There’s a lot to be said about the mysteries of attraction and how it manifests in behavior.

Often, a man’s deepest feelings are hidden beneath layers of subtlety. And let’s face it, sometimes, it can be utterly confusing.

But and it’s a big but, when a man is seriously attracted to you, he shows certain signs. But these aren’t always glaringly obvious. They’re subtle, understated, yet incredibly telling.

As Tina Fey, your go-to relationship guru and founder of Love Connection, I’ve spent years decoding these small signals. And now, I’ve distilled my findings into 8 key behaviors that tell you he’s more than just a little bit into you.

So let’s dive into these subtle signs and unravel the enigma together, shall we?

1) He finds reasons to be near you

Closeness, both physical and emotional, is one of the most telling signs of powerful attraction.

Men tend to gravitate towards what they desire. This is not about invading personal space or making anyone uncomfortable. It’s about those moments when you notice he always seems to be around.

Maybe he always volunteers to get you a drink when you’re at a social gathering. Or he finds reasons to pop by your desk at work, even if it’s just for a quick chat.

These little gestures might seem coincidental at first, but they’re often a man’s subtle way of showing his attraction. He wants to be in your orbit, and that’s a clear indicator of his feelings.

2) He genuinely listens to you

In my experience as a relationship expert, I’ve found that when a man is truly attracted to someone, he listens. And I mean really listens.

His phone is down, his eyes are focused, and he’s fully engaged in what you’re saying. He’s not just waiting for his turn to speak; he’s absorbing your words, your emotions, and your thoughts.

This level of attention is a clear sign of strong attraction. It shows that he values your words and wants to understand you better.

As the great writer Ernest Hemingway once said, “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” But if he’s really into you, you’ll find that he does more than just hear your words – he truly listens.

3) He’s not afraid to show vulnerability

Now, this might seem a bit counterintuitive. After all, aren’t men supposed to be the strong, silent types? Well, the truth is, when a man is genuinely attracted to you, he’s not afraid to let his guard down.

Vulnerability is a sign of trust and emotional strength. It’s him saying, “I trust you enough to show you my true self.”

When a man is willing to share his fears, his dreams, or his past with you, it’s a clear sign he feels more than just a casual interest. It indicates a deep attraction and possibly the beginnings of real emotional intimacy.

So don’t be fooled by societal stereotypes. A man’s willingness to be vulnerable around you is one of the most subtle yet powerful signs of attraction.

4) He takes an interest in your interests

Attraction isn’t always about grand gestures. Sometimes, it’s about the small things, like taking an interest in your hobbies or passions.

He’ll want to know all about what makes you tick. He’ll ask about your favorite book, the music you love, the places you want to travel.

And here’s the kicker—he doesn’t just do this out of politeness. He genuinely wants to understand and share these experiences with you. It’s his way of building a deeper connection.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve into the importance of shared interests in creating a healthy relationship dynamic. It’s these shared moments and mutual interests that lay the groundwork for a deeper bond.

But for know, just know that if he’s showing keen interest in your world, chances are, he’s feeling a powerful attraction towards you.

5) He remembers the little things

I’ve always believed that love is in the details. And when a man is seriously attracted to you, he remembers those small details about you that others might miss.

Maybe it’s your favorite type of chocolate or the name of your childhood pet. Perhaps it’s the way you laugh when you’re nervous or the story behind that old scar on your knee.

These may seem like insignificant details to some, but to him, they’re nuggets of gold. They’re pieces of the puzzle that make up the enigma he’s attracted to – that’s you.

6) He’s not perfect around you

This is a big one. Real attraction isn’t about being flawless. It’s about being real, raw, and honest.

When a man is deeply attracted to you, he’s also not afraid to show you his less-than-perfect side. He might stumble over his words, spill his coffee, or share a story about his awkward teenage years.

This doesn’t mean he’s clumsy or careless. On the contrary, it shows he’s comfortable enough to be himself around you. He trusts you enough to show you that he’s human, with all the quirks and imperfections that come with it.

In a world where we’re often pressured to present a polished version of ourselves, this kind of raw honesty is refreshing. And it’s one of the most genuine signs of powerful attraction.

7) He respects your boundaries

In my years as a relationship expert, I’ve found that respect is the bedrock of any successful relationship. And it’s no different when it comes to attraction.

When a man is powerfully attracted to you, he respects your boundaries. He understands that no matter how he feels, your comfort and consent come first.

8) He shows up for you

When it comes down to it, nothing speaks louder than actions. And one of the most telling signs of powerful attraction is consistency.

A man who’s truly attracted to you doesn’t just say he’ll be there—he shows up. Whether it’s a shoulder to lean on during tough times or cheering you on during your victories, he’s there.

He doesn’t make excuses. He doesn’t leave you wondering. He’s there, in the thick of it with you. Because when a man is powerfully attracted to someone, he wants to be a part of their world, in the good times and the bad.

Final thoughts 

In conclusion, powerful attraction is much more than just physical. It’s about emotional connection, respect, and genuine interest. It lies in the subtle signs and behaviors that reveal a man’s true feelings.

If you notice these signs in the man in your life, there’s a good chance he’s feeling a powerful attraction to you. But remember, every person is different, and these are general observations. Always trust your gut instincts when it comes to matters of the heart.

For more insights into relationships and understanding your partner better, I invite you to check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s packed with practical advice to help you build healthier, happier relationships.

Remember, love is a journey. And understanding is the first step towards a stronger connection.