You’re so done dating narcs and assh*les. So sooo done!

That’s why, this time around, you want to date with both eyes open.

To find a man who’s smart and attractive and affectionate…but also to make sure he’s the type who would never ever break your heart.

Wanna know that you’re NOT dating a heartbreaker?

Here are 9 specific behaviors you should look for!

1) He’s not a flirt

When he approached you, was he awkward?

Did he stutter and say stupid things because he’s so bad at approaching women?

Then he’s probably no Don Juan…and let me tell you—that’s a good thing!

Of course, a guy who loves to flirt might not actually break your heart.

He could just be playful but he still knows his limits. And that’s fine.

But a guy who doesn’t flirt has a much lesser chance of breaking your heart compared to the one who’s naturally flirty.

You’d also be able to sleep well at night. Now who doesn’t want that?

2) He’s an open book

He tells you everything, and I mean EVERYTHING—from his first kiss to the most embarrassing things he’s done.

Not only that, he’s open and honest about his thoughts and feelings, too.

It’s rare to find someone who’s honest and willing to bare it all.

And if you’re in a relationship with one, then you’re so lucky.

A man like this would share his secrets, thoughts, and feelings with you because he believes it’s his duty to be honest to the people he loves.

And because of this, problems don’t escalate and your intimacy grows.

I can guarantee you that if you’re with an honest man, you’d never be blind-sided. 

He won’t just break up with you all of a sudden because there won’t be “all of a sudden” with this man—he will tell you the moment he’s unhappy so you can still work things out, and he certainly won’t pretend he’s okay if he isn’t.

3) He feels guilty over the littlest things

My boyfriend is very dutiful and conscientious.

He follows road signs, he pays his taxes on time, he’s always respectful to his neighbors even if they could be annoying to him at times.

And even if he just made a simple mistake—like not giving a tip—he’d feel bad about it!

It would take him a few minutes before he can get over his “mistake” because he truly cares about how his actions affect others.

I consider him a man of integrity and this is one of the reasons why I love him.

He always tries to do the right thing no matter what, and this makes me feel safe in our relationship.

A man with integrity will always try his best to be a good partner, even if their love for you has faded a little.

As much as possible, he’d never break your heart.

4) He’s a man of action

We get hurt not only by action, but also by inaction.

Beware of a man who keeps breaking his promises, who’s too passive, who’s all talk and no action.

He will likely break your heart in a million little ways.

He will give you promises he can’t keep.

He will make you wait and wait for nothing.

He will ruin your trust.

So look for a man of action, instead.

He will do his best to fulfill his promises to you—including his promise of loving you with all of his heart.

5) He hates liars and cheaters

When you’re watching a movie about cheating, does he cringe and say “What an assh*le! He already has a loving wife!”

And when he finds out that his friend is cheating, does he give him a hard time for it? Does he tell him “Don’t do this to your girlfriend. It’s not fair”?

If yes, then chances are that this guy would NOT do anything that could break your heart.

At the very least, he won’t ever cheat or lie to you.

If you have relationship problems, I can guarantee you that he won’t cheat.

He’d work on your relationship instead because he thinks that’s the right thing to do.

And if he sees that your relationship isn’t getting any better, he’d break up with you first before he’d even hang out with another girl.

6) He pays attention to you

My ex was so self-absorbed. All he talked about was HIS work, HIS hobbies, HIS friends.

And while this alone doesn’t do anything to hurt our relationship (except for the fact that he bored me to death sometimes), this “me,me,me” attitude was carried over to how he made decisions.

When buying me gifts, he chose what HE liked to give me…not what I actually liked to receive.

When planning for dates, he thought about where he wanted to go and expected me to just like them too. 

Trust me—these things might seem trivial—but if a man is too focused on himself, it will affect you immensely in the future.

You might not experience a major heartbreak, but what you’ll have is heartbreak by a thousand cuts.

So choose a man who pays attention to YOU—to your tastes, to your needs, to your feelings.

Because a man who does that knows how to love you…and he’d never break your heart.

7) He can’t stand seeing you suffer

When he knows you’re in pain, does it hurt him too?

Does he want to do whatever it takes just to make sure you’re alright?

Then he’s a man who truly cares for you!

With a guy like this, you can be sure that he’ll never break your heart. Why? Because doing so would mean breaking his heart, too.

This is different from a guy who doesn’t care if he’s hurting you. 

I have a friend whose bf just leaves her on read even if she repeatedly told him it makes her feel bad. 

Guess what? He also didn’t comfort her when she lost her dog…and he got annoyed at her when she got depressed.

Months later, he broke up with her.

My friend was shocked. I wasn’t.

I already knew that that guy was the type who’d break her heart because her suffering meant nothing to him.

8) He chooses you—always!

He knows you’re not perfect, he knows you could be wrong at times…

But at the end of the day, he still chooses to stand by your side.

In other words, he’s got your back no matter what.

But not only that!

You’re the most important thing to him and so if he has to choose between his family and you, his friends and you, his work and you, you have a feeling he’d always choose YOU.

Of course, you love him too so you don’t want to put him in a position where he has to choose.

But just having the confidence that you’re his top priority is a sign that you’ve found yourself a man who’d never break your heart.

9) He’s not a quitter

Do you know that the number one reason for divorce is lack of commitment?

Some men love you but they don’t love you enough to make things work.

They don’t stay when things suck or to find solutions to make things better.

And the moment they see “red flags”, they leave!

Those are the men you should avoid because they’ll break your heart even if both of you are in love.

Why?

It’s not you, they simply don’t know how to commit. 

So if you want someone who will never break your heart,  find someone who has the maturity to commit—someone who’d do whatever it takes to make your relationship work.

Final thoughts:

There’s no 100% guarantee on anything—especially when it comes to love.

Sad to say, even the most loving couples break up!

Our job is just to TRY to make the right choices.

Instead of choosing someone who has glaring red flags, choose the ones who have almost all of the qualities above. 

And if you’re already with a man who does all of these things, then treat them right. Make sure he feels lucky to have you in his life, too.