They key to attracting a loyal and kind man isn’t just about what you do, it’s also about what you stop doing.

You see, there’s a significant difference between seeking love and unintentionally repelling it. And as a relationship expert and founder of the Love Connection blog, I’ve seen so many women unknowingly pushing away the kind of men they truly desire.

Ladies, it’s time to say goodbye to certain behaviors that might be standing in your way of finding a loyal and kind man.

Let me share with you the top 8 behaviors that you need to ditch for a better love life. And trust me, I’ve been there too – it’s all about learning, growing and moving forward on the journey to love. 

1) Being overly cynical

Sarcasm and cynicism can be funny in small doses, trust me, I’ve built a career on it.

But in my experience as a relationship expert, when it comes to attracting a loyal and kind man, this behavior can often do more harm than good.

Cynicism, especially when it’s directed towards relationships or men in general, can be a massive turn-off. It sends out signals that you might not be ready for a healthy relationship or that you’re carrying baggage from the past.

It’s totally fine to have your guard up, but a constant negative attitude can prevent a potential partner from seeing the real you. And the real you is what a loyal and kind man will fall in love with.

So ladies, let’s try to keep our cynicism in check. A positive outlook attracts positive outcomes – and potentially, a positive and loving partner.

2) Playing hard to get

We’ve all heard the old adage, “Treat ’em mean, keep ’em keen.” But in my experience, playing hard to get often leads to miscommunication and missed opportunities.

As a relationship expert, I’ve observed that men who are truly kind and loyal are usually not attracted to mind games.

They appreciate honesty and straightforwardness. And authenticity speaks louder than any game you could play.

I’ve learned this in my own relationships too. Genuine connection, not manipulation, is the key to attracting a loyal and kind man.

3) Being overly dependent

Independence is attractive. It’s a sign that you’re comfortable with who you are and that you’re not relying on someone else for your happiness or self-worth.

On the contrary, clinging too tightly can push a loyal and kind man away.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve into the importance of maintaining your individuality in a relationship.

The reality is, we’ve all been guilty of losing ourselves in a relationship at some point.

I’ve been there too.

But it’s crucial to remember that a healthy relationship consists of two complete individuals coming together, not two halves making a whole.

So ladies, let’s work on our independence. It’s not only good for us, but also for our relationships. And if you need help navigating this, my book is always there for you!

4) Always striving for perfection

It might sound counterintuitive, but striving for perfection can actually be a roadblock when it comes to attracting a loyal and kind man.

Perfection is an illusion. We’re all human, with our flaws and quirks, and that’s what makes us unique and beautiful.

When you constantly aim for perfection, it can create an unrealistic standard for yourself and others to live up to.

A loyal and kind man will appreciate you for who you truly are, imperfections and all. In my experience, showing your vulnerability can actually deepen your connection with others.

So ladies, let’s embrace our imperfections. They’re not our weaknesses, they’re our strengths.

5) Ignoring your own needs

This one is something I’ve personally struggled with.

It’s easy to prioritize the needs of the person we care about, often neglecting our own in the process. But this approach can lead to imbalance and resentment in a relationship.

A loyal and kind man wants to be with a woman who knows her worth and isn’t afraid to vocalize her needs. It’s not selfish to take care of yourself – it’s absolutely essential.

So, let’s not forget about self-care, ladies. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Balance is key in any relationship, and that starts with acknowledging and nurturing your own needs.

6) Hiding your past

Let’s be real here. We all have a past, with triumphs and mistakes, joys and heartaches. It’s what shapes us into the people we are today.

Trying to hide it or pretend it doesn’t exist is not only exhausting, but also unnecessary.

A loyal and kind man isn’t looking for a woman with a spotless past – he’s looking for a woman who’s learned from her experiences and grown from them.

Sharing your past can be scary, but it also leads to deep intimacy and understanding.

So, let’s own our stories, ladies.

Our past is not something to be ashamed of – it’s a testament to our resilience and strength. It makes us who we are, and the right person will appreciate that.

7) Ignoring red flags

We’ve all been there – so smitten or desperate for love that we ignore the glaring red flags waving right in front of us.

I’m certainly no stranger to this.

But as Maya Angelou wisely said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” Ignoring red flags can lead to heartbreak and wasted time.

A loyal and kind man will respect you, treat you well, and won’t make you question his intentions. If you see behaviors that contradict this, don’t ignore them.

Ladies, let’s trust our instincts and not settle for less than we deserve. It’s better to be single than in a bad relationship.

Believe me, I’ve learned this the hard way!

8) Fearing vulnerability

I’ll be honest, this is a tough one. Opening up and showing our true selves can be scary. We fear rejection, judgment, and getting hurt.

But here’s the thing – vulnerability is not a weakness, it’s a strength.

A loyal and kind man will appreciate your willingness to open up and share your feelings and fears. It creates a deeper connection and builds trust.

So, let’s not fear vulnerability, ladies. It might feel uncomfortable, but it’s the path to authentic connection and love.

Remember, we’re all human, and it’s okay to show it.

Conclusion

Attracting a loyal and kind man is about more than just avoiding certain behaviors – it’s about embracing who you are, being honest with yourself and others, and not being afraid to show your vulnerability.

I hope these points have given you some food for thought. Remember, there’s no perfect formula for love, but being true to yourself is a great start.

If you need more guidance on nurturing your individuality and overcoming codependency in relationships, my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship could be of great help.

Here’s to finding love that is kind, loyal and true to who you are. You deserve it, ladies!