When’s the last time you really had a blast with your partner? I mean, belly-aching, tears-streaming-down-your-face kind of fun? Drawing a blank?

If you’re scratching your head wondering why the fun seems to have fizzled out in your relationship, these seven habits might be the culprits.

Take a moment. Dive in. You might just uncover some hard truths and get that laughter echoing again.

1) You’re glued to your devices

Let’s start with an easy one.

Smartphones, tablets, laptops. We live in a connected world, it’s true. But are these gadgets connecting us or disconnecting us from the people we love?

I want you to think about it.

How often are you or your partner buried in your devices, even during ‘us’ time? Are you scrolling through social media while watching a movie together? Are dinner conversations interrupted by constant pinging notifications?

Here’s a reality check.

Our devices can sometimes create an invisible wall between us and our partners. And the fun? It gets lost behind that screen.

2) You’ve stopped trying new things together

Now, this one hits close to home.

My partner and I, we’ve been together for quite some time. And we fell into a routine, just like most couples do. Movie nights on Fridays, grocery shopping on Saturdays, lazy Sundays at home.

Sounds comfortable, right?

But here’s the thing. It was also becoming monotonous. The spark was dwindling. We were losing the fun.

And then it hit me – we had stopped exploring new things together.

Remember how exciting it was at the start of your relationship? Every outing was an adventure, every shared experience, a treasure.

So we decided to shake things up. We tried cooking classes, started a joint fitness challenge, went hiking on weekends. Did we fail at some of these? Absolutely. But did we laugh and enjoy ourselves? You bet!

Stepping out of our comfort zone brought back the thrill we’d been missing. And guess what? It might just do the same for you too. So go ahead, try something new with your partner and let the good times roll again.

3) You’ve let the daily grind take over

I’m going to share something personal here.

My partner and I, we both have demanding jobs. The kind that leaves you drained by the end of the day. We’d come home, exhausted, barely exchange a few words before retiring to our respective corners.

We were so caught up in the daily grind that we didn’t realize we were turning into roommates, instead of being partners. The fun? It had taken a backseat.

One day, out of the blue, my partner brought home a deck of cards. I was puzzled. Cards? Really? But I played along.

We spent the evening playing various card games, laughing at our silly attempts to outdo each other. It was simple, yet incredibly fun. And it made me realize – we hadn’t let loose like this in a long time.

The lesson here?

Don’t let the monotony of daily life rob you of the joy in your relationship. Find those little pockets of fun amidst the chaos. It could be a game night like ours or a surprise dinner date. Break the routine and bring back the laughter.

4) You’ve forgotten the power of surprise

Let’s talk surprises.

Remember those early days of your relationship? The unexpected flowers, the surprise date nights, the unplanned trips. Weren’t they exciting? Didn’t they add an element of fun to your relationship?

But as time goes on, we often forget the power of a good surprise.

I’ll share a little secret here.

One day, I decided to surprise my partner with a spontaneous picnic in our backyard. Nothing fancy, just some sandwiches, her favorite cookies and a cozy blanket under the stars.

The look on her face was priceless! It broke the monotony of our routine and brought back a spark of fun that we hadn’t realized was missing.

So why not try it? Plan a surprise for your partner. It doesn’t have to be grand or expensive, just thoughtful. It’s these little unexpected moments that can bring back the fun and keep the spark alive in your relationship.

5) You’ve stopped laughing together

Laughter, they say, is the best medicine. But did you know it’s also a powerful bonding tool in relationships?

I stumbled upon this truth in an unusual way.

A couple of years into our relationship, my partner and I hit a rough patch. We were bickering over trivial things, and the fun seemed to have evaporated.

Then one day, we found ourselves stuck in a massive traffic jam. Frustrated and irritable, we were on the brink of another argument.

Just then, a goofy song came on the radio – one from our college days. We looked at each other and burst out laughing, reminiscing about our silly dance moves to that tune. The tension melted away, replaced by shared laughter and a renewed connection.

That’s when it clicked.

Laughter isn’t just about cracking jokes or watching funny movies. It’s about finding joy in the shared moments, however mundane they might seem.

6) You’ve stopped expressing appreciation

This one’s a tough pill to swallow.

I had always believed I was a good partner. I was there for my loved one, supported them, cared for them. But then, I realized something that turned my perspective upside down.

I had stopped expressing my appreciation for them.

I took it for granted that they knew how much I valued them, how grateful I was for their love and support. How wrong I was!

One day, I simply thanked my partner for being there for me and making my life better. It was a small gesture, but the warmth in their smile spoke volumes. It was a simple moment, yet so profound.

Since then, we’ve made it a habit to express our appreciation for each other regularly. And guess what? It not only brought us closer but also added an unexpected layer of fun and warmth to our relationship.

7) You’ve forgotten to be curious about each other

Here’s arguably the most important thing to remember.

No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, never stop being curious about them.

People evolve, interests change, dreams shift. And if you’re not curious, you’ll miss out on these changes in your partner.

Once, I realized that my partner had developed a new interest in gardening, something she had never cared for before. Instead of dismissing it, I embraced her new hobby. We spent hours in the garden together, learning, experimenting, and yes, failing together.

It was fun, refreshing and brought us closer than ever.

Bringing it all together

These habits aren’t set in stone. They can be changed, reformed, and replaced with healthier ones that bring back the fun in your relationship. The power to transform your relationship lies within you.

Start by taking a closer look at your habits. Are you truly present with your partner? Are you trying new things together? Are you laughing enough? Are you expressing your appreciation?

Think about these questions. Reflect on them. You might unearth some surprising truths.

Every small act of change is a step towards a more fun-filled and fulfilling relationship. And isn’t that worth the effort?

So take that step today, and bring back the joy and fun in your relationship. Remember, it’s not just about having a partner, but enjoying the journey together. Keep exploring, keep laughing, keep loving.

You’ve got this.