Have you ever met someone and instantly felt a connection that went deeper than just friendship? It’s as if you’ve known them for lifetimes, not just moments.

These are platonic soulmates—the friends who understand you profoundly, often better than you understand yourself.

Finding that person who truly gets you, who’s there for you through thick and thin, but with whom you share no romantic feelings might seem like an impossible task.

But trust me, it’s not.

Here are some ways to know for sure that you’ve found a platonic soulmate in your life. Even if it may seem too good to be true, it isn’t.

1) They just get you

Understanding is the cornerstone of any strong bond, and when it comes to a platonic soulmate, it’s no different.

You may have noticed that there’s someone who just seems to “get” you.

This isn’t about agreeing on everything or having the same hobbies. It’s more profound than that.

It’s about someone understanding your thoughts, your emotions, and your perspective, even when you struggle to articulate them yourself.

When you share your ideas or feelings with them, they don’t just nod along or offer empty platitudes. They delve deeper into what you’re saying, providing insight and empathy. They understand your quirks, your passions, and even your silences.

If you’ve got someone in your life who seems to grasp your inner world like no one else, then congratulations! You might be looking at a platonic soulmate.

2) You can be your authentic self with them

This is something that I hold dear: being able to be completely myself with someone and not having to put up a front.

Deep emotional connections are those where we feel free to be vulnerable, to share our deepest thoughts and fears without the fear of judgement or ridicule.

Take my friend Sarah for example. There’s something about our relationship that just allows me to drop all pretenses when I’m with her.

I can talk about my insecurities, my hopes and dreams, even my silliest thoughts, and she never makes me feel silly or insignificant.

There was this one time when I was going through a really tough phase in my life. I was doubting myself, questioning my decisions and generally feeling lost.

I remember opening up to Sarah about it all. We sat on her couch, eating ice cream and talking well into the night.

She didn’t try to fix everything for me or offer unsolicited advice; she just listened, understanding and empathizing with what I was going through.

That’s the thing about platonic soulmates: they create a safe space for you to be your most authentic self. There’s no need for pretense or pretending with them.

You can simply be you, in all your glory and imperfection, and they still love you for it.

3) They stand by you in your darkest hours

There’s a beautiful quote by Helen Keller that goes, “Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.”

This resonates deeply when we’re talking about platonic soulmates.

The real test of any relationship isn’t when everything is going great, but when everything falls apart.

In those dark times, your platonic soulmate is the one who stands by your side, offering support and comfort.

So, if there’s someone in your life who sticks around when things get rough, who picks you up when you fall and offers a comforting presence during your darkest hours, they just might be your platonic soulmate.

4) They inspire you to be a better person

In the world of psychology, there’s something known as ‘the Michelangelo effect‘.

It’s a phenomenon where the close presence of a person in our lives shapes us to become better versions of ourselves, much like how Michelangelo chiseled away at a block of marble to reveal the statue within.

One of the signs that you have a platonic soulmate in your life is their ability to inspire this growth in you. 

Your platonic soulmate encourages you, motivates you, and celebrates your victories with genuine happiness. They see your potential even when you can’t and gently nudge you towards becoming the best version of yourself.

They’re not afraid to call you out on your mistakes or challenge you, but they do this with kindness and respect, always focusing on your growth and well-being.

5) Mutual respect is a given

In every relationship, respect is crucial. But in a platonic soulmate relationship, it’s not just a requirement, it’s a given.

You respect each other’s boundaries, ideas, and feelings. Even when you disagree, you do so respectfully, acknowledging the other’s viewpoint without belittling or invalidating them.

You might argue, but you never cross the line into personal attacks or hurtful words.

You also respect each other’s individuality and personal growth. There’s no jealousy or possessiveness; instead, you celebrate each other’s achievements and are supportive of personal space and time alone.

6) Time and distance don’t affect your bond

With a platonic soulmate, time and distance apart aren’t really relevant.

Your bond with them isn’t dependent on seeing each other every day or even talking every day.

You can go weeks or even months without contact and yet, when you reconnect, it feels like no time has passed at all.

Distance doesn’t hinder your relationship; in fact, it might even make it stronger. Whether you’re in the same city or halfway across the world from each other, the connection remains unshaken.

Life can get busy. Circumstances change. People move away. But if there’s someone in your life with whom your bond remains strong, regardless of time or distance, they just might be your platonic soulmate.

7) They enrich your life

At the end of the day, one of the most telling signs that you have a platonic soulmate is the simple fact that they enrich your life.

They bring joy, comfort, understanding, and growth into your life. They’re not just a part of your life, but they contribute to it in a meaningful and positive way. They make your life better just by being in it.

Their presence in your life brings out the best in you and adds a layer of depth and enrichment that you never thought possible. They inspire you, support you, and love you for who you are.

They are more than just a friend; they are a confidant, a support system, and a pillar of strength. And their impact on your life is something that you cannot put into words.

If there’s someone in your life who adds such value and richness to your existence, then congrats, my friend! You have found your platonic soulmate.

Final thoughts

Having a platonic soulmate is a special kind of bond that not everyone is fortunate enough to experience. So, if you’ve recognized these behaviors in one of your relationships, cherish it.

But remember, relationships, even platonic ones, require effort and nurturing. Keep communication open and never take their presence for granted.

And most importantly, always be there for them as they are for you.