If a man displays these 8 behaviors, he has an undeniable attraction for you

Tina Fey by Tina Fey | July 14, 2024, 12:53 pm

There’s a world of difference between a man simply being nice and him being irresistibly attracted to you.

The difference lies in the subtleties. A man just being friendly may smile at you, but a man who’s truly attracted will show it in ways that are too profound to ignore.

Identifying these signals can sometimes seem impossible. But don’t worry—as a seasoned relationship expert, I’ve got your back.

I’ve identified eight key behaviors that most men display when they’re genuinely attracted to a woman. And today, I’m going to share them with you.

So, sit tight, ladies. Here comes a sneak peek into the male psyche.

1) He maintains eye contact

Eye contact is a powerful form of non-verbal communication. It’s often used to gauge interest, establish connection, and convey sincerity.

When a man is genuinely attracted to you, he’ll find it hard to take his eyes off you. It’s as if he’s trying to memorize every detail of your face, every flicker of emotion that crosses your eyes.

This behavior goes beyond the casual glances we share with acquaintances and friends. It’s intense, focused, and speaks volumes about his feelings.

But remember, ladies. True attraction isn’t about a creepy, unblinking stare. It’s about the warmth and intensity in his eyes when he looks at you.

So next time you’re with him, take note. Is he maintaining steady eye contact?  If he is, then chances are, he’s more than just a little attracted to you.

2) He initiates meaningful conversation

Another tell-tale sign of a man’s attraction is his desire to engage in deep and meaningful conversation with you.

It’s not about idle chit-chat or banter. He’s genuinely interested in your thoughts, your views, your experiences. He wants to understand you better, to connect with you on a deeper level.

3) He remembers the little things

It’s often the smallest details that reveal the most about a man’s feelings. Does he remember the little things – your favorite song, how you take your coffee or a story you told him weeks ago?

If so, it shows that he’s paying attention and, more importantly, that he cares. 

In my years of experience as a relationship expert, I’ve found this to be one of the most heartwarming signs of genuine attraction. It’s not about grand gestures or extravagant gifts. It’s about showing you that he values you in all your uniqueness.

This point is something I delve into in more detail in my book, “Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship“.  But for now, just know that it’s a sign that he’s genuinely attracted to you.

4) He’s comfortable with silence

This might seem counterintuitive, but hear me out.

In the early stages of attraction, there’s often a desire to fill every moment with conversation. But as comfort levels increase and attraction deepens, there’s less need for constant chatter.

A man who’s truly attracted to you won’t feel the need to fill every silence with words. He’ll be comfortable just being in your presence, enjoying the quiet moments as much as the lively ones.

It’s in these silent moments that we often feel the most connected. As they say, “silence speaks louder than words.”

So next time you’re together, observe. Does he seem at ease when there are pauses in the conversation? 

5) He includes you in his future plans

One of the most definitive signs of attraction is when a man starts including you in his future plans. It shows that he’s not just thinking about the here and now, but he’s also imagining a future with you in it.

In my experience, men who are genuinely attracted to a woman will often speak in terms of “we” and “us” when discussing future plans. Whether it’s planning for a weekend getaway or discussing long-term life goals, they see you as an integral part of their future.

It reminds me of my early days with my husband. He’d talk about our future trips, our dream home, our life together. It was one of the surefire signs that told me he was serious about our relationship. It could a sign for you, too. 

6) He shows vulnerability

Attraction isn’t just about sweet words and romantic gestures.

Sometimes, it’s about raw honesty and the courage to be vulnerable. But let’s face it, opening up isn’t easy for anyone, especially for men who are often taught to hide their emotions.

However, when a man is truly attracted to you, he won’t just show you his strengths. He’ll also reveal his weaknesses, his fears, and his insecurities. It’s because he trusts you enough to let you see him at his most vulnerable.

7) He respects your boundaries

Respecting boundaries is a fundamental aspect of any healthy relationship. When you man respects yours, it shows that he values your comfort, your autonomy, and your individuality.

In my own relationship, I’ve always appreciated my husband’s respect for my boundaries. It made me feel safe, valued, and loved.

Is your man also respectful of your personal space, time, and feelings? If he is, then that’s another clear sign of his undeniable attraction.

8) He’s not afraid to argue

This final one might sound a bit strange, but a man who’s willing to argue with you is displaying a sign of attraction.

Let me clarify – I’m not talking about toxic, destructive arguments. I’m referring to healthy disagreements where both parties are heard and respected.

A man who is genuinely attracted to you won’t just nod and agree with everything you say. He’ll have his own opinions, and he won’t be afraid to express them, even if it means disagreeing with you.

Healthy arguments show that he values your relationship enough to address issues rather than sweeping them under the rug. It shows that he’s committed to understanding your point of view and working through any differences you might have.

Love isn’t about agreeing on everything. It’s about respecting each other’s perspectives and growing together through the ups and downs.

Final thoughts 

Navigating the world of love and attraction can be challenging, but I hope these eight behaviors help you decipher if a man is genuinely attracted to you.

The most important thing is to trust your instincts. You know yourself, and you know when something feels right.

If you found this helpful and want to delve deeper into understanding relationships, I invite you to check out my book, “Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship“.

It’s packed with insights and practical advice on creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Stay tuned for more relationship insights!

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