It’s a topic we often brush under the carpet, but it needs to be discussed. Women hurting other women – it happens more than we’d like to admit.

This isn’t about man-bashing or promoting a victim mentality. It’s bringing to light the harsh reality of how we, as women, sometimes treat each other.

This isn’t about pointing fingers, but opening a dialogue. Even in our progressive society, these eight awful things are still happening between women. It’s time we talk about it.

1) Unhealthy competition

We’ve all been there. The workplace, the gym, social gatherings – places where women often pit themselves against each other.

This intense rivalry, driven by societal or self-imposed pressure, can lead to undermining and destructive behavior.

It’s a silent epidemic, this constant need to outdo each other. It’s not about healthy competition or personal growth anymore, but about proving superiority at the cost of others’ self-esteem.

It’s time we change this narrative. Competition can be good, but not when it brings down another woman. Let’s acknowledge it, talk about it, and strive for a supportive environment instead. It’s crucial we do this – for ourselves and the generations to come.

2) Body shaming

I still remember that day vividly. It was a family gathering, and I was excited to wear my new dress. But as soon as I entered the room, a female relative said, “Honey, don’t you think you should lose some weight?”

That single comment shattered my joy. Why is it that women often feel the need to comment on each other’s bodies?

Body shaming is one of the ugliest things we do to each other. It’s not just celebrities or people on social media; it’s happening in our homes, workplaces, and social circles.

We need to stop this vicious cycle. Body positivity is not just a trend, it’s a necessity. Let’s start embracing our bodies and each other’s, instead of tearing each other down.

3) Queen bee syndrome

This term was first coined in the 1970s by researchers at the University of Michigan. They observed that women in positions of authority often viewed or treated subordinate women more critically if they were vying for the same resources.

It’s a phenomenon that still exists today. Instead of fostering an environment of mutual support and mentorship, there can be a tendency to maintain dominance by suppressing others.

This is not conducive to a healthy work environment or personal growth. We need to recognize this syndrome for what it is and actively work against it. Empowering each other should be our natural instinct, not pulling each other down.

4) Gossiping

We all know it’s wrong, but often, we’re guilty of it – gossip. It’s seen as an innocent pastime, a way to bond. But when it’s about another woman, it can become a tool of harm.

Gossiping can spread false information, breed mistrust, and tarnish reputations. It’s an awful thing that we, as women, sometimes do to each other.

Instead of indulging in harmful gossip, let’s encourage conversations that uplift and support each other. It’s time to change the narrative and create a more positive environment for all of us.

5) Lack of support during motherhood

Becoming a mother is a beautiful journey, but it also comes with its challenges. What should be a time of shared joy and support can sometimes turn into a lonely road.

Some women find themselves critiqued for their parenting styles, judged for their decisions, or isolated when they need help the most. It’s heartbreaking how we sometimes fail to support each other during such a transformative phase.

Motherhood shouldn’t be a journey walked alone. It’s time we extend our hand, offer our understanding, and express our solidarity to each other during these times. Let’s transform motherhood from a solitary journey to a shared experience.

6) Emotional bullying

I remember a time when a close friend started to exclude me from get-togethers, made snide comments about me, and tried to turn our mutual friends against me. It was subtle, yet deeply hurtful.

This emotional bullying, often disguised as petty disagreements or misunderstandings, is something that we, as women, sometimes inflict on each other.

It’s not just about the visible scars but the invisible ones that take longer to heal. We need to stop this cycle of emotional bullying and start treating each other with more kindness and respect.

7) Unrealistic expectations

We live in a world where women are often held to unrealistic standards. We’re expected to look a certain way, behave a certain way, and even think a certain way.

These unattainable standards are not just set by society, but sometimes by other women as well. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and low self-esteem.

It’s time we break free from these chains of unrealistic expectations. Let’s celebrate each other’s individuality and uniqueness instead of trying to fit each other into a one-size-fits-all mould.

8) Not acknowledging each other’s success

We live in a world where success is often met with jealousy instead of joy. When another woman achieves something, it’s crucial to recognize and celebrate her achievements.

Ignoring or downplaying each other’s success is one of the worst things we do to each other. It breeds resentment and creates a toxic environment.

Celebrating each other’s success doesn’t diminish our own. In fact, it fosters a positive atmosphere and encourages further achievement. Let’s make it a habit to uplift and applaud each other’s victories.

Ending note: It’s all about empathy

At the heart of these issues, be it body shaming, gossiping, or emotional bullying, lies one common factor – a lack of empathy.

Empathy is our ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It’s about stepping into someone else’s shoes and seeing the world from their perspective.

When we truly empathize with another woman, we’re less likely to cause harm or pain. We’re more likely to uplift, support, and celebrate each other.

This isn’t about blame or guilt. It’s about understanding our actions, their impact, and striving for positive change.

So next time you interact with another woman, take a moment to practice empathy. It might not solve all problems instantly, but it’s a step in the right direction.

After all, change begins with us. And together, as women supporting women, we have the power to foster a more understanding, compassionate world.