Love. It’s a small word with a big meaning.

In my years as a relationship expert and founder of Love Connection, I’ve come to believe that true love isn’t just about grand gestures, it’s in the little things too.

Doing certain things for your partner doesn’t just show that you care, it’s a sign that you’re deeply, madly, head-over-heels in love.

Curious to know what these actions are? I’ve compiled 8 things that if you’re doing for your partner, it’s safe to say you’re pretty much smitten.

Let’s dive in. 

1) You listen

It’s simple but profound. In the whirlwind of life, do you take time to truly listen to your partner?

Listening doesn’t just mean being present when they’re speaking. It involves empathizing, understanding, and responding appropriately to their needs and feelings.

This kind of attentive listening goes beyond the ordinary chit-chat. It’s about diving into the depths of your partner’s thoughts, dreams, and even fears.

In a world that’s increasingly noisy, a listening ear is a precious gift. It shows that you value your partner’s viewpoints beyond just your own.

When your partner wants to talk, put aside what you’re doing and really listen. This simple act can mean more than any words can say and is a sure sign of deep love.

True love isn’t just about talking, it’s about listening too.

2) You make sacrifices

In my years of exploring the intricacies of love, I’ve learned that making sacrifices for your partner is a powerful testament to the depth of your affection.

But what do I mean by sacrifice? It doesn’t have to be something grandiose. It can be as simple as giving up your favorite TV show so your partner can watch theirs, or waking up early on a Saturday to make them breakfast in bed.

As the legendary writer, Oscar Wilde once said, “Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.”

True love means putting your partner’s needs and wants above your own, even when it’s inconvenient.

If you find yourself making little (or big) sacrifices for your partner’s happiness without a second thought, it’s a telltale sign that you’re deeply in love.

3) You respect their independence

Now, this might seem a bit counterintuitive. After all, aren’t we talking about signs of deep love? Well, believe it or not, respecting your partner’s independence is one of those signs.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve deeper into the importance of this point.

Allowing your partner to be their own person, with their own hobbies, interests and friends, shows that you value and respect them as an individual.

It’s about understanding that love isn’t about ownership or dependency. It’s about choosing to be together while still being two distinct individuals.

If you find yourself encouraging your partner to pursue their own passions and interests, rather than stifling them out of jealousy or insecurity, you’re displaying a level of love that’s profound and mature.

4) You don’t avoid arguments

Here’s one that might surprise you. If you’re deeply in love, you don’t avoid arguments with your partner.

Yes, you read that right. Arguments, when handled constructively, can actually be a sign of a healthy and deeply loving relationship.

When you’re truly in love, you’re invested in the relationship and care about sorting out disagreements. It’s not about trying to win an argument; rather, it’s about resolving issues and finding common ground.

Running away from arguments or sweeping issues under the rug is easy, but facing them head-on requires courage and a whole lot of love.

It’s not about how often you argue but how you manage those arguments. The aim is to grow together, not apart.

If you’re ready to engage in healthy debates with your partner for the sake of your relationship, it’s a surefire sign that your love runs deep.

5) You remember the little things

Have you ever been surprised by your partner remembering a tiny detail from a story you told them ages ago? It made you feel special, didn’t it?

In my personal experience, this is one of the most heartwarming signs of deep love. Remembering the small things – like their favorite ice cream flavor or the name of their childhood pet – shows that you truly pay attention and value what they share.

It’s these little acts of thoughtfulness that can make your partner feel loved and cherished.

It’s a beautiful sign that your love for them goes beyond the surface.

6) You accept their flaws

Let’s get real for a moment. True love isn’t just about cherishing your partner’s strengths and admirable qualities. It’s about accepting their flaws too.

We all have our quirks, our weaknesses and those parts of us that aren’t so perfect. But when you’re deeply in love, these imperfections don’t drive you away; instead, they make your partner uniquely them.

Accepting your partner’s flaws doesn’t mean ignoring them or pretending they don’t exist. It means understanding that nobody’s perfect and choosing to love them anyway, for who they truly are.

If you find yourself loving your partner, quirks and all, that’s as real and as raw as love gets.

7) You’re their biggest cheerleader

In my journey of understanding love, I’ve found this to be undeniably true – when you’re deeply in love, you become your partner’s biggest cheerleader.

You believe in their dreams, even the crazy ones. You support them, encourage them, and celebrate their victories as if they were your own.

As the renowned poet, Maya Angelou once said, “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”

When you’re deeply in love, you find joy in their joy and stand by them in their challenges.

If you find yourself being your partner’s number one fan, then my friend, you’re not just in love, you’re deeply in love.

8) You prioritize their happiness

Here’s the raw truth: when you’re deeply in love, your partner’s happiness becomes your happiness, and their sorrow, your sorrow.

You put their needs before yours, not out of obligation, but because seeing them happy brings you joy. It’s not about losing yourself or playing martyr. It’s about willingly making choices that contribute to their well-being and contentment.

It might mean compromising on where to eat dinner or spending your free time doing something they enjoy. It’s not always easy, but it comes from a place of deep affection and respect.

Conclusion

Love is a complex emotion, full of twists and turns. But at its core, it’s about showing up for your partner in ways that matter. If you’re doing these 8 things for your partner, then indeed, you’re deeply in love.

For more insights into navigating the complexities of love, do check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s packed with practical advice to help you build strong, healthy, and deeply loving relationships.

Love isn’t just about saying the words; it’s about demonstrating it through your actions every day.