What if I told you that the true strength of your relationship might lie in the less obvious details?

That’s right, there are plenty of subtle, often overlooked signs that your relationship is thriving, even if it doesn’t always feel like a fairytale.

As a relationship expert, I’m here to help you spot those hidden gems.

Today, we’re diving into eight non-obvious signs that your relationship is actually in a very good place.

Let’s dive in. 

1) Silence is comfortable

We’ve all been there. Those awkward silences that make you scramble for something, anything, to say.

But in a healthy relationship, silence isn’t awkward. It’s comfortable.

You and your partner don’t feel the need to constantly fill the air with words. You’re comfortable just being in each other’s presence, even if no one is saying anything.

In fact, these moments of silence can actually be quite beautiful. They are a testament to your mutual understanding and comfort level.

2) You handle conflict without drama

Every couple has disagreements, but how you handle them speaks volumes about the health of your relationship. In a solid partnership, conflict doesn’t automatically turn into a dramatic showdown.

Instead of screaming or holding grudges, you and your partner approach disagreements with calm, mutual respect. You’re able to communicate openly, listen to each other, and work towards a solution without trying to “win” the argument.

The ability to navigate conflict in a mature way is a clear sign that your relationship is built on trust and emotional security. It shows that both of you value the relationship more than being right.

3) You trust each other

Do you feel secure in your relationship, knowing your partner has your back?

Trust is one of the cornerstones of any healthy relationship, and it goes beyond just trusting someone not to cheat.

As the folks at Cleveland Clinic explain, “Trust extends from the seemingly smallest things, like trusting someone with your emotions or allowing yourself to be vulnerable around them, as well as with making some big life decisions — like where to live and what you want your future family to look like.”

When you trust your partner deeply, it shows that you feel safe with them, both emotionally and in making big life choices together. This level of trust creates a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.

4) You don’t compare your relationship to others’

Ever find yourself scrolling through social media and feeling envious of other couples?

If your answer is no, that’s a great sign!

In a healthy relationship, you’re not constantly measuring your happiness against someone else’s. You and your partner understand that every relationship is different, and you’re content with the unique dynamic you share.

Rather than getting caught up in comparisons, you focus on what works for you as a couple. That confidence in your relationship is a clear indication that you’re in a solid, secure place.

5) You feel independent

Independence is a beautiful thing, my friends. 

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to lose your individuality. In fact, a sign that your relationship is in a good place is that you both feel free to pursue your own interests, hobbies, and friendships outside the relationship.

This is something I’ve discussed at length in my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s all about finding the balance between love and independence.

When you and your partner are able to maintain your individuality while still being a part of a couple, that’s a strong sign of a healthy relationship. It means you’re not just lovers, but also best friends who respect each other’s individuality.

6) You don’t sweep issues under the rug

So, let’s say something’s bothering you or your partner—what do you do? In a strong relationship, you don’t just ignore it and hope it goes away. You bring it up, even if the conversation isn’t the easiest or most stress-free one to have.

Being able to address issues head-on shows that you’re both committed to making the relationship work, no matter how uncomfortable the discussions might be.

As psychologist Jeremy Sutton, Ph.D., has noted, “While conflict is not uncommon, if left unresolved along with related stress, it can damage the bonds that form between people.”

Working through things together might not always be pleasant, but it’s essential to maintaining the strength and health of your relationship in the long run.

7) You don’t feel the need to prove your relationship publicly

Ever notice how some couples seem to constantly post about their love online?

If you and your partner don’t feel that urge, it’s actually a great sign.

In a strong relationship, you don’t need to seek validation from the outside world. You’re confident in what you have together and don’t feel the pressure to “prove” it through endless social media posts or public displays.

Your relationship feels secure because the connection between you is genuine, and you both know it doesn’t need to be showcased for it to be real. When you’re happy privately, it shows that your bond is solid where it matters most—between the two of you.

8) You prioritize each other’s happiness

Last but not least, in a healthy relationship, both partners genuinely want the other to be happy—not just in grand gestures, but in everyday ways.

Whether it’s something as simple as making your partner their favorite meal after a long day or supporting them in their career goals, you show up for each other.

Prioritizing each other’s happiness doesn’t mean sacrificing your own needs, but rather finding a balance where both of you feel cared for. When you actively seek to uplift and support each other, it’s a clear sign that your relationship is in a great place.

You recognize that when your partner thrives, the relationship thrives.

Conclusion

So there you have it, folks. Eight non-obvious signs that your relationship is in a good place.

Remember, every relationship is unique. What works for one couple might not work for another. But these signs provide a good starting point to assess the health of your own relationship.

If you want to dive deeper into creating a balanced and fulfilling relationship, I invite you to check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

Here’s to love, growth, and happiness in your relationship journey.