Wanting the same things in a relationship is really important for whether it will work out.

You may have lots of fun with someone, but it doesn’t always mean it’s going somewhere.

When you are ready for a serious commitment, it’s important to find someone who feels the same.

So if you want to know whether a woman is the marrying type, be on the lookout for these subtle signs.

1) She knows herself well and is emotionally available

That demands a certain level of self-awareness and emotional intelligence.

She has to be in a place where she knows what she wants.

If she has already reflected on her core values, what she wants out of life, and the direction she wants to head in, she’s going to have a far better idea of who she is.

That way, chances are she has already considered whether marriage may be on her horizon or not.

It also makes a big difference in the quality of your relationship and how she shows up.

Emotionally available women are prepared to be emotionally vulnerable.

She will show that by:

• Opening up with you about her thoughts and feelings
• Work through conflict and disagreements
• Investing in your happiness and well-being

You can often spot emotionally available women as they are better at communicating openly and honestly. They don’t run from intimacy, they lean into it. And they’re not afraid of sticking around when the going gets a little tough.

2) She’s family orientated

In a nutshell, that just means family is important to her.

These days that doesn’t have to just include your genetic relatives. It can be the community you choose to build around you.

If she is family orientated spending time with loved ones and making an effort for them is important to her.

Of course, sadly through no fault of their own, not everyone has a close relationship with their family.

But she can still have this family mindset.

For example, she wants you to get to know the people in her life who are important to her.

And the same goes for integrating into your world too. She wants to get to know your relations and friends.

This is a good sign she wants to merge lives, which is an important step before marriage.

3) She talks about having kids soon

These days, having children certainly doesn’t go hand in hand with matrimony.

But many women do prefer the feeling of extra security and commitment that saying “I do” may bring them.

Nearly a third of couples who got married said that wanting kids someday was the reason why they tied the knot.

It also indicates she is getting to that stage in her life where serious commitment is something she craves.

After all, what bigger commitment is there than having a child?!

4) She’s over her wild and free days

Or maybe she never really had them in the first place.

But it’s not just guys that want to sow their wild oats you know.

With greater equality, many women are enjoying their relatively new found freedom to shop around before buying.

Meaning, they are still enjoying dating and exploring their options.

Timing really is everything when it comes to being the marrying type.

As we’ll explore more later, rather than be exclusively a personality thing, it’s often largely a circumstances thing too.

Relationship readiness has been proven to be a really significant factor in whether a couple goes the distance and commits.

If it feels like “the right time” to settle down for her you should see that in her behavior. She probably prefers romantic nights out for two to all-night clubbing with friends.

This tends to go hand in hand with the next sign on our list.

5)  She’s stable

She’s in a place in her life where she has got it together.

She isn’t in that delicate stage of finding herself or figuring out what she wants.

She’s grounded in her personality. She is settled in her career. She feels content in her life. She has her finances in order.

This groundedness is going to make her more reliable too, and you should notice that in her behavior towards you.

She does what she says she will. She is consistent in her affection and effort.

6) She is sick and tired of dating apps (and dating in general!)

If you’re looking for subtle signs a woman is getting ready to settle down, this could be it.

The reality is that discomfort is so often what encourages us to change. We are pushed into another choice because we don’t like our current one.

We’ve already seen that if a woman is enjoying being “free and single” then she’s far less likely at the marrying stage of her life.

So it also makes sense that if she is increasingly frustrated by the ups and downs of modern dating, she may be more open to the alternatives.

Using apps and meeting potential dates through social media means there’s never been more choice when it comes to dating.

Yet it has its well-documented downsides, and plenty of people are getting sick and tired of it.

If she is done with the instability and decision fatigue of dating, marriage may feel far more appealing. 

7) She’s emotionally mature

Want to find a woman who won’t play games?

Be on the hunt for an emotionally mature one.

She is going to be better at regulating and expressing how she really feels, no BS.

It will be the deciding factor in how well she can handle an intimate and committed relationship.

She will take full responsibility for her emotions, rather than handling them in childish and unfair ways.

Rather than be fickle, she is more likely to have the self-discipline needed to be loyal and stay true to one person.

8) She’s realistic

Dating, relationships, and perhaps especially marriage, isn’t a fairytale.

Way too many of us (men and women alike) set unrealistic expectations around romantic love that simply cannot be met.

The burden of expecting a partner to:

• Be your everything and complete your life
• Make you happy all the time
• Know what you are thinking and feeling

It all becomes too much and so the relationship is put under great strain.

Love can be a wonderful feeling. But it’s a practical action we must take as well.

If she isn’t prepared to get real about what real-life relationships demand, she is likely still lost in the Disney World version of love.

A realistic woman has her sh*t together.

She will have a healthy and well-rounded life without you. Marriage to her is the cherry on the cake, not the whole cake.

9) She is considerate and accommodating

Selfish women aren’t ready for marriage.

That’s because it takes plenty of effort and plenty of compromise.

As therapists Linda and Charlie Bloom point out, not everyone is prepared to give what marriage requires.

“For those of us who are “commitment-phobic,” we may fear that the costs of marriage will outweigh its rewards. Often, this fear doesn’t stop us from getting married, but may stop us from giving ourselves fully to our relationship. There is a tendency to put our own needs (or what we think are our needs) before our partner’s, in an attempt to compensate for losing our freedom. Not surprisingly, this strategy doesn’t work.”

A woman who is ready to be married is ready to accommodate her partner’s feelings, needs, and wants along with her own.

10) She loves you

The overwhelming reason people still give for getting married is the most simple:

Love!

Even though in many ways, getting wed is a practical arrangement, we cannot neglect the romance involved.

The real truth is that there isn’t a strict “marrying type”.

Take it from someone who knows.

My friends used to joke that I was “unlikely to take a husband”. I admit, I was never so bothered about the idea of walking down the aisle.

Yet here I am, many years later, married.

What changed?

Me I guess.

People change their mind, their priorities, and their preferences over time.

Sure, her personality, what she wants out of life, and the stage she’s currently at in life all will factor into whether she’s the marrying type.

Yet, it’s also true that if she loves you, there is far more chance that marriage will be on her mind.