her options open.

From my own experience, I’ve seen this type of behavior cause strain in relationships, leading to trust issues and a lot of unnecessary fights.

While a little flirting can be harmless, too much of it can be harmful to a relationship.

6) The emotionally unavailable

We’ve all heard about the emotionally unavailable man, but women can be just as emotionally distant, believe me.

She might seem perfect in every other way but when it comes to sharing feelings or discussing deeper issues, she’s always evasive.

In one of my past relationships, I felt like I was dating a wall.

No matter how much I tried to connect on a deeper level, it was always met with resistance or indifference.

This inability to connect emotionally can make you feel isolated and unloved.

7) The non-stop talker

Ever been in a relationship where you feel like you’re just a spectator in a one-woman show?

She talks non-stop, about her day, her friends, her job, her favorite TV show.

Don’t get me wrong, communication is crucial in a relationship.

But when it becomes one-sided, it can be overwhelming and exhausting.

In the past, I’ve been in a relationship with a woman who could talk for hours without taking a breath.

I rarely got a word in edgewise, and it often felt like my opinions and feelings weren’t valued.

Psychology tells us that excessive talking can be a sign of nervousness or insecurity.

It’s also possible that she’s just not aware of her behavior.

But the bottom line is, being in a relationship with a non-stop talker can make you feel unheard and unimportant.

8) The over-competitive

Ever felt like you’re in a constant competition with your partner?

She’s always trying to one-up you, be it in professional achievements, personal skills or even trivial matters.

I’ve been in a relationship where it felt more like a rivalry than a partnership.

Every conversation turned into a competition and it was exhausting.

This need to always be ‘the best’ can create an unhealthy dynamic in the relationship.

You may start feeling inadequate and this can take a toll on your self-esteem.

A relationship should be about mutual support and growth, not constant competition.

If you feel like your relationship has turned into a battleground, it might be time to take a step back and reassess.

Final thoughts

Recognizing these types of women can be a game-changer in your search for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

But remember, nobody’s perfect. We all have our quirks and flaws.

The key here is understanding and setting boundaries.

If you feel your partner’s behavior is crossing the line, causing you discomfort or straining the relationship, it’s time to have a frank conversation.

Think about what you want from a relationship.

Do you feel respected, loved and valued? Are your needs being met? Can you be your true self with her?

These are tough questions, but they are essential to ensure you’re in a healthy relationship that contributes positively to your life.