There’s a stark contrast between being in love and falling out of love.

Love, my friends, isn’t always a burning flame; sometimes it’s a flickering candle that gradually fades away.

As Tina Fey, the founder of Love Connection and your go-to relationship guru, I’ve seen it all. And trust me when I say, the signs aren’t always as dramatic as you think.

Spotting these signs isn’t about blaming or self-pity; it’s about understanding your feelings and making conscious choices for your happiness.

Here are eight subtle signs to look out for. 

1) Conversation feels forced

Remember the days when you could talk for hours, lost in each other’s stories and laughter?

You see, one of the most beautiful things about being in love is how effortlessly conversation flows. But when love starts to fade, so does the ease of communication.

Suddenly, you’re finding it hard to maintain a conversation. It feels forced, almost like a chore. You’re no longer excited to share your day or listen to theirs.

This could be a clear sign that your feelings are changing. It doesn’t necessarily mean the end, but it’s a subtle indication that your love might be fading.

Keep an eye out on this, my dear friends. Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship, and when it starts to dry up, it’s time for some introspection.

2) Their quirks aren’t cute anymore

Remember when their little habits used to be endearing? The way they’d mispronounce certain words, or their obsession with organizing everything just so.

Love, in its early stages, has a way of making even the most annoying traits seem adorable.

But now, the very things you used to find cute are starting to get on your nerves. Suddenly, their quirks are not so charming anymore.

3) You’re no longer their number one priority

There was a time when you were at the top of each other’s priority list.

Remember those days? There was a certain magic in knowing that you mattered so much to someone else.

But now, things have changed. You notice they’re too busy for you, their attention divided, and you’re no longer their go-to person.

I’ve seen this many times in my career as a relationship expert. It’s a subtle but telling sign that your love for someone is fading.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how to recognize these signs and navigate through them.

It’s a journey, but one worth taking for self-discovery and growth.

4) You’re happier when they’re not around

This one might be a bit counterintuitive, but stick with me here.

When you’re in love, your partner’s presence ordinarily brings you joy, comfort, and a sense of security. Their company is something you crave and look forward to.

But if you find yourself feeling happier, more relaxed, or simply more ‘you’ when they’re not around, that could be a red flag.

It might seem odd to associate happiness with love fading, but it’s often the case when love turns into a burden rather than a source of joy.

5) Their touch doesn’t excite you anymore

I remember when a simple touch from my husband would send shivers down my spine. That’s the power of love, it makes even the simplest of touches feel like electricity.

But when love starts to fade, so does the magic in those touches.

If you find yourself cringing or feeling indifferent when they reach out to touch you, it could be a sign.

Love is about connection, and physical touch is one of the most profound ways we connect with each other.

When that connection doesn’t spark joy or excitement anymore, it might mean your love is fading.

It’s hard to admit, but recognizing it is the first step towards understanding your feelings better.

6) You fantasize about a life without them

This is a tough one to admit, but it’s often a clear signal that your love is fading.

When you’re deeply in love with someone, the thought of life without them feels unimaginable. They’re a part of:

• Your dreams
• Your future plans
• Your whole world

But if you find yourself daydreaming about a life without them, imagining what it would be like to be single or with someone else, it’s a sign.

It’s raw and honest, but it’s crucial to acknowledge these feelings.

7) You no longer share common interests

One of the things my husband and I bonded over when we first met was our love for comedy.

It was that shared sense of humor that brought us closer, filling our early days with countless hours of laughter, inside jokes, and a connection that felt effortless. Comedy became our go-to escape, our way of unwinding and enjoying each other’s company.

But what happens when those common interests start to fade? When the activities you used to love together don’t bring the same spark?

When you find yourself scrolling past those favorite shows or choosing different ways to spend your evenings?

Losing that shared ground can feel unsettling, like a piece of your connection is shifting.

8) You feel indifferent to their actions

This might be the rawest and most honest sign yet, my friends.

In a relationship, it’s quite normal to be affected by your partner’s actions. Whether they make you happy, upset, or angry, it shows that you care.

But when love starts to fade, so does this emotional connection.

You might find yourself feeling indifferent to things they do, even things that would have previously upset or excited you.

Indifference, I believe, is far more telling than anger or frustration. It’s a sign that you’re emotionally disconnecting from the relationship.

Conclusion

Recognizing that your love for someone is fading can be tough, but it’s an important step in understanding your feelings and navigating your relationship.

Remember, it’s okay to feel this way. Relationships evolve, and so do our feelings.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve deeper into these signs and provide practical advice on how to handle such situations.

The most important thing is to stay honest with yourself and make choices that lead to your happiness.

After all, love should bring joy, not burden. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey.

Thank you for taking the time to read this article. I hope it helps you better understand your feelings and guides you towards making the best decisions for your emotional well-being.