Navigating the world of dating and relationships can sometimes feel like deciphering a foreign language. As men are often seen as more guarded with their emotions, it can be hard to tell when he’s genuinely into you.

Luckily, I’ve cracked the code. I’m Tina Fey, founder of the Love Connection blog and your go-to relationship expert. And over the years, I’ve noticed there are certain subtle behaviors that men show when they’re truly interested.

These are not grand gestures or obvious compliments, but quiet signals that say more than words can. Recognizing these signs can help you understand his feelings better and decide your next move.

In this article, we’re going to explore these subtle behaviors that reveal he’s more into you than you may think. Let’s dive right in!

1) He really listens

In the complex world of dating, there are few signs as telling as attentive listening.

When a man is truly into you, he’ll be genuinely interested in what you have to say. This means he won’t just nod along to your stories or give non-committal answers.

Instead, he’ll engage with you, ask follow-up questions, and remember your conversations for later.

This behavior is a strong indicator of his interest and respect for you. It’s his way of showing that he values your thoughts and feelings, and that he wants to understand you better.

Now, this isn’t about him agreeing with everything you say or trying to impress you with his knowledge. It’s about his sincere effort to connect with you on a deeper level.

2) His body language speaks volumes

Body language is a powerful form of non-verbal communication. It’s often more accurate than words in revealing a person’s true feelings.

When a man is genuinely interested, his body language tends to mirror this. He’ll lean in when you’re talking, maintain eye contact, and subtly touch his face or neck. These are all signs of attention and attraction.

As I always say, “The eyes cannot hide what the heart feels.” I’ve seen it hold true in countless relationships I’ve counseled over the years.

Next time you’re with him, take note of his body language. It could be silently speaking volumes about his interest in you.

3) He makes an effort to spend time with you

One of the clearest indicators of a man’s interest is his willingness to invest his time in you.

When he truly cares, he won’t see spending time with you as an obligation. Instead, he’ll cherish every moment and look forward to creating shared memories.

He’ll go out of his way to plan dates or activities that he thinks you’ll enjoy. He’ll make sure he’s free when you are, even if that means rearranging his schedule.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I stress the importance of mutual effort in maintaining a healthy relationship. It’s not about losing oneself in the relationship, but about nurturing it with time and care.

But for now, the gist is this: making an effort to spend quality time with you is a strong sign that he’s more into you than you think.

4) He’s not always available

This one might seem a bit counterintuitive. After all, shouldn’t a man who’s really into you always want to be around you?

Not necessarily. A man who values you will also respect his own time and space, and yours too. He understands that a healthy relationship requires a balance between together time and individual time.

If he’s always available or constantly texting, it could indicate a lack of personal boundaries or an unhealthy level of attachment.

On the contrary, a man who’s comfortable with spending time apart is likely secure in himself and his feelings for you.

Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder. If he’s taking time for himself but still making an effort to connect when he can, it’s a good sign he’s genuinely into you.

5) He shows interest in your interests

In my years as a relationship expert, I’ve seen one common thread in all successful relationships: mutual respect and interest in each other’s passions.

If a man is really into you, he’ll show genuine interest in your hobbies and pursuits. He won’t just tolerate them; he’ll actively try to understand why they’re important to you.

This doesn’t mean he’ll suddenly become a die-hard fan of your favorite indie band or start practicing yoga. But you’ll notice him asking questions, remembering details, and maybe even joining you sometimes.

This subtle behavior is his way of saying, “I care about you, and I want to understand what makes you happy.” And that, my dear readers, is a surefire sign he’s more into you than you think.

6) He’s not afraid to show vulnerability

In a world where men are often taught to hide their feelings, a man who isn’t afraid to show vulnerability is a rare gem.

Being open about feelings, fears, and insecurities doesn’t make a man weak; it makes him human. If he’s willing to let his guard down and show his raw, unfiltered self to you, it speaks volumes about his trust in you and his deeper feelings.

It’s easy to put on a brave face and pretend everything’s fine. But opening up and sharing the not-so-pretty parts of life requires courage and a genuine emotional connection.

It’s one of the most honest ways he can show he’s more into you than you think.

7) He values your opinion

Trust me when I say, a man who values your opinion sees you as more than just a date. He sees you as an equal, a partner, and someone whose views and insights he respects.

Whether it’s about his choice of outfit or a significant life decision, if he’s seeking your perspective, it’s because he appreciates your wisdom and judgment.

He’s not just asking to make you feel included; he genuinely wants to know what you think.

As the great Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” A man who truly values your opinion will never make you feel less than or inferior.

8) He acknowledges his mistakes

Nobody’s perfect, and we all make mistakes. But owning up to them, especially in a relationship, can be challenging. It requires a certain level of maturity, honesty, and humility.

If a man admits when he’s wrong and takes responsibility for his actions, it’s a clear sign of emotional maturity. It indicates that he values the relationship more than his ego.

This honesty extends beyond just admitting mistakes. It also means he’s open about his flaws and doesn’t pretend to be someone he’s not.

Remember, true strength lies in vulnerability and honesty. If he’s willing to be raw and open with you about his mistakes and shortcomings, it’s a telltale sign that he’s more into you than you may realize.

Final thoughts

As we wrap up, remember that each man expresses his feelings differently. But these subtle behaviors I’ve shared with you can offer some insight into what’s going on beneath the surface.

Above all, trust your intuition. You know your relationship better than anyone else. If you feel he’s more into you than he’s letting on, you’re probably right.

For a deeper understanding of relationships and how to maintain a healthy balance of love and independence, check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s packed with actionable insights and practical advice to help you thrive in love.

Here’s to recognizing the signs and building meaningful connections!