If you display these 7 behaviors, you’re probably more likable than you think

Lucas Graham by Lucas Graham | February 23, 2024, 12:58 pm

Hey there, maybe you don’t know but you could be more likable than you even realize. Yes, you heard me right!

There are certain behaviors that instantly make us more appealing to others. Chances are, you’re already exhibiting some (or all) of them without even knowing it.

So, ready for some self-discovery?

Let’s dive into these 7 behaviors that might just prove you’re more likable than you give yourself credit for.

1) You’re a good listener

Let’s start with this.

Listening. It sounds easy, right?

But how many of us truly listen when someone else is speaking? Not just hearing the words, but really understanding the message?

Here’s the thing.

People love to be heard. It makes them feel valued. And if you’re the one making them feel this way, guess what?

They’re going to like you. A lot.

So, next time someone’s talking, pay attention. Show genuine interest. Respond appropriately.

Being a good listener can make you more likable than you ever thought possible.

2) You’re authentically you

People can spot a phony from a mile away. Trust me, I’ve learned this the hard way.

I used to think that in order to be liked, I had to always agree with everyone else. So, I would nod along, even when I didn’t quite share the same opinion.

But one day, a dear friend pulled me aside. She told me straight up, “We like you for you. Not because you agree with everything we say.”

It was a lightbulb moment for me.

From then on, I made a conscious effort to be more authentic. To voice my opinions, even when they differed from the crowd.

And guess what? People respected me for it. They liked me even more because I was being true to myself.

Authenticity is key. Be genuine, be yourself.

3) You show empathy

Let me share a little story with you.

A few years back, I was at a party, and I noticed a friend standing alone, looking a little down. Instead of joining the others on the dance floor, I decided to go over and check on her.

We talked, I listened, and I tried my best to understand what she was feeling. I remember her saying, “I don’t know why, but just talking to you makes me feel better.”

That moment stuck with me.

You see, showing empathy is powerful. It’s about understanding and sharing the feelings of others.

And it doesn’t just apply to friends in need. It could be as simple as sharing excitement when a colleague gets a promotion or feeling joy for a buddy who just became a parent.

Empathy connects us. It makes people feel understood and less alone.

4) You’re positive

Have you ever noticed how being around positive people simply lifts your spirits?

Positivity is infectious. It’s a breath of fresh air in a world that can often seem full of negativity.

You see, those who maintain a positive outlook, who find the silver lining even in tough situations, they’re like magnets. People are drawn to them.


Because they make us feel good. They inspire us.

If you’re the kind of person who tends to see the glass as half full, congratulations! You’re spreading positivity and it’s making you more likable.

5) You’re modest

It’s not about downplaying your accomplishments or pretending you’re less than you are. It’s about acknowledging your strengths without flaunting them.

Interestingly, people who display modesty are more liked and respected by their peers.


Because modesty shows humility. It shows that you know your worth, but you also recognize the value in others.

6) You’re reliable

I’ll never forget the day I let my friend down.

She was moving and had asked for my help. I agreed, but then completely forgot and made other plans.

Seeing the disappointment on her face when I told her I couldn’t make it… it was a wake-up call.

Reliability is crucial in any relationship. Whether it’s showing up when you say you will, meeting a deadline, or simply keeping a promise – it all counts.

If people know they can count on you, it builds trust. It shows that you value them and their time.

7) You appreciate others

This is it.

The most important behavior that makes you likable.


People love to feel appreciated. It validates their efforts and makes them feel good about themselves.

If you’re someone who isn’t shy about expressing gratitude, who recognizes the good in others and lets them know it, you’re a gem.

Because when you appreciate others, it not only uplifts them, it also reflects positively on you. It shows you’re considerate, thoughtful, and kind.

And let’s face it – who wouldn’t like someone like that?

Reflections and takeaways

Look at you.

You’ve journeyed through these 7 behaviors and perhaps found yourself nodding along. It’s possible you’ve discovered that you’re more likable than you initially thought. And that’s a wonderful revelation.

But here’s something to remember – being likable isn’t about pleasing everyone around you. It’s about being authentic, empathetic, reliable, modest, positive, and appreciative. Most importantly, being your true self.

As Oscar Wilde wisely said, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”

Take a moment to reflect. Are you displaying these behaviors because they’re genuinely a part of who you are? Or are you doing so in an attempt to be liked?

Don’t forget, your worth isn’t defined by how much others like you. It’s defined by how much YOU like you.

Continue to grow and evolve. Strive to be the best version of yourself – for yourself.