If a woman displays these 7 behaviors, she’s an incredibly resilient person

Tina Fey by Tina Fey | July 30, 2024, 9:23 pm

There’s a distinct difference between being strong and being resilient. Being strong is about withstanding pressure, but being resilient? That’s about adapting and growing despite adversity.

Now, resilience isn’t easy to spot. It isn’t about flashy achievements or heroic deeds. It’s sometimes silent, often subtle, and always deeply personal.

But if you look closely, there are certain behaviors that resilient women tend to display. And I’m going to share seven of them with you.

And spoiler alert: it’s not about their circumstances, it’s about their attitudes.

1) She embraces change

Change is a part of life. And let’s be honest, it can be downright uncomfortable. But resilient women? They don’t just tolerate change, they embrace it.

They understand that change is not only inevitable but also necessary for growth. They see each change, whether it’s a major life transition or a minor shift in plans, as an opportunity to learn and adapt.

They don’t spend their energy resisting the inevitable. Instead, they channel their energy into navigating the new circumstances, finding ways to thrive despite the uncertainty.

Now, it’s not that they aren’t affected by change. It’s just that they have an uncanny ability to roll with the punches and come out stronger on the other side.

2) She allows herself to feel

Resilient women aren’t emotionless, despite what you might assume. In reality, they fully embrace their emotions, even the painful ones.

You see, resilience isn’t about dodging discomfort or pretending everything’s okay. It’s about confronting those challenging feelings head-on.

These women recognize that it’s perfectly normal to feel sad, angry, frustrated, or scared. They allow themselves to sit with these emotions without rushing to push them away.

Interestingly, it’s this willingness to confront discomfort that gives them the strength to navigate tough times. They understand that emotions are fleeting and that acknowledging them is a crucial part of the healing process and moving forward.

3) She values herself

This is a big one. A resilient woman knows her own worth. She respects herself and doesn’t allow others to treat her poorly.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I talk about the importance of self-worth and how it can impact our relationships.

But it goes beyond that. A woman who values herself understands that she doesn’t need to prove her worth to anyone. She doesn’t rely on others for validation or approval. She knows her strengths and isn’t afraid to acknowledge her weaknesses.

This sense of self-worth gives her the confidence to face any challenge head-on, knowing that she has what it takes to overcome it. And even if she falls, she knows she’s worth getting back up and trying again.

4) She practices patience

Patience is a virtue, isn’t it? I’ve found that the most resilient women I know have this quality in abundance. They understand that good things take time and rushing only leads to mistakes.

They don’t expect instant results. Whether it’s a personal goal or a professional project, they’re willing to put in the time and effort needed to see it through. Even when things don’t go as planned, they stay patient, focusing on the end goal rather than the immediate setbacks.

As the great Maya Angelou once said, “All great achievements require time.” Resilient women live this quote. They understand that patience is not about waiting but about maintaining a positive attitude while working hard for what they believe in.

5) She takes care of herself

In my years of interacting with resilient women, I’ve noticed one common trait – they prioritize self-care. And I’m not just talking about bubble baths and spa days, although those are great too!

Resilient women understand that to take care of others, they first need to take care of themselves. They carve out time for physical exercise, nutritious food, restful sleep, and activities they enjoy. They listen to their bodies and minds, knowing when to push harder and when to take a break.

They also understand that mental health is just as important as physical health. They’re not afraid to seek help when needed and invest in their personal growth.

It’s this holistic approach to self-care that equips them with the energy and resilience needed to face life’s challenges.

6) She is grateful

Life is full of ups and downs. But resilient women have this unique ability to find something to be grateful for, even in the most challenging situations.

It reminds me of a quote by the legendary Fred Rogers, “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.'”

Resilient women do just that. They look for the silver linings, the lessons learned, and the helpers who show up in times of crisis. They don’t ignore the bad, but they also don’t let it cloud the good.

This attitude of gratitude helps them maintain a positive outlook and bounce back from setbacks more quickly.

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7) She’s not afraid to ask for help

Now this might be surprising. We often associate resilience with independence and self-reliance. But the truth is, resilient women aren’t afraid to ask for help.

They understand that we all have limits and that it’s okay not to have all the answers. They’re not too proud to reach out to others when they’re struggling or in need of advice.

This doesn’t mean they’re weak or incapable. Quite the opposite. It shows their strength and wisdom in recognizing when they need support and being brave enough to ask for it.

Finding resilience in ourselves

In uncovering these seven behaviors, we have shone a light on the strength and adaptability that define resilience. It’s not about never falling down, but about getting back up, dusting ourselves off, and continuing to forge ahead.

These resilient women hold up a mirror to us all, reflecting back the potential we each have to be strong, adaptable, and unyieldingly hopeful. Their behaviors are a testament to the beauty of human spirit and the power of self-belief.

As we continue our own journeys towards resilience, it’s important to remember that we all possess these traits – it’s just a matter of harnessing them.

To delve deeper into this topic, I’d recommend watching this insightful video by Justin Brown. He beautifully explains “the illusion of happiness” and why chasing it makes you miserable.

This is especially relevant for our discussion on resilience as it reinforces the idea that it’s not about avoiding hardships but embracing them as part of our growth.

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