Men who are truly confident in themselves never display these 10 behaviors

Avatar by Paul Brian | September 13, 2024, 10:50 am

Truly confident guys have certain things they never do. 

It’s not even by choice: they don’t do these things because they aren’t behaviors that line up with their inner reality. 

It’s that simple.

While they may have plenty of character flaws just like any of us, genuinely confident guys don’t have the following flaws:

1) Self-doubt

Confident men don’t doubt themselves. 

They feel anxiety just like anyone else, and they may have nerves before a big event or challenge:

But at the fundamental level of believing in themselves and their potential, they are rock solid. 

They believe in their value and their potential, and even failures and setbacks don’t make a dent in that fundamental self-belief and self-love

2) Indecisiveness

Confident men either go for it or not. 

They weigh the pros and cons and decide whether to do something or not. 

That may be entering a relationship, starting a new job, deciding to move or even smaller decisions like accepting an invitation or turning it down. 

Whatever the decision may be, once they decide they go for it. They don’t go back and forth between options endlessly or overanalyze. 

They try their best to avoid “maybe” when it comes to future plans or decisions.

They weigh up the options and it’s either a “yes” or a “no.” 

This ties into the next point: 

3) Avoiding risk 

Confident men accept that risk is a part of life

They’re not reckless by any means, but they are willing to take a risk and take a chance. 

Whether that’s in business or in their personal life, they know that many of life’s greatest opportunities come with an element of risk. 

That’s just the way it is, and they don’t focus on the downsides too much, especially downsides that are out of their control. 

4) Fearing change

Change is the only constant in life. Confident guys have fully embraced that reality. 

They know that even a loving and fulfilling relationship is going to go through evolutions and changes; they know that even a wonderful and profitable business is going to have shifts in the industry. 

They don’t fear that or obsess over it. 

They prepare for it, yes, but they don’t take it as a personal victimization or slight against themselves or the life they are crafting. 

It’s just the price of the ride. 

5) Cowed by challenges 

Truly confident men aren’t scared of a challenge. 

As I noted, they know that change is the only constant in life and that all forward motion has an element of risk. 

Even choosing not to choose anything is potentially risky: it could mean missing out on meeting the love of your life or a huge business opportunity. 

That’s why hard times don’t scare a confident man:

In fact, he hones his skills, patience and grit under pressure and when times get tough. 

He also avoids the victim mentality like the plague. 

There is no better example of a deeply confident man than Nick Santonastasso, who not only doesn’t focus on the unfairness of how life treated him but encourages men and women everywhere to embrace their strength and potential no matter what. 

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6) Jealousy of others 

Truly confident guys are miles away from jealousy. 

They barely even register what others have, except as a curiosity or noticing by default. 

They’re not focused on what others are accomplishing or doing: they’re focused on their own plans and competing with themselves. 

They’re wrapped up in their own dreams, relationships and endeavors, not what somebody else is doing. They also don’t consume much TV or social media, because it’s just too abstract for them. 

They want real-life as much as possible, and they don’t envy what anybody else has. 

7) Self-abandoning 

Confident guys are loyal to themselves. 

They are self-aware and can own up when they make a mistake, but they do not engage in self-abandoning. 

They look after their health: mental and physical. 

They have their boundaries: personal and professional.

They have priorities and schedule requirements, and they also do their best to take time for self-care, hygiene and having a break. 

They respect their own time and needs and they aren’t afraid to put themselves and their well-being first when necessary. 

8) Buckling under pressure 

Truly confident guys don’t buckle under pressure. 

If they don’t know how to do something they seek help, and they don’t have a savior complex by any means. 

But they do their best to rise to the occasion, and they don’t panic or complain when a situation gets tense. 

They do their best to navigate whatever is going on and find somebody else who does know how to deal with it if not. 

They will also do their best to learn about how to do something better if possible, and take instructions and absorb new information in the process. 

This brings up the next point:

9) Fake competence 

Genuinely confident guys don’t try to act like anything they’re not or pretend to know about something they don’t know. 

They aren’t pretenders in any sense, and although there are certain areas they are very skilled in, there are other areas they aren’t.

They aren’t afraid to focus on what they’re good at and admit what they don’t know about. 

If they’re great at basic plumbing repairs but have no idea on how to fix issues in a stalling vehicle, they’ll be transparent about that without shame.

They’ll also make an effort to learn and be taught by others who do know if that’s helpful or realistic in a certain scenario. They have no shame about admitting they don’t know and being open to learn. 

10) Arrogance 

Truly confident men are the opposite of arrogant. 

They don’t swagger or brag, and they don’t have an inflated sense of their own importance.

They have a serene and calm confidence but they don’t try to talk a big game or get people to see how important they are. 

If you’ve ever met a very famous celebrity or cultural figure you have likely noticed this exact trait: they are quite unassuming and do not seek out a lot of attention or the feeling of being special. 

In fact, they enjoy a quiet chat and a dose of normalcy away from the crowd. 

That’s the thing about a truly confident guy: he’s sure of himself, but he doesn’t need validation or recognition of his value from anybody else. 

They are sure of themselves and take charge under pressure, but they don’t expect accolades and applause, nor are they trying to impress anybody. 

The truly confident man 

A truly self-assured individual directs his focus towards solutions rather than dwelling on problems. 

He views himself as possessing inherent value and recognizes his capabilities without displaying arrogance. 

Rather than boasting, he communicates openly and takes pride in his skills and accomplishments. 

He prioritizes self-care and remains true to his word, upholding traditional values that have historically fostered societal cohesion. 

The genuine confidence of such a man is unmistakable; it emanates from within and is not a facade. 

His sense of approval, well-being, and competence is internally derived, and he reflects this in his endeavors, relationships, and the positive energy and proactive attitude he brings to interactions with others.