It would be easy to assume that self-confident people are gregarious extroverts. This only sometimes proves true,  however. 

That’s because genuine confidence isn’t born of arrogance or attention-seeking. Men with real confidence have no need for brashness. 

Their confidence is quieter as it results from a firm belief in their value, ability, and resilience.

Do you or someone you know have the reassuring qualities of a quietly confident guy? Here are some of the qualities these men possess.

1) Self-mastery

One of the easiest ways to pick a quietly confident person out of the crowd is their demeanor and how they handle themselves. 

This man may not be a big talker, but if he’s debating with a more outgoing person, he’ll conduct himself with poise, good grace, and self-confidence. 

A quietly confident man isn’t the reactive sort. He doesn’t feel compelled to impress other people. He knows exactly who he is and what he has to offer. His validation comes from within, not from other people.

Because these guys are so low-key about their abilities, they’re known to take people by surprise with their skill sets. 

Remember that super-smart kid back in high school? He probably wasn’t the kid with his hand always up eager to show off his knowledge.

This was the kid that blew everyone away when he was called on.

2) Dares to be wrong

A quietly confident man never hesitates to stand up for his beliefs, but he’ll also readily accept that he could be wrong. 

He walks that fine line between being brave enough to voice his views and humble enough to learn from others.

Another calling card of a quietly confident guy is his willingness to take responsibility for his mistakes. He has no problem owning his bloopers and admitting them to others.

This is indicative of a man who is comfortable in his own skin.

Everyone messes up from time to time. That’s part of the human experience. Quietly confident people understand and embrace this. 

3) Willingness to take risks 

No one knows ahead of time if they’ll definitely achieve their goal, and this holds many people back from even trying.

A quietly confident person is willing to take that chance and risk failure. This is because they’re confident that, no matter what the outcome, they’ll be able to handle it thanks to their incredible store of psychological resilience.

4) Owns his mistakes

According to Psychology Today, a lot of folks have a hard time dealing with failure or owning up to their mistakes. This usually results from a fear of being judged or facing disapproval. 

On the other hand, a quietly confident man doesn’t fear being wrong or accepting responsibility for his actions. He isn’t as invested in the opinions of others, so owning his mistakes doesn’t feel as threatening to him. 

5) Adaptable

The only sure thing in life is change. If you struggle to roll with the inevitable changing tides of life, you will suffer needlessly.

After all, how can we hope to grow as a human being without change? One could argue that our purpose is to evolve and better ourselves every day.

But our strong, silent type understands that even though change can be scary, taking big chances can lead to even bigger successes. 

6) Super chill

Oh, how I admire those people who are going through literal hell and still maintain their motivation and composure. I am not among them.  

Men blessed with quiet confidence have an enviable sense of calmness and purpose even amid turmoil.  And their sense of ease is contagious, which is why people flock to guys who are quietly confident. It feels good just to be around them. 

And the more challenges these guys overcome, the more confident they become in their ability to handle whatever life throws at them.

These high-value men understand that they’re certainly not perfect but strive to be their best version every day in every way.

7) Active listening

It’s no coincidence that listening skills are a staple of lists like these. That’s because communication skills are the foundation of all positive human interaction.   

A quietly confident person isn’t waiting for their turn to talk. Instead, they’re ignoring any distractions and focusing solely on the speaker.

Confident guys never try to monopolize the conversation or be the center of attention. They realize that a conversation isn’t a solo act. 

The person you’re having a discussion with doesn’t exist just to be your sounding board. They have their own views and feel as strongly about theirs as you do about yours.  

Quiet confidence is being respectful and patient enough to really hear and process what the other person is trying to say. 

These dudes also know you don’t have to show up for every argument you’re invited to.

They only speak when they think their point is relevant.

8) Self-acceptance and self-worth

Having already come to terms with their weak points, a quietly confident man has no qualms about asking for clarification or help.  

A self-assured guy is secure in his own right and as a result, does not require outside reinforcement to feel good about himself. 

A confident person knows how capable they are and doesn’t feel the need to prove anything to anyone.

9) Humility 

Truly confident people are also truly humble people. Some may mistake their humility for timidity, but it takes great strength of character to be humble.

People who have good self-esteem hardly ever find it necessary to brag. They are doers as opposed to talkers so they let their actions speak for themselves. 

10) He’s everyone’s cheerleader

Want to boost someone’s confidence? Tell them how awesome they are. 

It really is that simple. Everyone wants to be seen and appreciated.

Don’t ever let a chance go by to praise people for their efforts and accomplishments. Openly show appreciation for their good qualities and actions. 

A man with quiet confidence believes in giving credit where credit is due. He knows that acknowledging their efforts is the best way we can empower others. 

Even if you’re only paying someone a compliment on their new jacket it could be enough to turn someone’s day around for the better. 

11) Not the jealous type

There are miserable people in the world who can’t stand it when others are happy and successful. They’ll always try to find a way to put people down who are doing better than they are.

This will never be an issue with an authentically confident man. Envy denotes feeling insecure. High-value humans don’t waste time being jealous because they’re secure in themselves, and have genuine gratitude for every positive thing in their lives.

It’s not necessary to view others as your competitors. Your own experiences should provide the yardstick you measure success, anyway.  The key is to become the best version of you possible.

Final thoughts

Real, unshakeable confidence moves in silence. It’s a state of mind that’s well worth the effort it takes to cultivate. 

The peace it affords a man gives him the confidence to take chances and move through life with the certainty that he can handle whatever curveball comes his way.