There’s a subtle art to showing empathy and understanding. It’s not as easy as saying the right words—often, it involves a mastery of using the right gestures.

In fact, these little-known gestures can help us build stronger, more meaningful connections.

Think it’s difficult? Well, I’ve got some good news for you:

Like any other skill, anyone can learn these body language gestures! And in this article, we’re going to share some of these gestures with you.

So come with us as we delve into the fascinating world of non-verbal communication and explore how we can use it to express empathy and understanding.

Are you ready? Let’s get started!

1) Mirroring

It’s a natural human tendency to mimic the gestures, postures, and even facial expressions of those we are interacting with. This non-verbal cue is an unspoken way of saying, “I’m with you, I understand you.”

And you’ve probably unconsciously done this, too!

Want to see how? Try to pay attention next time you have a conversation with someone you feel connected to. Chances are, you’ll find yourself subtly mirroring their body language.

It’s honestly so wonderful how this simple, unconscious synchrony indicates a clear sign of mutual understanding and rapport.

Done right, it’s a little-known gesture that can signal deep empathy and understanding.

2) Eye contact

Eye contact is a fundamental part of human communication. Yet, it’s often underestimated in its ability to convey empathy and understanding.

I remember a time when I was going through a tough phase and decided to share my feelings with a friend. As I started talking about my struggles, I noticed something different about the way she was listening to me.

She was maintaining steady eye contact, not in an intimidating way, but a warm, understanding one. It wasn’t just her words of comfort that made me feel understood, it was her eyes – the way she held my gaze made me feel seen and heard.

That experience taught me the power of eye contact to convey empathy. It’s not about staring someone down, but rather about letting your eyes communicate that you’re fully present and genuinely interested in understanding their perspective.

3) Open posture

When we adopt an open posture, we signal to others that we are receptive and non-threatening.

In fact, researchers have found that people who adopt an open posture during conversations are perceived as more sympathetic and understanding. This includes uncrossing arms and legs, facing the person you’re talking to directly and keeping your body ‘open’ to them.

When we physically close ourselves off, we can unintentionally give the impression that we are emotionally closed off too.

So, next time you’re in a conversation where you want to convey empathy and understanding, pay attention to your body language. Adopting an open posture could make a significant difference in how your empathy is perceived!

4) Nodding

Sometimes, it’s the simplest gestures that can convey the deepest understanding. One such gesture is nodding.

We often nod unconsciously when we are listening to someone. It’s a universal sign of acknowledging what the other person is saying.

But beyond acknowledgement, nodding can also signal empathy.

When you nod while listening to someone, it sends a non-verbal message that you’re not just hearing their words, but also understanding their feelings and perspective.

But remember, empathy is about authentic connection. So, rather than mechanically nodding throughout the conversation, aim for genuine engagement. Nod when you truly understand and agree with what is being said.

5) Leaning in

Leaning in during a conversation is another subtle yet powerful body language gesture that can signal deep empathy and understanding.

When we lean towards someone, it’s a non-verbal way of showing that we’re fully engaged in the conversation and interested in what they have to say. It conveys a sense of respect for the speaker’s thoughts and feelings.

But, just like all the other gestures, leaning in should be done subtly and naturally. Leaning in too much can invade the other person’s personal space and make them uncomfortable.

6) Gentle touch

Touch is one of the most primal forms of communication we have. Used correctly, it can powerfully convey empathy and understanding.

Because a gentle touch on the arm or a reassuring pat on the back can say “I’m here for you” more eloquently than words ever could. It can make people feel secure and acknowledged, reminding them that they’re not alone.

Of course, remember to always respect personal boundaries. Not everyone is comfortable with physical touch, especially in certain scenarios or relationships.

But when appropriate, a small, comforting touch can be a profound demonstration of empathy.

If the situation allows and you feel it would be welcomed, don’t underestimate the power of a gentle touch. It’s a heartfelt gesture that can offer comfort and communicate deep understanding.

7) Offering a soft smile

Smiles are often seen as expressions of happiness or approval. But there’s another type of smile that conveys empathy and understanding: a soft, genuine smile.

There was a time when I was sharing my fears about an upcoming presentation with a colleague. I was nervous and doubting my abilities.

As I shared my worries, my colleague listened attentively and offered a soft smile. It wasn’t a smile of amusement or dismissal, but one of understanding. That simple smile made me feel seen and reassured me that my feelings were valid.

This is because a soft smile can be a powerful tool in demonstrating empathy. It shows the other person that you understand their feelings and are there to support them, without downplaying their emotions or offering unsolicited advice.

Remember, when someone shares their feelings or concerns with you, sometimes all they need is your understanding, conveyed through a soft, empathetic smile.

8) Active listening

Listening is an essential part of communication, but active listening takes it a step further. It involves concentrating on the speaker, understanding their message, and responding thoughtfully.

Active listening also involves more than just hearing the words being spoken. You also need to pay attention to non-verbal cues, maintain eye contact, and offer non-verbal feedback like nodding or leaning in.

A key part of active listening is also providing verbal feedback. This could be as simple as saying “I understand” or “That sounds tough”, or asking clarifying questions.

By demonstrating active listening, you’re signaling to the other person that you deeply care about their feelings and experiences. It’s one of the most effective ways of showing empathy and understanding.

9) Respectful silence

In our eagerness to show empathy and understanding, we often overlook the power of silence.

Because sometimes, the most supportive thing we can do is to simply be present and offer a respectful silence.

It’s in these quiet moments that the other person can express their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or interruption. It gives them space to process their emotions and shows them that you’re there to listen, not just to respond.

Silence can be uncomfortable, but it’s also a powerful way of showing respect for someone else’s experience. It signals that you’re giving them your full attention and that their feelings matter.

So, don’t rush to fill every silence. When someone is sharing something important with you, allow for moments of silence.

It may seem simple, but it can make a significant difference in showing them you care and you understand.

Final thoughts: It’s all about connection

Body language is more than just a form of communication; it’s a reflection of our emotions, our thoughts, and most importantly, our empathy towards others.

These small non-verbal cues – a soft smile, a gentle nod, an open posture – hold the power to make someone feel seen, heard, and valued.

When we learn to use these little-known gestures effectively, we are not just improving our communication skills. We are building stronger, deeper connections with those around us.