You don’t want to get too close to an untrustworthy woman.

Why?

Because there’s always the very REAL risk that you’ll end up at wit’s end and saddled with trust issues for decades—if not the rest of your life!

Thankfully, it’s possible to figure out what kind of person someone is based on the words they speak.

In this article, I’ll share with you 10 of the favorite phrases of women who are not very trustworthy.

1) “Huh? I didn’t promise anything, did I?”

You’re somewhat upset about her not keeping up with her promises so you try to confront her about it… only for her to say “Huh? Look, did I actually PROMISE anything?”

And you try to recall and… usually it’s true. She didn’t tell you “I promise” in those exact words.

But still it bugs you, because you could swear that she says a lot of things that sound like promises!

She said things like “Of course, I can do it!” or “Yes, I’ll definitely be there.”

It’s worth keeping in mind that one doesn’t have to actually say “I promise” for someone to make a promise—and they likely know that, too.

But untrustworthy women play word games in order to avoid having to take responsibility for the things they’ve said.

So yes, if a woman says this, red flag!

2) “I know I promised, but…”

Or maybe she did actually say “I promise”, so you try to talk to her about it.

But then she tells you things like “I know I promised to help, but I had a problem at work.” or “I know I promised to come home by midnight, but my besties pressured me to stay!”

The courteous thing is to understand, of course.

Sometimes things happen and we really have no choice but to break our promises.

So it’s usually fine if it happens once or twice.

But you should worry if it becomes a chronic problem—something that you can outright expect from them to say.

3) “I’m so busy but yes, I can DEFINITELY do that!”

Be careful with people who try to put too much on their plate, because chances are that they won’t actually get anything done at all.

Now you might be thinking of people pleasers and those who simply can’t say “no”—but that’s a slightly different issue.

I’m talking about those who are clearly overloaded and struggling to even move forward… and yet still go out of their way to offer their help.

This compulsion doesn’t necessarily come from malice. 

It can be because they’re just too proud to accept their limitations or because they feel obligated to give help somehow.

Avoid relying on a woman like this too much.

There’s a chance she won’t be able to do what she promised and then just say “But I’m so busy? Can’t you see?!”

4) “Geez. I didn’t know you wanted it that bad!”

Let’s say that she said “I’ll give you my extra phone. I’m not using it!” or “I’ll help you revamp your room.”

It made you feel happy when she said it, but months pass and still nothing happens.

She just keeps finding ways to delay it and make up excuses.

You might end up telling her “hey Mandy, your extra phone’s getting a bit outdated so I’ll probably just buy a new one” and see her blow up in your face.

Then she’d shame you for “pressuring” her by saying things like “Geez. Calm down. I didn’t know you wanted it that bad!”

The problem is that you wouldn’t even have thought about it if she didn’t make the offer first!

5) “Oh yeah, I forgot to tell you…”

And then she’d say something VERY important—something that she should have most definitely tried to tell you earlier.

Now there’s nothing wrong with forgetting some minor detail and going “oh yeah, I forgot to tell you” later.

But the thing is that it must be something minor, like “I didn’t have sausages at home, so I brought bacon instead.” 

The problem is that half the time, the things they’ve conveniently forgotten are big, important things.

Things like “I sent $3,000 to Charlie” or “We got invited to Martha’s wedding, and it’s tomorrow.”

She’s an adult. She should have told you about these things BEFORE doing them, or at the very least inform you about them right after.

6) “I’ll just use my charms, it’s not hard”

Some women know what they have, and are not afraid to use their looks and their charm to get what they want.

Now I’m sure that some of them are trustworthy, but the simple fact that they’re okay with using these sneaky tactics is itself a sign that you should probably be careful around them.

It’s manipulation. 

It means that they’re okay with manipulating the people around them—and that can easily include you as well.

So if you meet a woman who is more than happy to talk about “charming” her way through life, be careful.

Don’t write her out yet, but pay close attention to how she interacts with the people around her.

If you spot any signs that she’s just taking advantage of people, well…you know what to do.

7) “You expect too much from me”

Admittedly it is cruel to expect too much from people who clearly have too much on their plate already.

But sometimes people set those expectations themselves.

She might have given you grand promises like “We’ll have a romantic date in Rome!” or “I’ll always be by your side!” — promises that would make you go “Woah! I’m the luckiest person in the world!”

But then remind her of her promises and she’ll go “You expect way too much from me!”

Now it would be usually okay if this only happened once or twice, or if there was a genuine misunderstanding somewhere.

But once it’s become a pattern or a habit, you need to take care. 

You might be with someone who’s not only untrustworthy, but also very manipulative.

8) “Nobody’s perfect”

People usually use this phrase either to lighten up the mood, or to make excuses for themselves. It’s usually easy to tell which is which.

And it’s true—nobody is perfect!

But it’s not like anyone was asking for perfection in the first place, and the people using this phrase as an excuse know that.

Instead they’re trying to make you feel bad about pointing out their mistakes or calling them out for not following through on their word.

If you hear her say “Nobody’s perfect” or “I’m only human” more often than you hear her genuinely say “I’m sorry” or “my bad”, then she’s probably not very trustworthy.

9) “I don’t like to feel pressured”

To be perfectly honest, nobody likes feeling pressured.

So perhaps she should have known better than to commit to something in the first place.

And of course, if she ever made a commitment of some kind, it’s only fair for people to expect something out of it and ask for updates.

Commitment is commitment—it’s only natural for people to wonder why people aren’t following through on the things they had promised about doing.

10) “You should have known better”

She did something. Or she didn’t do something.

And now it’s affecting you and everyone else.

When you confront her about it, she’d go “Well, you should have known I’m depressive.” or “I’m forgetful. You should have tried to remind me about it.”

There are more than enough options available out there to deal with these issues before they start affecting the people around her.

She could have kept a calendar or even used the notes app on her phone to make sure she’s on schedule.

Maybe she could have exercised self-control and had someone else drive her car when she’s drunk.

Most importantly, “you should have known better” is her definitely not being accountable and she’s outright telling you “I’m not trustworthy.”

Final thoughts:

It’s worth keeping in mind that truly trustworthy people are just generally quite hard to find. 

Most everyone—men and women alike—struggle to keep their promises and are too busy playing games and manipulating one another to get what they want.

So if you do find someone who is genuine and trustworthy, cherish them.

And if you notice someone utter these phrases a lot, I urge you not to stay away from them completely.

They might simply be struggling with executive function and deep down, they really mean well.

But when you have a very big favor to ask or a very big secret or a very important task to finish, you probably should think twice before reaching out to them.