We all have people around us who genuinely want us to succeed. But, unfortunately, we also encounter those who, for whatever reason, secretly wish for our downfall.

It’s often not as obvious as you might think. These individuals are masters of subtlety, hiding their true intentions behind a facade of friendliness.

Decoding these subtle signs is crucial to protect yourself. I’m going to share with you seven behaviors that usually indicate someone doesn’t have your best interests at heart.

Keep reading if you’re ready to uncover these subtle signs that someone may quietly want you to fail in life.

1) They downplay your successes

Success is something to be celebrated, right? But if someone in your life seems to consistently downplay or dismiss your achievements, that’s a red flag.

These individuals have a knack for making your victories seem less significant. They might use phrases like “Oh, anyone could have done that,” or “It’s not that big of a deal.” They may even subtly change the subject or divert the attention away from you.

This is a classic sign that they may not want you to succeed. They’re trying to dampen your spirit, make you feel less accomplished and subtly undermine your self-esteem.

2) They’re never truly happy for you

I learned this one the hard way. A few years back, I got a promotion that I’d been working towards for a long time. Naturally, I was ecstatic and couldn’t wait to share the news with my friends.

One friend, however, had a strange reaction. Instead of congratulating me, they made a snide remark about how I must have “charmed the boss.” And, in every subsequent conversation, they’d make subtle digs about my job.

It took me a while to realize that their comments were not just casual jokes but signs of their hidden resentment. Their inability to be genuinely happy for my success was a clear indication that they didn’t truly want the best for me.

Always remember, a person who wants you to succeed will celebrate your happiness, not downplay or ridicule it.

3) They spread negative gossip about you

Gossip has a way of spreading like wildfire.

When someone spreads negative rumors or stories about you, it’s not just an attempt to tarnish your reputation. It’s also a tactical move to make others perceive you in a less positive light.

This behavior is an underhanded way for them to potentially hinder your progress and set you up for failure. So, if you notice someone constantly sharing unfavorable or untrue stories about you, know that it might be a subtle sign of their ill intentions towards your success.

4) They’re quick to highlight your mistakes

Everybody makes mistakes. They’re a natural part of life and learning. However, if someone in your life seems to pounce on your errors with an unhealthy eagerness, take note.

They might point out your mistakes in front of others, or constantly bring up past errors you’ve made. This behavior serves to undermine your confidence and make you second-guess yourself.

Constructive criticism is one thing, but if the critique is consistently negative and rarely balanced with praise, it could indicate that this person relishes in your failures more than they should.

5) They avoid supporting your endeavors

A few years ago, I started a small online business. It was a significant step for me, and I was enthusiastic about the support from my friends and family. Everyone, except for one person.

This friend never shared my posts, never bought any of my products, and never attended any of my business events. It felt like they were deliberately avoiding any involvement or support for my new venture.

When someone actively avoids supporting your endeavors or projects, it can be a subtle sign that they don’t want you to succeed. Genuine supporters will show interest and encouragement towards your dreams and goals. If they’re conspicuously absent or disinterested, it might be time to question their intentions.

6) They compare you negatively to others

Comparisons can be a tricky thing. They can either motivate us to do better or make us feel inadequate. If someone frequently compares you negatively to others, it’s not just damaging to your self-esteem, but it’s also a sign that they may not want you to succeed.

Whether it’s about your career, relationship, or personal achievements, if they’re always finding someone else who’s “doing it better,” it’s a subtle way of saying that you’re not good enough.

7) They’re not there when you need them the most

Life is full of ups and downs. During those challenging times, the people who truly want you to succeed will be there to offer support. If someone consistently disappears or becomes distant when you’re going through a rough patch, it’s a telling sign.

Their lack of support is not just about them not being physically present. It can also be about them belittling your problems, offering unhelpful advice, or showing no empathy towards your situation.

Remember, a person who wants you to succeed will stand by your side during tough times, offering encouragement and help in any way they can. If they’re conspicuously absent during these moments, it might indicate their true feelings about your success.