Understanding the subtleties of attraction can feel like deciphering a secret code. As someone who’s spent years studying the language of love, I can tell you, it’s not always easy.

Attraction isn’t always about grand gestures or romantic lines from a movie. More often than not, it’s hidden in the small, seemingly insignificant behaviors.

As the founder of Love Connection and with a wealth of relationship wisdom under my belt, I’ve noticed that when a man is genuinely attracted to you, he’ll almost always display these 7 subtle behaviors.

Today, we dive into these. 

1) He listens…truly listens

In the world of relationships, listening is a game-changer. It’s not just about being silent when someone else is speaking, but truly understanding and absorbing what they’re saying.

Men who are genuinely attracted to you will take the time to really hear you out. They’ll remember the little details you mention casually and bring them up in future conversations. This is their subtle way of showing they care about you and what you have to say.

But remember, true listening goes both ways. So make sure you also offer him the same level of attention and understanding that he gives you.

2) He respects your boundaries

This is a big one.

When a man is truly attracted to you, he respects your boundaries. This is more than just giving you space; it’s about understanding and respecting your needs, wishes, and limits.

I’ve seen many relationships where one person tries too hard to impress or win over the other, often crossing boundaries in the process. But real attraction isn’t about pushing limits; it’s about understanding them.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss in more detail how vital it is for both partners to recognize and respect each other’s boundaries. But for the moment, just know that it’s an essential part of a healthy relationship.

3) He’s not afraid to disagree

Now, this might seem counterintuitive. Isn’t agreement a sign of compatibility?

Well, not always.

Of course, having shared interests and values is important, but when a man is really attracted to you, he won’t be afraid to disagree with you.

This doesn’t mean he’ll pick fights or create unnecessary conflict. Rather, he will have the confidence to express his own opinions and perspectives, even if they differ from yours. It’s about open and honest communication.

In my experience, it’s these differences that can make a relationship interesting and dynamic. They challenge us to see things from another point of view and help us grow as individuals.

So, if he occasionally disagrees with you but does so respectfully and constructively, take it as a positive sign. It shows that he values you enough to be genuine. 

4) He values your opinion

One of the most endearing behaviors a man can display when he’s attracted to you is valuing your opinion. Whether it’s asking for your thoughts on a new movie or seeking your advice on a work issue, he shows that he respects and appreciates your perspective.

I remember early in my relationship, my now-husband asked for my opinion on a project he was working on. It might have seemed like a small thing, but to me, it was a clear sign that he valued my input and respected my judgment.

It’s these subtle behaviors that often speak louder than words. When a man truly values your opinion, it shows that he sees you as an equal and values your intellect and insight.

5) He shows his vulnerability

Here’s another one you might not have expected.

When a man is genuinely attracted to you, he will show his vulnerability. Now, this doesn’t mean he’ll be crying on your shoulder every day, but he won’t be afraid to show his softer side.

In our society, men are often taught to hide their emotions, to always be strong and stoic. But when a man is comfortable enough with you to let his guard down, it’s a sign of deep attraction.

He may share personal stories, fears or insecurities with you. He might express emotions that he usually keeps hidden. This openness and honesty are signs of trust and intimacy.

I’ve seen it in my own relationship and in many others I’ve advised over the years. When a man reveals his vulnerability, it’s because he feels safe and loved around you.

When he lets you see that side of him, cherish it. It’s a beautiful sign of attraction and trust. 

6) He makes time for you

Time is one of the most precious commodities we have. As the legendary author, Charles Darwin once said, “A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.”

If a man is genuinely attracted to you, he’ll make sure he spends his valuable time with you.

It’s not always about grand dates or lavish vacations. Sometimes, it’s about those quiet evenings spent together at home, or those quick lunch breaks squeezed into a busy day. The point is, he makes an effort to be with you.

I remember when my husband and I were just starting out, we both had hectic schedules. But no matter how busy we were, we always made sure to carve out time for each other. It was our way of showing that we valued one another more than anything else.

Ladies, remember – actions speak louder than words. If he consistently makes time for you, it’s a clear sign that he’s attracted to you.

7) He takes responsibility for his actions

Let’s get real here. When a man is truly attracted to you, he won’t shy away from taking responsibility for his actions. He won’t make excuses or blame others when things go wrong. Instead, he’ll own up to his mistakes and take steps to make things right.

This behavior speaks volumes about his character. It shows that he respects you enough to be honest and accountable. And it shows that he’s mature enough to handle the complexities of a serious relationship.

I’ve seen many relationships fall apart because one partner refused to take responsibility for their actions. It’s a painful process and one that can cause a lot of heartache.

But when a man is willing to admit his mistakes and work on improving, it’s a sign of genuine attraction and respect. It shows that he’s committed to making your relationship work, no matter what.

 It might not be the most glamorous sign of attraction, but it’s one of the most important. 

Final thoughts

In conclusion, there are many ways a man can subtly show his attraction towards you. It’s about understanding these signs and appreciating them for what they are – genuine expressions of interest and care.

But remember, every relationship is unique, and people express their feelings in different ways. So, while these behaviors are common signs of attraction, they may not apply to everyone.

If you’re still unsure or need more guidance, consider reading my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It offers deeper insights into understanding and managing relationships.