There’s something special about knowing you’re on someone’s mind—first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

It’s not always obvious, though.

People don’t walk around announcing who they’re thinking about—but, if you pay attention, the signs are there.

From small habits to the way they communicate, certain behaviors reveal just how much space you take up in their thoughts.

Here are seven subtle signs that you might be the first and last thing on someone’s mind each day:

1) They reach out to you first thing in the morning

One of the biggest signs you’re on someone’s mind?

You’re the first person they want to talk to when they wake up.

Maybe they send a quick “Good morning” text, share something funny they just saw, or ask how you slept.

Whatever the message, the fact that they’re reaching out before starting their day says a lot.

It’s not just about habit—it’s about priority.

When someone consistently makes you their first contact of the day, it’s a pretty strong sign that you’re also their first thought.

2) They say goodnight—even when they don’t have to

I used to think goodnight texts were just a casual thing.

But then I noticed something: There was one person in my life who never let a day end without saying goodnight, even if we hadn’t talked much that day.

It wasn’t out of obligation.

There were no ongoing conversations they needed to wrap up.

They just made the effort to check in before they went to sleep.

That’s when I realized: When someone makes you the last person they talk to at night, it’s because you’re also the last person on their mind.

3) They remember the little things you say

When someone truly listens to you, they don’t just hear your words—they remember them.

Maybe you casually mentioned your favorite coffee order once, and the next time you meet, they surprise you with it.

Perhaps you told them about an important meeting coming up, and they check in to see how it went.

Our brains naturally prioritize the things that matter to us.

That’s why people tend to forget random details but can recall specific things about someone they think about often.

If they’re remembering the little things about you, chances are, you’re on their mind far more than you realize.

4) They find reasons to start conversations with you

When someone thinks about you a lot, they don’t wait for a “good reason” to talk to you—they create one.

Maybe they send you a meme that reminded them of you, ask for your opinion on something small, or bring up an inside joke just to get a conversation going.

It’s not about the topic—it’s about staying connected.

People naturally gravitate toward those who are on their minds.

5) They check in when they know you’ve had a long day

There was a time when I barely mentioned I was going through a rough week.

I didn’t want to make a big deal out of it, so I just casually said I had a lot on my plate.

But later that evening, I got a message: “Hey, I know today was probably exhausting for you. Just wanted to check in—how are you feeling?”

That kind of thoughtfulness doesn’t come from nowhere.

It comes from someone who’s paying attention, who remembers what’s happening in your life, and who genuinely cares enough to follow up.

When someone checks in on you like that, it’s because you’re on their mind—even when you don’t realize it.

6) They bring you up in random conversations

Ever had someone say, “Oh, that reminds me of something you said the other day!” or “I was just talking about you earlier”?

That’s not a coincidence—it’s a sign you’re on their mind even when you’re not around.

When we think about someone often, they naturally come up in conversation.

We make connections between what’s happening in the moment and the person who’s occupying our thoughts.

7) They make you feel it

You don’t have to wonder when someone truly thinks about you first thing in the morning and last at night—you just know.

It’s in the way they prioritize you, the way they make an effort to stay connected, and the way they show up for you without being asked.

Actions always speak louder than words and, when someone cares that much, you’ll feel it before you ever need to question it.

The mind lingers where the heart is

The human brain processes thousands of thoughts each day, but not all of them hold the same weight.

Some come and go in an instant, while others linger, resurfacing at the quietest moments—when we wake up, and just before we fall asleep.

Research suggests that emotionally significant thoughts are more likely to dominate our minds, influencing everything from our mood to our decision-making.

When someone consistently thinks about a particular person during these key moments of the day, it’s often because that person holds a special place in their life.

At the end of the day, we don’t repeatedly think about just anyone—we think about the people who matter to us the most.