“Find a man who’ll give you peace of mind.”

This is my mother’s only piece of relationship advice. 

Back then, I was like “What about passion?!,” but now I totally get it.

You see, it doesn’t matter if your boyfriend is the sweetest, the smartest, and the richest. If he’s the cheating kind, you WILL be miserable.

That’s why if you truly care for yourself, you gotta date wisely.

So how can you tell if a man will be faithful to you?

Here are 10 subtle behaviors of men who never feel tempted to cheat.

1) They’re family-oriented

No, I don’t mean they’re traditional and religious. A man could be queer, in an open relationship, be very liberal…AND be family-oriented, too.

What I mean is that they put VALUE in the relationship they have with their family.

They love their families to bits, flaws, and all.

They call their parents and siblings regularly, plan dinners, and vacations on a regular basis.

 It’s also likely you’ve heard them say “family first” or “family is everything” quite often.

And even if they grew up in a toxic home, you’d hear them say the same thing along with “I don’t ever want to repeat my childhood. I want to have a joyful home.”

Because family means so much to them, cheating is just naturally unappealing. They know it can damage relationships—and that’s the thing they don’t ever want.

2) They tell everyone about you

A man who’s so in love with you can’t stop talking about you.

Even if they and their friends are simply talking about pasta, they’d say “Oh, my girlfriend loves puttanesca.”

In fact, you’re kinda embarrassed. You’re sure their friends are tired of hearing your name already.

Consider yourself lucky.

Men who either consciously or unconsciously plan on cheating keep their dating and married life very private or make so little mention of it that even their closest friends don’t know you.

Why? 

It’s possible they’re keeping their options open or they just really don’t see you as a long-term or integral part of their life.

So if his colleagues, friends, and everyone knows you, it just means he’s so committed to you and only you.

And generally, a man whose head-over-heels in love with their partner won’t feel tempted to cheat.  Why would they when they’re already so happy?

3) They suck at lying

A man who doesn’t know how to lie is usually living an authentic lie. What they are on the inside shows on the outside.

So…double life? Lying to your face? Pretending to be someone else? 

They could never do that!

And so they won’t ever think about cheating—ever.

Just the thought of it repulses them because lying of any form is just not in their system.

So yeah, the idea of cheating doesn’t give them the thrill, it gives them the chills.

But not only that! 

Since they can’t live a lie for so long, they also don’t stay in a relationship if they’re clearly unhappy. It just goes against their principles of living an authentic life.

And unlike other men, once they no longer love you, they’d break up with you even before they lay their eyes on another girl.

4) They don’t have wandering eyes

Don’t get me wrong—not everyone with eyes that wander would cheat.

Heck, my eyes are everywhere when I’m out because I’m just generally curious—and let’s face it, we do want to check out people from time to time!

It’s all about HOW you look at others.

Pay attention.

Does he ogle at a girl wearing a bikini?

Does he smile at someone from another table? And do they feel giddy if they smile back?

Well…I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t be able to sleep well at night if my boyfriend was like this.

Want to be stress-free?

Keep the guy who always keeps looking at you as if you’re the top model in the room. 

With him, you’ll always feel secure and confident in the relationship.

5) They can’t stand cheaters

Tell them about your friend who “accidentally” kissed someone when they were drunk, and they’d get pissed.

Watch a movie where the protagonists are cheating on their partners and they’d start to lose interest and say, “What an assh*le!”

And their best friend having an affair with a married woman? They’d give them a long lecture!

While some men would cover up for each other, dating around or even cheating, they’re left behind when it’s time to go to the bar or strip club.

They will never tolerate friends like that.

Basically, they just can’t stand cheaters and have no empathy for them probably because they can’t relate—they never felt tempted to cheat in a relationship.

6) They don’t try to prove to others how “manly” they are

They have no insecure bone in their body. They don’t try to be a “high-value” man or an alpha male because…there’s no point. 

They’re confident with who they are and their abilities.

I know so many insecure men who’d take the chance to cheat when a decent-looking girl is flirting with them.

They equate girls as objects they can collect—a conquest. The more, the merrier.

Men who never feel tempted to cheat in a relationship have nothing to prove. They don’t equate being a man with womanizing.

In fact, they see it as unmanly, as trash behavior to sleeping around. 

They’re secure with who they are and don’t need to take advantage of women just to have something to brag about and boost their ego. 

7) They are numb to flirtatious advances

Men who never feel tempted to cheat are numb and blind to flirtatious body language.

They can’t see “opportunities” even when it’s right in front of them.

Why?

Because they don’t see them as “opportunities” in the first place!

Even if a girl is licking her lips and getting too close, they would still think nothing of those gestures.

They’re like this because they’re not naturally flirty. It’s just not a game they play.

But once they realize that someone’s indeed trying to seduce them, they’d hold their boundaries as diplomatically as they can. 

8) They’re not paranoid when you use their phone

They have nothing to hide, so they’re totally fine if you borrow their phone or see their screen.

Or if they’re uncomfortable with you doing it, you know it’s NOT because they’re hiding something from you—they just like privacy.

How to tell?

They won’t act like a criminal caught red-handed. They won’t freeze and snatch the phone back from your hands.

That’s because you already know everything about them.

Nope, no other Instagram account where they like photos of random girls.

Nope, no texts that are too friendly.

And most of all, no dating apps are installed.

9) They’re flourishing

Do you know that a lot of men cheat NOT because they’re no longer in love, but because they want to feel alive?!

Men who are generally unhappy and bored with their lives have a higher chance of engaging in risky behavior—including cheating.

Why?

They’re trying to fill a void.

They feel so insecure and unsatisfied with their life that they’re willing to do anything.

So if you want a man who’s less likely to cheat? 

Go for the ones who are flourishing.

They have hobbies, they’re happy with their careers, they have friends, they have things to look forward to.

They’re too happy with so many things that cheating would never ever cross their mind.

10) They always consult your opinion

Men who are considerate and always ask for your stance deeply respect their partners.

They see them as an equal and value them as their life partner. 

So whether it’s major decisions or small things like what restaurant you’d want to eat at, your opinion is important.

And men who hold you in such high esteem and respect won’t feel tempted to cheat.

Why? 

Because cheating is the utmost disrespect a person can do to their partner.

So if they have a pattern of respecting you when it comes to the small and the big things, then they’re likely to stay honest and committed to you. 

Final thoughts:

While the man who never feels tempted to cheat seems rare, the truth is it’s just that society not only tolerates it but condones it, far more than women. 

So if you want a man who is honest and committed, you really have to check in with yourself if you have beliefs that condone cheating.

For instance, if you believe it’s natural to cheat, then you’re likely to attract cheaters, too.

Even open and polygamous relationships rely on trust and openness.

So the best way to protect yourself from cheating men is to have such a high degree of self-love that you repel them.

And if you’ve been cheated on before and don’t want it to happen again?

Make sure you treat yourself so well that no man can ever treat you any less than you have always been worthy of.