There’s a fine line between charm and deception, folks, and I’ve seen it all.

You know those individuals, so charismatic yet they leave a bitter taste in your mouth?

Let me tell you, it’s not your imagination. Some people ooze charm to disguise their lack of basic decency.

It’s a tricky game they play, and it’s about time we learn their tell-tale signs.

I’ve identified seven subtle behaviors these folks often display.

Once you know what to look for, you’ll be able to see right through their shiny exterior.

In this article, we’re going to pull back the curtain on these charming, yet indecent individuals. Let’s dive in, shall we?

1) They’re expert mimics

Within social interactions, we’ve all come across individuals who have a knack for mirroring our behaviors, expressions, and even our interests.

It’s a captivating trait, isn’t it?

But hold on a second, this might not always be genuine.

Some of the most charming yet indecent individuals are experts at this.

They mirror your actions and expressions, creating an illusion of similarity and rapport.

It’s their secret weapon to make you drop your guard.

Consider this as your first red flag.

An excessive amount of mirroring might indicate their lack of authenticity. 

2) They’re often the life of the party

Sounds counterintuitive, right? Shouldn’t someone who’s the life of the party be fun to be around?

Well, not always.

Sure, these individuals are often entertaining, full of energy, and can make any gathering feel lively.

They’re incredibly good at drawing attention to themselves.

But this is also where their charm begins to mask their lack of decency.

There’s a difference between being genuinely charismatic and using charm as a veneer to hide less savory qualities.

They might easily dominate conversations, subtly belittle others, or disregard boundaries under the guise of humor or charisma.

3) They keep you guessing

One moment, they’re the sweetest person in the world, and the next, they’re aloof and distant. Sound familiar?

This unpredictability can make you feel like you’re on an emotional roller coaster.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how this inconsistency can create an unhealthy attachment.

These individuals know exactly how to keep you hooked – a compliment here, a cold shoulder there.

It’s a strategy designed to keep you guessing, keep you wanting more.

But let’s be clear – this isn’t a sign of passion or depth.

It’s a manipulative tactic used by those who lack basic decency.

4) They rarely apologize

Ever noticed how some individuals, no matter how wrong they are, will never say the words “I’m sorry”?

Instead, they’re experts at redirecting blame or making excuses.

You see, it’s not in their nature to admit their faults.

It’s always someone else’s fault or some unforeseen circumstance that led to the issue.

This is a classic trait of people who lack basic decency.

I remember a quote from Benjamin Franklin that goes, “Never ruin an apology with an excuse.”

A real apology doesn’t include a ‘but’ or an excuse.

It’s taking full responsibility for our actions and making amends.

5) They’re often dismissive of your feelings

It’s the small things that matter the most; a simple acknowledgment of your feelings, a nod, a comforting word.

But these individuals we’re talking about?

They’re often dismissive when it comes to your emotions.

You might find them brushing off your feelings or belittling your experiences, making you question the validity of your own emotions.

In my journey as a relationship expert, I’ve seen this pattern far too many times. It’s subtle yet deeply hurtful.

Your feelings are valid, and anyone who cares about you should respect that.

So if someone repeatedly dismisses your emotions or makes light of your concerns, it’s a clear sign they lack basic decency.

6) They’re masters of deflection

Have you ever tried to address an issue with someone, only to find the conversation veering off into a completely different direction?

That’s deflection, my friends, and it’s a common tactic used by those who lack decency.

They’re quite the experts at turning the tables, shifting blame, and avoiding responsibility.

It’s like trying to nail jelly to a tree, as they say.

As Eleanor Roosevelt wisely stated, “You cannot change anyone but yourself.”

So if you find yourself in a situation like this, just remember: it’s not about you, it’s their inability to accept responsibility.

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7) They lack empathy

Here’s the raw truth – a charming exterior can never make up for a lack of empathy.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.

It’s what bonds us as humans, it’s what makes us decent.

But these charming individuals we’re talking about often lack this crucial quality.

They might seem interested, but when push comes to shove, they often fail to show genuine understanding or compassion for others’ feelings.

It’s all about them, their needs, their feelings, their narrative.

Insights beyond the surface

In essence, it’s crucial to remember that we’re all humans, capable of growth and change.

So while it’s essential to recognize these traits and protect ourselves, it’s equally important to foster empathy and understanding.

After all, no one is perfect.

As relationship expert, I’ve found that exploring these complexities can lead to profound self-awareness and improvement in our interactions with others.

In line with this, I’d love to share a video by Justin Brown that delves deeper into these themes.

He discusses the problem with using the law of attraction to try to find the perfect partner – a concept that resonates strongly with our topic.

His insights align beautifully with our discussion here, adding another layer of depth to our understanding.

I hope it provides you with valuable perspectives as you navigate your relationships.

Remember, we’re all in this together, learning and growing one step at a time.