The art of relaxation and resting: 9 key learnings

Graeme Richards by Graeme Richards | April 16, 2024, 7:43 pm

There’s a fine line between just sitting around and truly relaxing.

The distinction? It’s all in the intentionality.

Merely sitting can be a passive act, while true relaxation requires active engagement in the process of rest.

In this hustle-bustle world, mastering the art of relaxation is more important than ever before. And trust me, there are certain key learnings that can help you unlock this art.

Here are some insights I’ve gathered along the way to help you embrace rest and relaxation in a whole new light.

Welcome to “The art of relaxation and resting: 9 key learnings”.

1) Understanding the importance of downtime

In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life.

And while being productive and efficient is important, so too is taking time for yourself. Often, we underestimate the power of rest and relaxation.

Enter the concept of downtime.

Downtime is the period when you’re not doing anything in particular. It’s when you allow your mind and body to rest and rejuvenate. It’s about disconnecting from the constant stream of information and tasks.

Think about it. It’s like letting your phone battery charge after it’s drained out.

When faced with a hectic schedule, we might be tempted to cut down on our downtime to squeeze in more tasks. But this approach often backfires, leading to burnout and decreased productivity.

So if you want to master the art of relaxation, it’s crucial to understand the importance of downtime.

But remember, it’s not just about knowing its importance but also about actively incorporating it into your daily routine.

2) Embracing mindfulness

We’ve all heard about mindfulness, right? But how many of us truly understand it?

Here’s how I see it.

Mindfulness is about being present in the moment. It’s about tuning into your senses and acknowledging your thoughts and feelings without judgment.

I remember when I first discovered mindfulness. I was going through a particularly stressful period in my life. Work was demanding, and I was constantly feeling overwhelmed.

Then one day, a friend recommended that I give mindfulness a try. Initially, I was skeptical. But as I started practising it, I realized its true power.

I began by taking a few minutes each day to just sit and breathe. No phone, no distractions, just me and my breath. Over time, I noticed that these few minutes of mindfulness brought me a sense of calm and clarity that stayed with me throughout the day.

It was like I had found a secret weapon to combat stress and anxiety.

If you’re looking to master relaxation, embracing mindfulness is key. And trust me, it’s not as daunting as it might seem at first. You just need to start small and stay consistent.

3) The power of nature

Did you know that walking barefoot on grass can actually help reduce stress and anxiety?

This practice, known as ‘grounding’ or ‘earthing’, is based on the idea that our bodies are meant to come into contact with the Earth on a regular basis.

Connecting with nature, in general, has been shown to have numerous benefits for relaxation. The calming sounds of a babbling brook, the soothing sight of greenery, the fresh air – they all play a part in helping us de-stress.

Even if you live in a city, try to make it a point to spend some time in a park or a garden regularly. Or, if you can’t do that, even having indoor plants or listening to nature sounds can be beneficial.

Incorporating nature into your relaxation routine might just be the breath of fresh air your mind and body need.

4) The role of physical activity

Physical activity isn’t just for maintaining your physical health. It also plays a pivotal role in relaxation and stress management.

It’s scientifically proven that exercise releases endorphins, chemicals in your brain that act as natural painkillers and mood elevators. They help you feel happier, more positive and relaxed.

Now, I’m not saying you need to train like an athlete. Even something as simple as a brisk walk, a short jog or a few stretches can do the trick.

The key is to find an activity you enjoy so it doesn’t feel like a chore. Maybe it’s dancing, yoga, or even gardening.

Incorporating regular physical activity into your routine can go a long way in helping you master the art of relaxation. After all, a healthy body fosters a healthy mind.

5) Quality over quantity of sleep

We often hear about the importance of getting enough sleep. But it’s not just about the number of hours you spend in bed. The quality of your sleep matters too.

Quality sleep is about falling asleep within 30 minutes or less, waking up no more than once during the night, and being awake for 20 minutes or less after initially falling asleep.

Poor quality sleep can leave you feeling groggy and lethargic, even if you’ve been in bed for a good 8 hours. Conversely, high-quality sleep can leave you feeling refreshed and energized, even if it’s a bit short.

So if you’re serious about mastering relaxation and rest, pay attention to your sleep patterns. Try to create a calm and comfortable sleeping environment, stick to a consistent bedtime routine, and avoid stimulants like caffeine and electronics close to bedtime.

Better sleep leads to better relaxation. It’s as simple as that.

6) The healing power of music

Music… it’s more than just a form of entertainment. It has the power to soothe our souls and calm our minds.

Have you ever noticed how a particular song can transport you back to a specific moment in your life? Or how a certain melody can instantly lift your spirits?

When it comes to relaxation, music can be a potent tool. The right song can help reduce anxiety, lower stress levels and even improve sleep.

For me, it’s the soft strumming of a guitar or the gentle rhythm of piano keys that works wonders. But for you, it might be the beat of drums or the melody of a flute.

The beauty of music is that it’s universal, yet deeply personal. So go ahead, find your tune, your rhythm, your melody. Let the healing power of music guide you on your journey to mastering relaxation and rest.

7) The value of saying no

There was a time when I used to be a ‘yes’ person. I’d agree to every request, every task, every favor, fearing that saying no would make me appear rude or unhelpful.

But over time, I realized that by constantly saying yes, I was stretching myself too thin. My life was becoming a whirlwind of commitments and obligations, leaving little time for rest and relaxation.

That’s when I understood the value of saying no.

Saying no doesn’t mean you’re selfish or uncaring. It means you’re prioritizing your mental and physical well-being. It means you’re setting boundaries and ensuring you have the time and energy to relax and recharge.

It wasn’t easy at first, and it did take some people by surprise. But in the end, it made a huge difference to my ability to relax and manage stress.

Saying no can be powerful. So don’t be afraid to use it when necessary.

8) Mindful eating for relaxation

The connection between food and mood is undeniable. But did you know that the way you eat can also influence your ability to relax?

Mindful eating is all about fully focusing on your meal, savoring each bite, and acknowledging the flavors, textures, and smells. It’s not just about what you eat, but how you eat it.

By slowing down and truly engaging with your food, you can turn mealtime into a form of relaxation. It’s a chance to step away from the hustle and bustle and be present in the moment.

Plus, mindful eating can help improve digestion, reduce overeating, and increase the enjoyment of food.

So the next time you sit down for a meal, try to do so without distractions. Take the time to appreciate your food. You might be surprised at how relaxing it can be.

9) The power of consistency

If there’s one thing I want you to take away from this, it’s the importance of consistency.

In the quest for relaxation and rest, it’s not enough to practice these tips once in a while. They need to become a regular part of your routine.

Whether it’s mindfulness, exercise, or quality sleep, consistency is key. It’s about making relaxation a habit, not just an occasional indulgence.

Why? Because the benefits of relaxation and rest compound over time. The more regularly you practice, the better you’ll get at it, and the more profound the effects will be.

So don’t just read these tips and forget about them. Act on them. Make them part of your everyday life. And remember, consistency is key.

Final thought: It’s a journey, not a destination

The quest for relaxation and rest isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach. It’s deeply personal and unique to each individual.

What works for one person might not work for another. And what works for you today might not work for you tomorrow.

The key is to continually explore, experiment, and adjust. It’s about discovering what truly helps you relax, recharge, and reconnect with yourself.

Remember, relaxation isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity.

In the words of Alan Cohen, “There is virtue in work and there is virtue in rest. Use both and overlook neither.”

So take these learnings. Use them as a guide, not as gospel. And embark on your own journey towards mastering the art of relaxation and rest.

Because at the end of the day, your well-being matters. And it’s worth investing in.