There are certain behaviors that stick out like a sore thumb, indicating a lack of class.

I’m talking about women who, despite all the trappings of sophistication and elegance, seem to miss the mark.

I’ve seen it all, from the posh party-goer who can’t handle her liquor to the well-dressed damsel who can’t help but bad-mouth her friends.

But often, the signs are not as flashy as you might think.

It could be something subtle, like always needing to have the last word or constantly craving the spotlight.

Your intuition might be whispering that something’s not quite right, even though your eyes are telling you she’s got it all together.

Here’s how you can tell if a woman is lacking class, even if on the surface she seems to have it all.

1) She’s constantly talking about herself

The first sign I’ve noticed is when a woman is relentlessly self-focused.

We all know those people who just can’t seem to get out of their own heads.

It’s like the world revolves around them, and they’re the star of the show.

Conversations become a one-way street, with them at the center.

They’re happy to share every detail about their life, but ask about yours?

Not so much.

This isn’t just annoying, it’s a telltale sign of a lack of class.

Classy women understand the importance of a balanced conversation and showing genuine interest in others.

If she’s monopolizing every conversation, it may be time to reconsider her classiness.

2) She never listens

The second behavior that really gives me pause is when a woman doesn’t listen.

You know the drill – those conversations where we’re pouring our heart out, or even just sharing the mundane details of our day, only to see the other person’s eyes glazed over.

They’re not really there with us, they’re just waiting for their turn to talk.

I’ve found myself in these situations more times than I care to admit. And let me tell you, it’s not pleasant.

It makes you feel small and unimportant like your words don’t matter.

But – as horrible as it is to experience, it tells us a lot about the other person. 

3) She doesn’t respect boundaries

I once knew a woman who had no concept of personal space or boundaries.

I remember one time, at a mutual friend’s party, I was having a quiet moment to myself, just enjoying the scenery and collecting my thoughts.

But she wouldn’t have it.

She came right over, plopped herself down next to me, and started chatting away, completely oblivious to my need for some alone time.

To make matters worse, she had this habit of borrowing things without asking.

From my favorite books to even my clothes, she just took them, assuming it was okay.

And when I confronted her, her response was always the same – a shrug and a nonchalant “I thought you wouldn’t mind”.

This kind of behavior is a big red flag.

A woman with class understands the importance of respecting personal boundaries. A woman who lacks class also lacks basic respect. 

4) She gossips incessantly

In the world of communication studies, gossip is often viewed as a social bonding tool.

It’s a way for people to feel connected and plugged into their social circles.

But there’s a line between sharing news and spreading rumors, and that line is often crossed by women who lack class.

I’ve come across countless women who seem to thrive on gossip.

They’re always the first to know the latest scoop and can’t wait to share it.

It’s like they’re hooked on the drama, the intrigue, the thrill of being in the know.

This goes directly against what we consider to be classy behavior; to keep things private and avoid indulging in the misery or misfortune of others. 

5) She’s always competing

Next on the list is an unhealthy need to compete.

I’m talking about the ladies who always need to one-up everyone else.

If you’ve been to Italy, she’s been to France. If you got a promotion, she’s started her own business.

It’s exhausting.

There’s nothing wrong with a little friendly competition, but when it becomes a constant need to outdo others, it hints at insecurity and lack of class.

6) She’s unkind to those who can’t benefit her

A true measure of a person’s character, in my opinion, is how they treat those who can do nothing for them.

You might have noticed this behavior.

When a woman is all smiles and charm towards those who can benefit her in some way, but barely acknowledges the waiter serving her food, or the cleaning staff at her office, it’s a glaring red flag.

Kindness should never be something that’s turned on and off depending on who you’re dealing with.

A woman with class treats everyone with kindness and respect, regardless of their status or what they can offer her.

So if she’s only kind to those who can help her climb the ladder, it’s a clear sign of a lack of class.

7) She’s always playing the victim

One thing I’ve noticed over time is how some women constantly play the victim card.

They’re always complaining, always blaming others for their problems, and never taking responsibility for their own actions.

It’s like they’re trapped in their own dramas, yet they’re the innocent victims.

This behavior can be draining for those around them.

It creates a toxic environment where no one else’s problems or feelings matter because theirs are always worse.

A truly classy woman takes responsibility for herself. If she’s down and out of luck, she makes changes – she doesn’t drain others by constantly complaining or looking for sympathy. 

8) She lacks gratitude

And finally, gratitude is a fundamental trait of classy individuals.

They have an appreciation for the things they have, the people in their lives, and the opportunities that come their way.

They express thanks regularly and sincerely.

On the flip side, a woman who lacks class often takes things for granted.

She might gloss over the good in her life, focusing instead on what she doesn’t have or what she wants next.

This lack of gratitude can be quite revealing. It can indicate a self-centeredness and lack of awareness that is at odds with true classiness.

Final thoughts

Class, like beauty, is more than skin deep.

It’s not about the clothes you wear or the car you drive. It’s about how you treat others, how you carry yourself, and how you navigate through life.

If you’ve recognized any of these behaviors in a woman you know or even in yourself, don’t despair.

Class is not a fixed trait, but a set of behaviors that can be learned and cultivated over time.

Start by becoming more self-aware.

Notice when you’re gossiping, playing the victim, or disrespecting boundaries.

Reflect on your actions and consider how they might be perceived by others.

Change might not come easy, but it’s entirely possible with effort and perseverance.