Being fake means putting on a facade, often to manipulate others into thinking or behaving a certain way. It’s about controlling perceptions rather than fostering true connections.

We all know those individuals who seem to be something they’re not. And the telltale signs often lie in their choice of words.

In this article, we’ll delve into 10 phrases that are dead giveaways of a fake personality. 

Let’s get started. 

1) Trust me…

You know those moments when someone is trying to convince you of something and they suddenly slip in a ‘Trust me’?

This phrase often sounds more like a command rather than a reassurance. It’s an attempt to bypass your skepticism and quickly gain your confidence.

Unfortunately, genuine trust isn’t built through words, it’s built through actions. When people repeatedly use this phrase, it can indicate that they’re more interested in controlling the narrative than building an authentic connection.

While there can be times when ‘Trust me’ is used innocently, be wary if it becomes a regular part of someone’s conversation. It’s often a sign of a person who is trying to manipulate rather than genuinely connect.

Keep in mind, authentic people don’t need to constantly remind you to trust them. Their actions speak louder than their words.

2) I’m not like the others…

Ever had someone tell you they’re not like everyone else? I remember once meeting a person who kept insisting they were “different from the rest”. It was almost as if they were trying too hard to convince me of their uniqueness.

In my experience, those who are truly unique or different don’t feel the need to constantly point it out. Their actions and behaviors naturally set them apart.

The phrase “I’m not like the others” can sometimes be a subtle attempt to create an image or perception, rather than reflecting their true self. It’s as if they’re trying to sell you on a particular image of themselves.

3) I know everything…

The phrase “I know everything” is often used by people who are trying to assert their dominance or superiority in a conversation. These individuals tend to believe that they have all the answers and rarely entertain the possibility of being wrong.

Interestingly, a study published in Psychological Science found that people who think they know it all, or claim to have superior knowledge, are often more likely to fall for false information. This is due to the fact that they’re less likely to question or verify the information they receive.

When someone frequently insists that they “know everything”, it might just be their attempt to mask their insecurities and portray an image of infallibility. True wisdom, after all, lies in knowing that you know nothing.

4) I hate drama…

Ironically, people who claim to hate drama often seem to be the ones constantly surrounded by it. “I hate drama” could be their attempt to distance themselves from the chaos they might be creating or contributing to.

Realistically, nobody truly enjoys unnecessary conflict or drama. Therefore, when someone feels the need to repeatedly assert their distaste for it, it might suggest that they are trying to deflect attention away from their own dramatic behaviors.

Actions speak louder than words. If their life seems like a never-ending soap opera, despite their vocal aversion to drama, you might be dealing with a person who isn’t as genuine as they claim to be.

5) You won’t believe what happened…

We all have that friend or acquaintance who always seems to have an unbelievable story to share. While it’s normal to have occasional extraordinary experiences, if someone consistently starts their conversations with “You won’t believe what happened…”, it might be a red flag.

This phrase can be a sign that the person thrives on attention and drama. They may exaggerate or even fabricate stories to make themselves seem more interesting or appealing.

Genuine people don’t need to constantly create sensational narratives. Their authenticity makes them interesting enough. So, be cautious around those who always seem to have a dramatic tale to tell.

6) I’m always here for you…

At face value, “I’m always here for you” sounds like a comforting and supportive statement. However, when used insincerely, it can be a manipulative tool.

Some people use this phrase to appear caring and compassionate, but when you actually need their support, they’re nowhere to be found. This inconsistency between words and actions can leave you feeling betrayed and hurt.

Genuine people don’t just offer support with words; they show it through their actions. If someone continually promises to be there for you but consistently falls short, it may be a sign of insincerity.

7) I never lie…

“I never lie” is a phrase that has always made me wary. In my early twenties, I had a friend who used this line frequently. However, I started noticing small inconsistencies in their stories and actions. The claim of never lying seemed to be more of a smokescreen than an actual fact.

The truth is, we all tell small lies from time to time, whether it’s to avoid hurting someone’s feelings or to make ourselves look better.

Someone who asserts they never lie is likely trying to project an image of moral superiority that isn’t entirely honest.

8) I’m so humble…

“Humility” and “boasting” are two concepts that rarely go hand in hand. Yet, some people find a way to announce their humility as if it’s another feather in their cap.

“I’m so humble” is a phrase that immediately raises eyebrows. True humility doesn’t need to be announced or showcased. It’s quietly evident in a person’s actions, attitudes, and the way they treat others.

Paradoxically, someone who frequently declares their humility might just be seeking validation for being humble, which in turn contradicts the essence of true humility.

When someone tells you how humble they are, you might want to look a little closer at their actions.

9) I don’t care what people think…

“I don’t care what people think” is a phrase often used by people to project an image of strength and independence. However, it’s a normal human instinct to care about the opinions of others, especially those we respect and value.

When someone repeatedly asserts that they’re unaffected by others’ thoughts, it might be an attempt to hide their vulnerability or a defense mechanism against criticism.

True confidence isn’t about ignoring the opinions of others, but rather about knowing which opinions to take on board and which to let go. 

When someone continually insists they don’t care what people think, they might not be as genuine as they’re trying to appear.

10) I’m always the victim…

The world isn’t black and white, and neither are our interactions with others. So, when someone perpetually portrays themselves as the victim, it’s a cause for concern.

People who regularly use the phrase “I’m always the victim” may be trying to manipulate others into sympathizing with them or excusing their actions. It’s a way of shirking responsibility and avoiding accountability for their own behavior.

In reality, we all make mistakes and it’s important to own up to them. Those who are genuine are able to acknowledge their missteps, learn from them, and grow. 

Reflect and resonate

Being wary of the phrases we’ve discussed doesn’t mean you need to doubt every person who uses them. Rather, it’s about understanding the potential manipulative undertones that these phrases can carry.

Genuine people are consistent in their actions. They don’t feel the need to constantly validate themselves through words because their actions speak for themselves.

Recognizing potentially fake people isn’t about judging others, but about protecting your own emotional space. It allows you to invest your time and energy in relationships that are authentic and meaningful.