Ladies and gentlemen, let’s talk about love—it can be a real puzzle sometimes. After years of diving deep into the complexities of romance, I’ve learned a lot.

One key insight? Genuine love never hides behind certain behaviors. If a woman truly loves you, she’ll steer clear of these actions.

So, let’s dive into these 8 tell-tale behaviors. 

Buckle up—this is going to be an enlightening ride. Here’s to understanding love a little better! 

1) She won’t belittle your feelings

Love, my dear readers, is a strange and beautiful thing. It’s a force that connects two people on a deep, emotional level.

If a woman genuinely loves you, she’ll never belittle or dismiss your feelings. No matter how trivial or illogical they may seem to her, she will always acknowledge them and try to understand your perspective.

Think about how you’d feel if someone dismissed your feelings as unimportant or silly. It would hurt, right? Well, love doesn’t want to inflict that kind of pain.

In a loving relationship, both partners’ emotions are valued and respected. Your feelings matter to her because you matter to her.

2) She won’t keep score

In my years as a relationship expert, I’ve seen numerous couples fall into the trap of keeping score. “I did this, so you should do that,” becomes a common phrase. But let me share a piece of wisdom with you: Genuine love doesn’t keep tabs.

If a woman truly loves you, she won’t hold your past mistakes over your head or use them as ammunition in arguments. She won’t keep a mental tally of who’s done more in the relationship.

As the great Maya Angelou once said, “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”

In a loving relationship, you don’t keep track of faults and favors; you work together, forgive each other, and move forward. So if she’s keeping score, it might not be love that’s guiding her actions.

3) She won’t sacrifice her integrity

Isn’t it remarkable how love can inspire the best in us? When a woman truly loves you, she stays loyal to herself and her beliefs. She won’t sacrifice her integrity or pretend to be someone she’s not just to please you.

Authentic love honors boundaries and individuality. It doesn’t demand someone to change who they are.

If you notice her compromising her principles or altering her behavior in ways that don’t reflect her true self, it’s crucial to have an open and sincere conversation about it. Because genuine love, my dear readers, never requires us to lose sight of who we are.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I’ve discussed how vital it is for individuals to maintain their identity and integrity in a relationship.

4) She won’t agree with you all the time

Now, let’s talk about something that might sound a bit unconventional, but stick with me.

If a woman sees you as husband material, she won’t always see eye to eye with you. Yep, you heard that correctly.

Love isn’t about nodding along to everything your partner says or thinks. It’s about respecting each other’s unique thoughts and perspectives. It’s about engaging in healthy debates and sometimes agreeing to disagree.

Sure, constant agreement might seem pleasant at first. But in the long run, it can lead to a lack of depth and authenticity in your relationship.

Keep this in mind: a woman who loves you values your relationship more than being right or avoiding conflict. She’ll stand up for her beliefs, even if it means having differing opinions from time to time.

5) She won’t avoid difficult conversations

Relationships aren’t always smooth sailing. There are stormy days too. But here’s the thing: once a woman is deeply devoted, she won’t dodge those tough conversations.

Through my own experiences and years of counseling couples, one thing has become crystal clear: open communication is the lifeblood of any strong relationship. It’s not the light-hearted chats that fortify a bond, but the gritty, heart-to-heart talks.

Remember, dodging difficult conversations is like ignoring an open wound. It might seem easier in the moment, but in the long run, it leads to bigger problems. Genuine love gets that and confronts challenges head-on.

6) She won’t make you feel inferior

Let’s get raw and honest here: love is not a competition. If a woman genuinely loves you, she won’t make you feel inferior or less than her. She won’t use your weaknesses against you or belittle you in front of others.

Love is about lifting each other up, not bringing one another down. It’s about celebrating successes together and supporting each other during failures.

If she’s making you feel inferior, if she’s using your insecurities as a weapon, then it’s not love. It’s a power game.

Never forget, my dear readers, genuine love makes you feel cherished and respected, not inferior or unworthy. Always hold on to that truth.

7) She won’t hide her true self

In all my years of guiding couples through their relationships, one truth shines bright: real love doesn’t play pretend. A woman who’s in love and wants to be loved back won’t hide behind a mask.

She won’t fake who she is or conceal her flaws and imperfections. Instead, she’ll reveal her true self because she trusts you and feels completely at ease with you.

As the legendary Oscar Wilde once said, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”

In a loving relationship, there’s no need for pretenses or facades. So if she’s always putting on a perfect persona and never shows her vulnerable side, it might be time to have an open heart-to-heart conversation.

8) She won’t hold you back

Here’s the raw truth, folks: love does not cage, it frees. If a woman genuinely loves you, she won’t hold you back or hinder your growth.

She won’t discourage your dreams or belittle your ambitions. Instead, she’ll be your biggest cheerleader, pushing you towards your goals and celebrating your victories.

If she’s holding you back, making you feel guilty for pursuing your passions, or limiting your potential, then it’s not love. It’s control masked as concern.

Genuine love wants to see you grow and flourish. It doesn’t clip your wings but encourages you to fly higher. Always remember that.

Lost in love: A woman’s journey

When a woman falls in love, everything just feels a little more alive. Her heart’s all light and joy, like she’s found the missing piece of the puzzle.

You can see it in her eyes—how they light up when she looks at you, like you’re the center of her universe. 

She hangs onto your every word, challenges you to step outside your comfort zone, and forgives your slip-ups without keeping score. And in those moments of vulnerability and sweetness, you’ll find a sense of belonging like no other. 

Now, these signs we’ve chatted about aren’t set in stone, but they sure give you a good idea of how she feels when she’s head over heels.

For more insights on maintaining healthy relationships and overcoming codependency, I invite you to check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

Here’s to nurturing genuine love in your relationships. Until next time!