If you’re facing repeated setbacks in life, say hello to these 9 life-changing habits

Graeme Richards by Graeme Richards | September 9, 2024, 7:30 pm

Life can be a roller coaster, full of ups and downs. If you’re like me and have faced repeated setbacks, you know how disheartening it can be.

But rather than getting bogged down, I’ve discovered that adopting certain habits can turn things around.

These aren’t just any habits. They’re life-changing ones that can help you bounce back from setbacks stronger than ever.

In this article, I’m going to introduce you to these 9 habits that have the potential to change your life for the better. So, if you’re ready for a positive shake-up, let’s get started!

1) Embrace failure

We’ve all heard it before, but it’s worth repeating: failure is a part of life.

I know, it feels terrible. But the truth is, every setback is an opportunity for growth. And the most successful people in the world are often those who have experienced the most failures.

It’s all about how you perceive and react to these failures.

Instead of seeing them as the end of the road, view them as lessons to be learned. What went wrong? What can you do better next time?

This shift in mindset, from fearing failure to embracing it, can make a huge difference. It turns setbacks into stepping stones, leading you closer to your goals.

So next time you face a setback, don’t let it get you down. Instead, see it as an opportunity for growth and learning.

Remember, even Thomas Edison failed thousands of times before he finally invented the light bulb. And look where that got him!

2) Practice gratitude

Here’s something that changed my life: practicing gratitude.

It sounds simple, but it’s incredibly powerful. During a particularly tough period, I felt like everything was going wrong. It was setback after setback, and I was feeling pretty low.

Then, I started a gratitude journal. Every night before bed, I’d write down three things I was grateful for that day.

It could be anything – a hot cup of coffee in the morning, a kind word from a friend, a beautiful sunset. Even on the worst days, I forced myself to find something positive.

Slowly but surely, my perspective began to shift. I started focusing more on the good in my life rather than dwelling on the setbacks. And it made a world of difference.

Gratitude didn’t make the setbacks disappear, but it helped me handle them better. It reminded me that even in the midst of struggles, there’s still so much to be thankful for.

So if you’re facing repeated setbacks, give gratitude a try. It might just change your life like it changed mine.

3) Develop a growth mindset

Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck has done extensive research on something called the “growth mindset”.

In her studies, she found that people who believe their abilities can develop over time, rather than being fixed traits, are more likely to achieve success. These people see challenges as opportunities to grow, not as threats or insurmountable obstacles.

This mindset can be especially helpful when facing setbacks. Instead of seeing them as proof that you’re not good enough or that you’ll never succeed, see them as opportunities for growth and improvement.

It’s like a muscle – the more you use it, the stronger it gets. So next time you face a setback, don’t get discouraged. Instead, see it as an opportunity to develop your abilities and come back stronger.

4) Set realistic goals

It’s easy to get carried away with big dreams and lofty ambitions. Don’t get me wrong, dreaming big is great, but it’s equally important to set realistic, achievable goals.

Setting smaller, attainable goals can provide a much-needed boost of confidence and motivation. Each time you achieve a goal, no matter how small, it’s a win. And each win brings you one step closer to your larger goal.

When faced with setbacks, having these smaller victories to look back on can remind you of your progress and keep you motivated.

So, remember to break down your big aspirations into smaller, manageable goals. And celebrate each achievement along the way. It’s all about taking one step at a time.

5) Prioritize self-care

When we’re faced with setbacks, it’s easy to push ourselves to the limit. We work harder, sleep less, and often forget to take care of our mental and physical health.

But here’s the thing: you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Self-care is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Whether it’s taking a walk in nature, practicing meditation, or just making sure you’re getting enough sleep – taking care of your well-being is crucial.

By prioritizing self-care, you’re not only ensuring that you have the energy to tackle your problems but also helping maintain a clear and focused mind.

So, when things get tough, remember to take a step back and take care of yourself. Your future self will thank you.

6) Surround yourself with positivity

When facing setbacks, it’s easy to get lost in the negativity. It feels like you’re surrounded by a cloud of gloom and doom. But let me tell you, it doesn’t have to be this way.

The people you surround yourself with can have a profound impact on your outlook on life. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people can help lift you up when you’re feeling down. They can offer words of encouragement, lend a listening ear, or simply be there for you when times are tough.

But it’s not just about the people, it’s also about the environment. Creating a positive, uplifting environment can be as simple as decluttering your workspace, putting up inspirational quotes, or filling your living space with plants.

Remember, positivity breeds positivity. So take a look at your surroundings and ask yourself: does this support my journey to overcome setbacks? If not, it might be time for a change.

7) Lean into discomfort

I remember a time when I was terrified of public speaking. The mere thought of standing in front of a crowd made my palms sweat and my heart race. But then, I was offered an opportunity to host a major event.

Instead of running away, I decided to lean into the discomfort. I prepared meticulously, practiced relentlessly and when the day came, I stepped onto that stage. It was terrifying, yes, but also exhilarating and empowering.

The experience taught me that discomfort often signifies growth. When you’re pushing your boundaries, stepping out of your comfort zone, that’s when you grow the most. Each setback then becomes not a roadblock, but a stepping stone towards personal growth.

So if you’re facing repeated setbacks, lean into the discomfort. It might just lead you to unexpected growth and triumphs.

8) Cultivate resilience

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. It’s the mental toughness that lets you keep going, even when things get tough.

Resilience doesn’t mean you won’t experience difficulty or distress. It means that when things do go wrong, you have the mental tools and resources to recover and even thrive.

You can cultivate resilience in many ways. Maintaining a positive attitude, practicing mindfulness, focusing on self-care, and building strong relationships are all key components of resilience.

When setbacks come your way, having resilience can help you navigate through them and emerge stronger on the other side. So start building your resilience today – it’s one of the most powerful tools you can have in your arsenal.

9) Remember, it’s a journey

Navigating through setbacks is a journey, not a race. There’s no finish line or magic wand that will suddenly make everything perfect. It’s all about growth, learning, and progress.

Sometimes, the journey might seem long and arduous, but remember: it’s the journey that shapes you. Every setback, every obstacle makes you stronger, wiser, and more resilient.

So embrace the journey. Cherish each step, each lesson learned. Because in the end, it’s not about where you end up, but who you become along the way.

Final thought: Embrace the journey

The journey of life is filled with twists and turns, peaks and valleys, triumphs and setbacks. It’s this unique blend of experiences that shapes us into who we are.

Consider a lump of coal under extreme pressure and heat. Over time, it transforms into a brilliant diamond. Similarly, the pressures of life’s setbacks have the potential to transform us into stronger, more resilient individuals.

Remember, setbacks are not roadblocks; they are stepping stones to success. Every setback is an opportunity to learn, grow, and come out stronger.

As American psychologist Carol S. Dweck once said, “Effort is what ignites that ability and turns it into accomplishment.” So keep going, keep growing, and embrace the journey.

Your setbacks do not define you; it’s how you respond to them that truly matters. So take these habits to heart, apply them in your life, and see how they can transform your setbacks into comebacks.

After all, life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.