7 signs you’ve found the right partner, according to psychology

Isabella Chase by Isabella Chase | April 17, 2024, 10:48 pm

Sitting across from my aunt, sipping tea and talking about life. She casually mentioned, “When you find the right person, your soul just knows.”

Now, that’s a comforting thought.

But let’s be honest here.

Finding the right partner isn’t as simple as waiting for some cosmic sign or a sudden surge of clarity. It’s about understanding yourself and your needs and recognizing the subtle (and not-so-subtle) cues that indicate compatibility.

This writing will share seven signs suggesting you found the right partner.
Remember, love is beautiful, but it’s also complex and nuanced. So grab a cup of coffee (or tea), sit back, and delve into the intricacies of love and partnerships.

1) Communication is effortless

Do you know those moments when the conversation flows?

When you can sit together for hours, talking about everything and nothing, even silence feels comfortable and meaningful rather than awkward.

That’s what we’re talking about here.

Effective communication is the backbone of any successful relationship. And here’s the thing: it’s how you express your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment, actively listen, and truly understand each other.

Thus, partners communicating well are likelier to enjoy a satisfying relationship.

You’ve found someone with whom communication feels natural, easy, and fulfilling – congratulations! You’re off to a good start.

2) Respect your personal space

We all need our corner of solitude, don’t we?

I recall how my previous relationship was a constant tug-of-war between ‘us’ and ‘me.’ The more we became a couple, the less I remained an individual. And that, my friends, was a red flag I ignored for far too long.

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to surrender your individuality. It’s about walking together while respecting each other’s pace and personal space.

Does your partner understand when you need time for yourself, respect your boundaries, and doesn’t make you feel guilty? That’s a sign of a mature and compassionate partner who appreciates you as an individual.

3) Shared values and goals

Now, this one reminds me of a dear friend’s story.

She was dating this guy, let’s call him John. They were like two peas in a pod, laughing at the same jokes and finishing each other’s sentences. But there was one problem – their future aspirations needed to align.

She wanted a quiet life in the countryside, while he dreamt of city lights and skyscrapers. She loved the idea of a close-knit family, while he was more into a nomadic lifestyle.

No matter how much they loved each other, their differing life goals were like an insurmountable wall between them.

A healthy relationship doesn’t mean liking the same movies or having similar hobbies. It’s all about having a shared vision of your future together.

You and your partner are on the same page about the big stuff – family, career, personal growth – it is definitely that you’ve found the right one.

Love is not just about finding someone you can live with but someone you can’t imagine life without.

4)  Bring out the best in you

Have you ever met someone who makes you want to be a better version of yourself?

That’s what we’re talking about here.

Your partner should inspire you to grow, evolve, and step out of your comfort zone. They should celebrate your successes, encourage your dreams, and support you in overcoming your fears.

You may have found the right partner if they want you to be the best of you – not out of pressure or fear.

5) Handle conflicts constructively

Conflict. It’s an inevitable part of any relationship.

But here’s an interesting perspective. It’s not the presence of conflict that determines the health of a relationship but rather how it’s handled.

Instead of letting conflicts escalate into full-blown fights, they focus on finding solutions and understanding each other’s perspectives. They aim to avoid winning the argument but resolve it.

You and your partner can navigate conflicts without losing sight of your love for each other; you are with the right person.

6) Show genuine interest in your world

Years back, I was dating someone who seemed perfect on paper – attractive, intelligent, charming. However, a man’s eyes would glaze over whenever I’d excitedly talk about my passion for painting. He wasn’t interested.

That was a wake-up call for me.

Your partner doesn’t have to share all your interests or passions, but they should show genuine interest in what matters to you. They should be eager to know more about your world, dreams, and fears.

You’ve found the right one if your partner is interested in your life, whether you are fascinated with ancient history or love gardening. 

7) You feel loved, valued, and secure

It all boils down to this.

Do you feel loved and valued? Do you feel secure and comfortable being your authentic self?

The right person won’t belittle us or make us question our worth. They will accept us, flaws and all, creating a safe space to be ourselves.

You know that you have found the right partner when you feel loved and valued and where you can be yourself without fear of judgment or rejection.

Final thoughts

Finding the right partner is a profound journey.

But remember, it’s not about seeking perfection. It’s about recognizing someone who respects you, aligns with your values, and inspires you to be your best self.

But don’t rush. Love is nuanced and complex. It’s full of ebbs and flows. It’s a beautiful dance where understanding and patience play a crucial role.

So, take time to reflect. To understand yourself and your needs. To appreciate the bond that you share with your partner.

Having a partner who amplifies your life’s joy and stands beside you in times of challenge is a blessing.