Have you ever found yourself scrolling through social media, only to realize your friends had a gathering you weren’t invited to?

It stings, leaving you wondering: Was it just a casual oversight, or did I do something wrong?

Sometimes, the exclusion isn’t deliberate, but subtle habits we’re unaware of can slowly push us out of our social circle.

Things like interrupting conversations, over-sharing, or failing to reciprocate kindness might seem minor but can leave others feeling disconnected over time.

The good news is that these habits are entirely fixable with a bit of self-awareness and intention.

If you’ve ever felt left out and questioned why, exploring these seven common habits could provide the clarity—and solutions—you need to strengthen your friendships.

1) Dominating the conversation

The art of conversation is all about balance.

A good chat involves a healthy exchange of ideas, opinions, and experiences.

But sometimes, some individuals forget this fundamental rule and end up monopolizing the entire conversation.

These are the folks who talk non-stop about their own interests, opinions, or anecdotes, without taking a moment to invite or consider others’ input.

They forget that a conversation is a two-way street.

This habit can be off-putting for many. It makes others feel unheard and unimportant, creating an uncomfortable atmosphere.

Being a good listener is as important as being a good speaker, if not more.

This balance helps to create a positive and enjoyable social environment where everyone feels valued.

2) Being dismissive of others

We all have our own views and opinions. And that’s what makes conversations diverse and interesting.

But there’s a thin line between expressing your thoughts and being dismissive of others.

I remember attending a cocktail party a few years ago. There was this one individual who seemed to have a counter-argument for every opinion that wasn’t his own.

It wasn’t the friendly debate type either. He was outright dismissive, bordering on disrespectful.

While he may have thought he was showcasing his intelligence, it was quite the opposite.

The vibe around him became increasingly uncomfortable as the evening progressed. People started avoiding him, and unsurprisingly, I never saw him at any subsequent gatherings.

The lesson here? It’s okay to disagree, but it’s important to do so respectfully.

Everyone has the right to their own beliefs and opinions. Dismissing others’ thoughts outright not only breeds animosity but also shuts down any possibility for meaningful conversation or learning.

3) Overindulging in alcohol

Social events often come with an array of beverages, with alcohol being a common feature.

While it’s perfectly fine to enjoy a drink or two, overindulging can lead to unbecoming behavior.

Excessive alcohol can impair judgement and lead to inappropriate or offensive behavior.

It can also make people more prone to accidents, causing unnecessary disruptions at the event.

According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, about one in four people who exceed moderate drinking limits are at risk of developing an alcohol use disorder.

Being mindful of your alcohol intake not only helps maintain decorum at social events, but it’s also crucial for your overall health.

Moderation is key.

4) Constantly checking your phone

We live in a digital age, and our smartphones have become an indispensable part of our lives.

But there’s a time and place for everything, and social events are not the place to be glued to your phone.

Checking your phone constantly during a gathering can come across as rude and disrespectful.

It sends out a signal that you’re not interested in the event or the people around you.

Moreover, it hampers your ability to engage with others and enjoy the moment.

So, next time you’re at a social gathering, put your phone away. Be present in the moment, engage with people around you, and enjoy the event.

You’ll be surprised at the difference it makes.

5) Not respecting personal space

Understanding and respecting personal space is an unwritten social rule.

Everyone has their own comfort zone, and it’s important to adhere to that.

I remember attending a housewarming party where one guest seemed to have no concept of personal space.

Whether it was standing too close while having a conversation or putting his arm around people he had just met, his actions made many of us uncomfortable.

I myself felt quite uneasy when he came too close during a chat.

It wasn’t that he had ill intentions, but not respecting personal boundaries can make others uncomfortable, even if unintentionally.

Being mindful of others’ personal space is crucial in social settings. It’s about showing respect and ensuring everyone around you feels comfortable and safe.

6) Ignoring the host’s rules

When you’re invited to a social event, especially at someone’s home, it’s important to respect the host’s rules.

Whether it’s taking off your shoes at the door, not smoking inside the house, or keeping noise levels down after a certain hour, these rules are set for a reason.

Ignoring them can come across as disrespectful to the host and might put you on the ‘not-to-invite’ list for future events.

Respecting someone else’s space shows that you value their hospitality and also makes the event more enjoyable for everyone. 

7) Not contributing to the event

Contributing to a social event doesn’t necessarily mean bringing a dish or a bottle of wine (though it’s usually appreciated).

It means actively participating in the event, engaging with others, and adding value to the gathering.

A person who simply attends but doesn’t engage with others or contribute to the festivities in any way can be seen as a non-participant.

This behavior can make other guests feel that you’re not interested in being there, which can prevent you from being invited back.

Active participation shows that you appreciate the invitation and are interested in the event and the people present.