Anxiety and risk-avoidance often go hand in hand, creating patterns of behavior that are easily identifiable, yet often overlooked by the individuals themselves.

These individuals tend to live their lives within the confines of their comfort zones, guided by the fear of what could go wrong. They’re always on edge, constantly on the lookout for any possible pitfall.

In my work as a relationship expert, I’ve seen how these behaviors can impact not only a person’s well-being, but also their relationships with others. It’s like watching someone navigate through life with a blindfold on, too scared to take it off.

This article will delve into those behaviors that are common among those who are always anxious and never take risks – things they might not even realize they’re doing.

1) Overthinking every decision

Anxiety often pushes individuals into an endless loop of overthinking. It’s like a spinning wheel that just won’t stop.

They contemplate every possible outcome, no matter how unlikely, and dissect each scenario down to the smallest detail. This process can be mentally exhausting and time-consuming.

And what’s the result? They’re often paralyzed by indecision, stuck in a state of analysis paralysis.

It’s not that they don’t want to move forward, but the fear of making a wrong move keeps them anchored in place. This fear of potential failure or negative outcomes is a common trait among those who avoid taking risks.

But they might not even realize they’re doing it. It’s just their default mode, their safety net. They think they’re being cautious and thorough when in reality, they’re holding themselves back.

2) They’re often excellent planners

Now, this might seem surprising. After all, you would think that anxious risk-avoiders would shy away from planning, right? Wrong.

In fact, they are often meticulous planners. Their fear of the unknown, of any potential negative outcomes, pushes them to plan for every possible scenario.

They’ll have a plan A, B, C, and even D. They’ll map out each step in detail and know exactly what needs to be done at every stage. This is their way of trying to control the uncontrollable and minimize any potential risk.

But here’s the catch. Despite all this planning, they often struggle to take that first step. The fear of failure or the anxiety of what could go wrong holds them back. They might spend so much time planning that they never actually get around to doing.

This intricate planning is their safety blanket – it gives them a sense of control over the uncertain future. But often, they don’t even realize that they’re stuck in this cycle of perpetual planning and not enough action.

3) Avoidance of confrontation

An interesting trait I’ve noticed in my years of counselling is the avoidance of confrontation that anxious, risk-averse individuals often exhibit. They tend to go to great lengths to avoid any form of conflict or argument, even when standing up for themselves is necessary.

This might seem like a peacekeeping strategy on the surface, but it’s usually rooted in fear. Fear of conflict, yes, but also fear of potential rejection or abandonment that might come from displeasing others.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve into this behavior and how it can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics.

The important thing to remember here is that while avoiding confrontation might provide temporary relief, it often leads to resentment and a lack of personal boundaries in the long run.

And again, most folks don’t even realize they’re doing this. They might view their aversion to conflict as being diplomatic or non-confrontational. In reality, though, it’s a self-protective measure that can inhibit personal growth and healthy relationships.

4) Fear of change

I’ve seen it over and over again. People who are constantly anxious and avoid taking risks have a distinct fear of change.

They’re comfortable in their routines, in the predictability of their everyday life. The idea of change, even if it’s potentially for the better, can be terrifying. It’s another form of risk – stepping into the unknown, leaving behind the familiar.

Why fix what isn’t broken, right? But as the great Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

This fear of change can trap them in unsatisfactory situations – be it a job they don’t enjoy, a relationship that’s not fulfilling, or a lifestyle that’s not healthy.

They might see themselves as creatures of habit or simply resistant to unnecessary upheaval. But beneath these justifications lies a deep-seated fear of uncertainty and potential risk.

5) Seeking constant reassurance

In my work, I’ve noticed that individuals who are perpetually anxious and risk-averse often seek validation and reassurance from others. They might frequently ask for others’ opinions or approval before making decisions, no matter how small.

This quest for reassurance is rooted in their self-doubt and fear of making mistakes. They’re looking for a safety net, for someone else to share the responsibility if things don’t go as planned.

It’s almost as if they’re outsourcing their decision-making process, hoping that someone else can provide the certainty they crave.

But here’s the thing – while it’s normal and healthy to seek advice or feedback, relying on others for constant reassurance can erode self-confidence and hinder personal growth.

Many of these individuals may not even realize they’re doing this. They might see it as being considerate of others’ opinions or ensuring they’re making the right choices. In truth, however, it’s another manifestation of their anxiety and aversion to risk.

6) Perfectionism

This is a big one. Many of the individuals I’ve worked with who struggle with anxiety and risk avoidance also display signs of perfectionism.

They set incredibly high standards for themselves and anything less than perfect is seen as a failure. This fear of failure, of not living up to their own or others’ expectations, can be paralyzing.

Remember the wise words of Salvador Dali: “Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.” It’s important to strive for improvement, but chasing after impossible standards can lead to unnecessary stress and even self-sabotage.

Perfectionists often don’t even realize they’re setting themselves up for this kind of pressure. They see it as having strong work ethic or being detail-oriented.

But in reality, it’s another form of risk avoidance – if they aim for perfection and fall short, they can blame it on the high standards rather than their own shortcomings.

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7) Isolation

This might be painful to hear, but it’s important to address. Many individuals who are constantly anxious and avoid risk tend to isolate themselves.

They might withdraw from social activities or distance themselves from friends and family. It’s not that they don’t want to connect with others – in fact, they often crave it. But the fear of judgement, rejection, or potential conflict can make social interactions seem fraught with risk.

They might turn down invitations, avoid gatherings, or make excuses to stay at home. The safety of their own space, where they can control their environment and avoid potential stressors, often feels much more appealing.

And the heartbreaking part? They might not even realize they’re doing this. They might chalk it up to being introverted or just needing some ‘me time’. But deep down, it’s a self-protective measure driven by their anxiety and fear of risk.

Facing this reality can be tough, but it’s an important step towards understanding and managing these behaviors.

Coming to grips with reality

The behaviors and patterns we’ve explored in this article aren’t just quirks or personality traits – they’re often deeply ingrained defense mechanisms that have formed over years of anxiety and aversion to risk.

Recognizing these behaviors in yourself or someone else is the first step towards understanding and ultimately managing them. It’s not about blaming or shaming, but about acknowledging the reality and starting a conversation.

To close with a quote from the great Carl Jung, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

I recommend watching this video by Justin Brown, where he delves into the complexities of being single and lonely in a big city. Although it’s focused on his experiences in Singapore, the lessons he shares are universally applicable.

It’s a thought-provoking reflection on slowing down and truly understanding what you’re looking for.

Remember, self-awareness is the key to growth. Understanding why you behave the way you do can help you make more informed decisions, foster healthier relationships, and lead a more fulfilling life.