7 things you only learn to value after 60—and wish you’d known sooner

Farley Ledgerwood by Farley Ledgerwood | April 24, 2025, 3:50 pm

I’ve often heard people say that wisdom comes with age, but you don’t fully grasp the truth of that until you’re well into your sixties.

As someone who spent decades chasing one ambition after another, I’ve come to realize that certain things become far more precious once you pass the big six-oh.

Time feels both more expansive and fleeting, your body doesn’t bounce back quite the same way it used to, and relationships take on a deeper significance than ever before. All these changes can be humbling—but they can also open your eyes to what really matters.

Below are seven insights I’ve picked up along the way. If you happen to be younger, consider this a friendly heads-up.

And if, like me, you’re in that golden sixty-plus bracket, well… maybe you’ll find yourself nodding along, remembering just how valuable these lessons truly are.

1. Cherishing your health

I’ll be honest: in my twenties and thirties, I rarely gave my physical health more than a passing thought.

Sure, I visited the doctor when I was really ill, but day to day, I was more focused on career goals and weekend plans than on daily exercise or a balanced diet. Only after I hit sixty did I realize just how pivotal good health is.

Getting older means recovery times lengthen and those little aches last longer. According to the National Institute on Aging, regular physical activity—like a brisk walk or light resistance training—can make a significant difference in maintaining mobility and strength as we age.

It’s not just about avoiding illness; it’s about staying active enough to enjoy the life we’ve built.

These days, I take a leisurely stroll with my beloved dog, Lottie, whenever I can. I’ve also started doing simple stretches in the morning.

You don’t have to train for a marathon, but consistently looking after your body ensures you have the stamina to explore your passions, play with your grandchildren, or just savor a sunny afternoon in the park without feeling worn out.

2. Understanding time is finite

They say youth is wasted on the young, and maybe there’s some truth to that. In my younger years, I assumed I had endless days ahead of me.

Now, I realize every moment carries weight and meaning. There’s a sense of urgency that shows up around sixty—an awareness that we only have so many tomorrows in the bank.

Yet this realization isn’t all doom and gloom. Instead, it prompts you to prioritize what truly deserves your focus.

You become more comfortable saying “no” to obligations that don’t align with your values, and you devote quality time to people and activities that genuinely enrich your life.

If you’re younger, try adopting that mindset sooner rather than later. You might be surprised at how free you feel once you stop wasting time on stuff that doesn’t resonate with you.

If you’re already over sixty, well, you know exactly what I’m talking about: every hour can feel more precious than gold.

3. Embracing meaningful relationships

People come and go in our lives, but after sixty, you really start seeing which ones stand the test of time. Back in the day, I collected acquaintances like souvenirs—work buddies, neighbors I barely knew, distant relatives I’d see only on special occasions.

But the older I get, the more I cherish the folks who’ve remained constants in my life: dear friends, close family, and the kind souls who’ve stuck by me through highs and lows.

It’s not just about having a social circle; it’s about having a meaningful one. According to Harvard Health, strong relationships can even help us live longer and healthier lives.

The emotional support, the shared memories, and the sense of belonging all contribute to a richer existence.

Nowadays, I make an effort to keep in touch with the people who matter most. It might be grabbing lunch with an old friend or hosting a family get-together.

When you’ve seen how fleeting time can be, it becomes crucial to hold your loved ones a little closer.

4. Learning the beauty of stillness

We live in a society that glorifies busyness. I know I was guilty of it for a long time—galloping from one meeting to the next, planning tomorrow’s schedule while still wrapped up in today’s chaos.

But as the years rolled on, I discovered the sheer beauty of slowing down.

Stillness doesn’t mean doing nothing. It means creating space for reflection, creativity, and peace of mind.

As I’ve grown older, I’ve learned to appreciate quiet moments more: enjoying my morning coffee without rushing, or taking time to watch birds flit about in the park.

Sometimes, I’ll even practice simple mindfulness techniques. For instance, I’ll focus on my breath and let my mind wander gently, rather than forcing myself to think about any one thing.

The American Psychological Association points out that such mindfulness practices can help manage stress and improve mental clarity—a welcome relief at any age, but especially when life’s responsibilities start to wind down and you have more hours to fill with what truly nurtures your soul.

5. Appreciating small joys

When I was younger, I aimed big. Vacations needed to be far-flung and exotic, celebrations had to be grand, and success was measured in leaps and bounds. Nothing wrong with dreaming big, of course.

Yet over time, I’ve come to see that life’s real magic often resides in the tiniest details.

It might be the crisp sound of leaves crunching underfoot on an autumn day, or the way my grandchildren laugh over the simplest of jokes. Sometimes, I’ll spot a stunning sunset while walking Lottie and think, “Wow, how lucky am I to witness this?”

I’ve mentioned this before in a previous post here at Global English Editing, but it bears repeating: recognizing small moments of joy can shift your entire outlook. You realize that happiness isn’t a grand destination you arrive at; it’s a series of fleeting instants that you choose to notice.

And trust me, noticing them gets much easier with age—maybe because you’ve lived enough to know just how significant they truly are.

6. Confronting past regrets

Let’s be real: by the time you hit sixty, you’ve probably racked up a regret or two. Missed opportunities, unspoken apologies, relationships that didn’t pan out, and decisions you wish you could undo.

The difference now is that you start to understand the weight these regrets can carry if left unaddressed.

For me, it was a friendship that ended abruptly due to a silly misunderstanding. We both moved on, but I carried that guilt for years.

Finally, I reached out with a letter—just an honest account of how I felt. Even though the outcome wasn’t a complete reconciliation, the act of confronting that regret lifted a burden from my mind.

Letting go is liberating. It might not fix every problem, but it clears space for the life you want to live now. Holding onto old wounds only ties you to the person you were back then, rather than the person you’re becoming.

So if you’ve got a nagging memory that keeps you up at night, consider addressing it head-on. You might be surprised by how much lighter you feel afterward.

7. Nurturing your inner growth

Turns out, you’re never too old to learn new things. Growing older isn’t about stagnation; it’s about using the knowledge you’ve gathered to broaden your perspective.

Whether it’s picking up a hobby like painting or diving into self-development books, continued growth adds layers of richness to your life.

I started writing in earnest after I retired from my office job, and it has brought me immense satisfaction. It’s also put me in touch with people all over the world who share my interests.

I’ve learned that pursuing a passion—whatever it may be—keeps your mind engaged and your spirit lively.

And guess what? Your mental and emotional muscles need regular exercise too. Just like your body benefits from a daily walk, your mind thrives when you feed it new ideas.

Even if it’s something as simple as reading a chapter from a classic nonfiction book each night, those little steps add up. Over time, you’ll notice a shift in how you process challenges and find solutions, no matter your age.

Parting thoughts

I’m still figuring things out myself, but the older I get, the clearer it becomes that life is largely defined by what we choose to value.

Health, cherished relationships, the ability to be still and savor the moment—these aren’t just buzzwords. They form the foundation of a fulfilling life, especially when you’ve seen how fast the years can fly.

If you’re younger, don’t wait until you’re sixty to adopt these values. If you’re already in your sixties or beyond, it’s never too late to realign your priorities.

Either way, take that daily walk, make that phone call, forgive that old grudge, and remember to celebrate the small wonders that dot your path.

At the end of the day, the aim is to look back on these years with contentment, rather than wish you’d realized their importance sooner. So what’s one step you’ll take today to treasure the life you have right now?