8 statements you’ll never hear from a genuinely confident person

Lucas Graham by Lucas Graham | April 8, 2024, 3:24 pm

Confidence can be quite mysterious.

You’ve probably seen those folks who just seem to radiate self-assurance, and you’re like, “How do they do it?”

Well, if we pay attention to the language they use, you’ll realize that it’s not really about what they say.

Actually, it’s more about what they don’t say.

People with real confidence have their own way of talking, and there are certain things they’d never say.

So, let’s get into it.

Here are 8 things you’ll never hear from someone truly confident. Trust me, it might make you see confidence in a whole new light.

1) “I can’t do it”

You see, genuine confidence isn’t about never failing or having all the answers.

It’s about having the courage to face whatever comes your way, good or bad.

Confident people know they’re capable of handling challenges, and they aren’t afraid to step out of their comfort zone.

So, you will never hear a genuinely confident person say, “I can’t do it.”

Instead, they’ll say something like, “I’ll give it my best shot” or “Let’s see how this goes.”

You see, they understand that success isn’t guaranteed, but they’re willing to try anyway.

Because to them, not trying at all is far worse than failing.

2) “I’m not good enough”

This phrase, “I’m not good enough,” is a trap that I’ve fallen into more times than I care to admit.

It’s easy to look at your own flaws, your own shortcomings, and believe that they define you.

But here’s the thing: they don’t.

Genuinely confident people understand this and they know their worth isn’t determined by their mistakes or by what they lack.

Instead, they focus on:

  • Their strengths
  • Their capabilities
  • And their potential for growth

So, while they may acknowledge areas for improvement, you won’t hear them utter the self-deprecating phrase, “I’m not good enough.”

What do they say then?

Probably something like, “I have room to grow.” Or, “I’m a work in progress.”

In essence, because they understand that we all are.

3) “It’s all their fault”

I remember a time when I was quick to play the blame game.

If something went wrong, it was always someone else’s fault.

The traffic made me late. My boss didn’t give clear instructions. My friend canceled our plans.

I was a mess.

But here’s what I’ve learned: genuinely confident people don’t point fingers.

They take responsibility for their actions, their decisions, and their lives.

Even when things go south, they don’t say, “It’s all their fault.”

Instead, they reflect on the situation, figure out what they could have done differently, and use it as a lesson for the future.

The truth is blaming others doesn’t solve anything; it just shifts responsibility and stunts personal growth.

And that’s not what confidence is about.

4) “They’re better than me”

Did you know that confident people don’t compare themselves to others?

It’s true.

While it’s human nature to look at those around us and measure ourselves against them, genuinely confident people don’t utter the phrase, “They’re better than me.”

Here’s the thing: Everyone has their own:

  • Journey
  • Strengths
  • Weaknesses

So, comparing oneself to others is like comparing apples to oranges.

It’s not a fair comparison, nor is it a beneficial one.

Instead of getting tangled up in comparisons, these folks focus on being the best version of themselves.

In other words, they strive for personal growth and self-improvement, not superiority over others.

At the end of the day, they know they’re only in competition with one person: themselves.

5) “I’m afraid of what people will think”

Fear of judgment, it’s a tough one to shake off.

Fear can paralyze you, and keep you from pursuing your dreams or expressing your true self.

But here’s the deal: genuinely confident people don’t let this fear hold them back.

Sure, they’re aware that not everyone will agree with their choices or their opinions.

Though they know that criticism is part of life, it doesn’t mean it’s easy. 

But they never say, “I’m afraid of what people will think.”

For them, it’s more important to stay true to themselves, regardless of what others may think or say.

Sure, they value their own opinion higher than those of others when it comes to their personal choices and their life.

But this is just the result of them living their life for themselves, not for the approval of others.

6) “I need to be perfect”

Perfection sounds good, but it’s a pursuit that can drive us to the brink.

It can keep us from sharing our work, expressing our thoughts, or trying new things.

Truth be told the fear of not being perfect can be crippling.

What I’ve noticed in genuinely confident people is that they don’t strive for perfection.

You won’t hear them say, “I need to be perfect.”

Instead, they aim for progress and create an environment around growth and learning.

That’s because they know that perfection is an impossible standard. They understand that mistakes and failures aren’t just inevitable, they’re necessary.

Having said that, they see these as opportunities for learning and improving.

Confident people know that growth comes from trial and error, from stepping out of their comfort zone, and from daring to fail.

So, they don’t get hung up on being perfect. They focus on getting better.

7) “I don’t deserve it”

Certainly, we’ve all experienced moments when something positive occurs, like receiving a promotion, and instead of fully embracing the achievement, we start hearing that inner voice making us doubt whether we genuinely earned it.

But here’s the thing: Genuinely confident people don’t undersell their achievements.

You won’t hear them say, “I don’t deserve it.”

They acknowledge their efforts and the work they’ve put in so they appreciate the recognition and accept it with grace.

After all, they’ve earned their moment in the spotlight, not because they’re better than anyone else, but because they’ve worked for it.

They don’t belittle themselves or their achievements. Instead, they use these moments as encouragement to continue growing and striving for more.

In essence, confidence is about knowing your worth and not being afraid to show it.

8) “I’m done learning”

In life, we’re always growing and therefore always changing.

It’s a constant process of learning and unlearning.

And this is something that genuinely confident people understand very well.

You won’t catch them saying, “I’m done learning.”

They know that the moment they think they know it all, they stop growing. And to stop growing is to stagnate.

Confident people are always open to new ideas, perspectives, and skills.

You see, they’re not afraid to ask questions or admit when they don’t know something.

And the reason is that they see learning as a lifelong action, such as breathing! 

Now, you wouldn’t even for a day stop breathing would you? 

As you may know by now, they see every opportunity as a chance to learn something new, to grow a little more.

And that’s what truly fuels their confidence.

Knowledge isn’t just power, it’s confidence. And confident people never stop seeking it.

Final thoughts

So, there you have it, 8 statements you’ll never hear from a genuinely confident person.

Do any of them sound familiar? Have you caught yourself saying some of these things?

Don’t worry if you have – recognizing these patterns is the first step towards growing your confidence.

Keep in mind, that confidence is not about being perfect or knowing it all.

It’s about embracing who you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses. It’s about valuing your own worth and continuing to learn and grow.

Taking every step, and every mistake you make, as a chance to learn and grow.

Consider reflecting on these statements.

How can you change the narrative and build your confidence?

You have the ability to shape your own confidence.