If you’re tired of always starting over again, say goodbye to these 9 habits

Ethan Sterling by Ethan Sterling | July 5, 2024, 11:09 am

There’s a big difference between moving forward and constantly starting over.

The difference lies in our habits. Starting over repeatedly can often be traced back to certain behaviors that hold us back.

Saying goodbye to these habits, on the other hand, can pave the way for progress and allow us to move forward without the constant need for a reset.

Getting rid of these habits is all about recognizing what’s holding us back and making a conscious effort to change.

And believe me, there are specific habits that are more likely to keep you stuck in a cycle of starting over.

Here are some of the habits you need to ditch if you’re tired of always hitting the reset button.

1) Procrastination

We all do it. We put things off until the last minute, telling ourselves we’ll get to it later.

This is what we call procrastination, and it’s a habit that can keep us stuck in a cycle of always starting over.

Think about it. You put off starting a project until the night before it’s due. You rush to complete it, and the result is less than stellar.

Now you’re back at square one, starting over again with a new project.

Breaking free from procrastination is all about taking action and managing your time effectively.

Start by setting clear goals and breaking tasks into manageable steps.

Eliminate distractions, stay focused, and reward yourself for completing each milestone. Consistency and perseverance are key!

2) Fear of failure

I’ve been there. The fear of failure can be paralyzing.

It’s kept me from trying new things, from taking risks, and even from pursuing my passions.

This fear can trap us in a cycle of always starting over, because we’re too scared to follow through on our ideas or plans.

We doubt ourselves and our abilities, and in the end, we self-sabotage.

For example, I once had the opportunity to give a big presentation at work.

But I was so afraid of failing, of messing up in front of my colleagues, that I ended up not preparing as well as I should have.

Needless to say, the presentation didn’t go as well as it could have, and I had to start from square one on the next project.

The fear of failure is a habit that can hold us back from reaching our full potential.

But once you begin to acknowledge this fear and consciously work towards overcoming it, you’ll find yourself able to move forward rather than constantly starting over.

3) Negative self-talk

Negative self-talk is a destructive habit that can keep us stuck in a cycle of always starting over.

This involves talking to ourselves in a critical or disparaging way.

Statements like “I can’t do this” or “I’m not good enough” can become self-fulfilling prophecies.

Research shows that self-talk can actually influence our stress levels and even our physical health.

It’s a powerful force that can either hold us back or propel us forward.

So, if you’re constantly berating yourself and doubting your abilities, it’s time to change the conversation.

Start by replacing those negative statements with positive affirmations. 

4) Lack of planning

Ever heard the saying, “Failing to plan is planning to fail”? It’s a cliché for a reason.

Lack of planning is a habit that can keep us stuck in the rut of constantly starting over.

Without a clear plan, we can easily get sidetracked or overwhelmed, leaving tasks half-done and projects unfinished.

And then, we’re back to square one, starting over again.

Creating a clear plan and setting realistic goals can provide direction and keep us on track.

It doesn’t have to be overly detailed or rigid; even a simple to-do list can make a significant difference.

5) Perfectionism

Aiming for excellence is great, but when it turns into perfectionism, it can keep us stuck in a loop of always starting over.

Perfectionism is the belief that we should always strive for flawlessness.

It can lead us to set unrealistic standards, causing us to constantly feel like we’re falling short.

This mindset can be incredibly draining and counterproductive.

It can make us hypercritical of our own work, leading us to scrap projects and start over because they aren’t “perfect.”

Letting go of perfectionism is about understanding that mistakes and flaws are part of the process.

They’re opportunities for growth, not reasons to start over.

6) Not believing in yourself

At the heart of it all, if we don’t believe in ourselves, it’s hard to move forward.

Second-guessing our decisions can keep us stuck in the cycle of starting over.

Here’s the thing: Believing in ourselves is essential for progress.

Challenge self-doubt by celebrating past achievements and focusing on strengths.

Set realistic goals, breaking them into smaller, achievable tasks.

Furthermore, surround yourself with supportive individuals who encourage and uplift you.

By nurturing self-belief and resilience, you’ll break free from the cycle of doubt and forge a path towards personal growth and success.

7) Avoidance of discomfort

Stepping outside of our comfort zone can be intimidating.

I understand that fear; I’ve felt it too. It’s a natural instinct to stay where we feel safe and comfortable.

But the thing is, growth often happens in the uncomfortable spaces.

If we avoid discomfort and always opt for the easy route, we could find ourselves stuck in a loop of starting over.

I remember when I was offered a promotion at work.

It was an exciting opportunity, but it also meant more responsibility and stepping into unfamiliar territory.

I was tempted to decline and stay in my comfortable, familiar role.

But I knew that if I didn’t take this step, I’d be stuck where I was, forever wondering what could have been.

Avoidance of discomfort can hold us back from growing and progressing.

Sometimes, we need to embrace the unfamiliar and the uncomfortable to truly move forward.

8) Not setting boundaries

In our personal and professional lives, boundaries are crucial.

Not setting boundaries can lead us to feel overwhelmed and undervalued, and can keep us stuck in a cycle of starting over.

Boundaries help us define what we are comfortable with and how we expect others to treat us.

Without them, we can end up overcommitting, taking on more than we can handle, and leaving no time for our own priorities.

Over time, this can lead to burnout and the feeling that we’re always playing catch up, always starting over.

Setting clear boundaries is about respecting our own time, energy, and needs.

It’s about learning to say ‘no’ when necessary and prioritizing what truly matters to us.

9) Ignoring self-care

The most important habit to break if you’re always starting over? Ignoring self-care.

When we ignore self-care, we run the risk of burnout, exhaustion, and decreased motivation.

We can end up feeling depleted and unable to move forward, leading to a cycle of constantly starting over.

Self-care can take many forms, from taking time for relaxation and hobbies, to regular exercise and healthy eating.

It’s about doing what makes you feel good and helps you recharge.

Final thought: The power lies within you

If you’re weary of perpetually hitting the restart button, it’s time for a change.

Bid farewell to these 9 habits that anchor you in the cycle of stagnation.

Seize control of your destiny, embrace growth, and pave the way for lasting progress.

The power to break free from the cycle of starting over lies within your grasp. 

As Lao Tzu wisely said, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

Your first step towards breaking the cycle could be as simple as saying goodbye to one of these habits.