If a woman is truly confident, she’ll usually display these 8 behaviors

Ava Sinclair by Ava Sinclair | July 3, 2024, 9:01 am

Confidence isn’t about boasting or being the loudest voice in the room. It’s about being comfortable in your own skin and embracing who you are, quirks and all.

When a woman is genuinely confident, she’ll likely exhibit certain behaviors that embody her self-assured nature. They aren’t always the most obvious, but they’re consistent and tell the world: “I know who I am.”

Today, we get into eight of these behaviors. 

Maybe you’ll recognize some in yourself. Let’s find out!

1) Embraces authenticity

One of the most prominent behaviors of a truly confident woman is her authenticity.

She doesn’t feel the need to put on a facade or be someone she’s not. She knows her strengths, accepts her weaknesses, and is comfortable in her own skin. This isn’t to say that she won’t strive for self-improvement, but she doesn’t allow societal pressures to dictate who she should be.

Authenticity requires courage and self-awareness. It’s about being true to oneself, even when it means going against the grain.

A confident woman understands this. She values herself enough to stand by her beliefs, opinions, and unique personality traits. This genuine nature is not only an indicator of her confidence but also serves as an inspiration for those around her.

2) Doesn’t shy away from failure

Confident women, I’ve noticed, have a different perspective on failure.

I recall a personal experience when I was working on a project that didn’t go as planned. It was the first time I was leading a team and the pressure was immense. When our project wasn’t selected in the final round, I was devastated.

But then, I remembered a confident friend of mine who’d been in a similar situation. Instead of viewing her failure as a setback, she saw it as an opportunity to learn and improve.

Taking a leaf out of her book, I decided to do the same. I gathered my team, analyzed our shortcomings, and came up with a better strategy. The next project we undertook was a success.

The point?

These women don’t shy away from failure. They accept it, learn from it, and use it as a stepping stone to success. They understand that failure is not a reflection of their self-worth but rather a part of the journey towards achieving their goals.

3) Celebrates other women’s success

In a society where women are often portrayed as rivals, a woman who really believes in her abilities breaks this stereotype.

She understands that another woman’s success is not a threat to hers but a victory to be celebrated. This behavior is rooted in the idea of “abundance mentality,” which believes that there’s enough success for everyone.

This behavior is beneficial for everyone. As Dr. Carla Shuman notes, “Practicing celebrating others’ good news improves our relationships and our own mental health.”

A confident woman knows that by lifting others, she rises, too. She gets that success is not a zero-sum game and that there is room for everyone at the top. She takes pride in the achievements of other women and sees them as allies, not competitors.

4) Knows how to say no

Saying “no” can be challenging. We often feel obligated to say “yes” due to societal, professional, or personal pressures. But a genuinely confident woman isn’t afraid to say “no” when necessary.

She understands that saying “yes” to everything can lead to burnout, stress, and a loss of control over her own time and priorities. She values her own time, and she isn’t afraid to set boundaries.

She’s not worried about coming across as rude or unkind by declining. Instead, she knows that it’s essential to prioritize her needs and well-being over pleasing others. For her, saying “no” is an act of self-respect and self-care. It’s not about being selfish; it’s about understanding her limits and honoring them.

5) Embraces vulnerability

Vulnerability often gets a bad rap. It’s seen as a sign of weakness or insecurity. But these women understand that vulnerability is not a flaw but a strength.

It requires courage to show the world our true selves, our fears, our dreams, and our insecurities. But confident women embrace vulnerability because they know it’s the pathway to genuine connections and deep relationships. 

6) Pursues passion relentlessly

There’s something incredibly powerful about a woman who pursues her passions. It’s a commitment that requires dedication, time, and often, sacrifices.

I’ve always had a passion for writing. I remember the days when I would scribble stories in my notebook during lunch breaks, stay up late to finish a blog post, and spend my weekends attending writing workshops. There were times when I doubted myself, when rejections came my way, when the words just wouldn’t flow.

But I never gave up. I kept writing because it was what I loved to do, it was my passion. And over time, my efforts paid off. My work got published, I received positive feedback and I felt a sense of fulfillment that was incomparable to any other achievement.

A really confident woman doesn’t let rejections or setbacks deter her from pursuing her passion. She knows that the journey towards achieving her dreams may be filled with obstacles, but she remains unfazed. She is committed to her passion and will keep striving until she achieves her goals.

7) Values self-care

 A woman who genuinely believes in herself also understands the importance of self-care. She knows that taking care of her physical, emotional, and mental well-being isn’t just about spa days or indulgent treats but a necessary part of maintaining her overall health.

She prioritizes time for herself in her daily routine, whether it’s a moment of meditation in the morning, a workout session, or simply curling up with a good book at the end of the day. She knows that by taking care of herself, she can be more present and effective in all other areas of her life.

She doesn’t see self-care as an act of selfishness but rather as an act of self-love. She understands that she can’t pour from an empty cup and that by taking care of herself, she is better equipped to take care of others. She values her own well-being and isn’t afraid to put herself first when necessary.

8) Practices self-love

At the core of her confidence is self-care. 

It’s the foundation that allows her to embrace her authenticity, accept her failures, celebrate other’s success, say no when necessary, be vulnerable, pursue her passions, and value self-care.

Self-love is about accepting who you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses. It’s about acknowledging your worth and not seeking validation from others. It’s about treating yourself with kindness and respect.

A confident woman practices self-love regularly. She doesn’t just love herself when she’s successful or when she’s feeling good. She loves herself through her failures, her struggles, and her bad days. Because she knows that she is worthy of love, respect, and kindness, always.

Final thoughts: It’s a journey

Confidence isn’t something that you’re born with or something that magically appears overnight. It’s a journey, a process of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-love.

These behaviors shared – from embracing authenticity to practicing self-love – are not boxes to be checked off. They are not criteria to meet in order to be labeled as “confident.”

Instead, they serve as reminders that confidence is about knowing your worth and embracing who you are, with all your strengths and flaws. It’s about standing tall in your truth, no matter what life throws at you.

So, whether you’re just starting your journey towards confidence or you’re well on your way, remember that it’s okay to stumble and fall. What matters is that you get back up, dust yourself off, and continue moving forward.

Because confidence isn’t about never falling; it’s about always getting back up.