As women, we all want to be seen as beautiful, clever, kind, and smart. It’s drummed into us from the moment we’re born and intensifies as we grow older.

There’s so much pressure to be so many things that we often get distracted by what we think we’re not! And so we don’t realize that we are already high-quality.

Thankfully psychologists have put together a lovely list of signs for us so that we can realize that we are in fact, high-quality ladies.

Read to find out about a few of these signs.

1) Good communication skills

Do you know anyone who’s ghosted someone else because they’ve felt too mean speaking honestly or communicating how they were feeling? Or maybe they were worried about how the other person would react.

Well, as high-quality women, we tackle things head-on by using our excellent communication skills.

Psychologists say that when we admit we are wrong or apologize to someone honestly and authentically, people will usually characterize us as conscientious, responsive, ethical, and transparent. These are all very positive traits.

We all make mistakes, so being able to communicate well with others makes it much easier to clear things up and create solid positive relationships with others.

2) Positivity

Have you ever had anyone thank you for being positive? Are you known as a ray of sunshine? What about a bundle of joy?

If you’re nodding your head, you probably excuse positivity, even when you think you aren’t.

This happened to me when I was doing a month of yoga teacher training. It was not as fun as I had expected. It was actually a super intense, mentally and physically draining month.

I thought I’d been a bit of a grump for most of the course, but at the end, one of the women in my class came up and thanked me for being so positive and keeping up morale!

Psychologists also say that a smile goes a long way in helping to lift the moods of people around us!

So if you’re able to stay optimistic and see the best in every situation, if you’re the one trying to bring sunshine to the room when others are down, that’s a high-quality characteristic right there.

3) Respect for others

I went somewhere with my partner and his mom the other day.

We live in a different country so we don’t often get in a car together. On this particular day, my partner was driving and I got in the back seat. His mom was so confused at first but then was thankful for the fact that I had chosen to put her first and give her the front seat. It was only a little thing but it meant a lot.

When we show respect to others, no matter who they are or their age, it’s noticed and usually reciprocated.

What goes around, comes around.

Psychologists say this comes from a place of self-respect. When you value yourself, you can’t help but value the people around you too. Respect is actually a reflection of the values that you hold as a high-quality individual.

4) Independence

Independence for a woman can be a difficult balance. We’re often told that we shouldn’t lean on anyone else but in the same breath, a man should be paying for us if he takes us out on a date.

It can all be quite confusing sometimes. But what we want is to be able to look after ourselves if we need to, but not necessarily have to do it all the time. Am I right?

Many high-quality traits come with being able to look after yourself according to psychologists we become more

• Confident
• Productive
• Optimistic
• Brave
• Driven
• True to ourselves

Wow! That’s high-quality stuff there that’s for sure.

5) Resilience

Do you have a survivor mentality? When things go wrong, do you push through instead of running away? When someone shows resilience it means they don’t give up very easily.

In this article about resilience, the psychologist explains that a resilient person is someone who has great coping skills and can find ways to get through hard times. Either by asking for help or finding resources from around them.

To be able to tackle challenges in this way, a woman must be good at regulating her emotions, as well as have excellent problem-solving skills.

So if this sounds like the kind of person you are, then well done, you’re a pretty amazing lady.

6) Authenticity

Have you stopped caring about what other people think of you? When you meet new people are you unapologetically real?

Sometimes as women, we get a bit of hate for being ourselves. Often we get labeled “too much”, or people ask us to tone it down a notch. So, sometimes it can be hard to be true to who we are on the inside.

However, these psychologists say that women who aren’t shy about sharing their authentic selves have higher self-esteem than those who aren’t.

Authentic women also tend to be less judgmental (yay) and aren’t threatened by failure!

So, go on, get out there, and be proud of who you are.

7) Self-value

I’m sure you’re not surprised to see that the final point is that high-quality women value themselves.

It might be the way you make sure that you’re always dressed well or that you make sure to take the time to exercise each day. It could be that you put the effort into getting a good amount of sleep at night and eating well when you can. (But eating the occasional slice of chocolate cake is also a sign of self-value in my book!)

Whatever it is, when we do these things we show that we value ourselves.

A high-quality woman knows that she needs to look after herself first for her to be of value to anyone else.

Psychologists say that when we put effort into upholding our values and ensuring we nurture ourselves, we gain so many benefits – including improved mental health and great success!

And guess what?

Women who value themselves are more likely to have healthy and satisfying relationships AND a sense of internal happiness, that enables them to have more fulfilling lives than those who don’t.

I don’t know about you, but I think these traits sound like the behaviors of a high-quality woman.