Happiness can often feel elusive. We all aspire to it, but its path is rarely linear or predictable.

As a society, we’re conditioned to look for happiness in the big moments and major accomplishments. We’re taught that it’s something we achieve when we tick off certain boxes on the never-ending checklist of life.

But through my own journey and the wisdom of psychology, I’ve discovered that happiness is often hindered not by significant obstacles, but by subtle behaviors we unknowingly engage in every day.

Here are seven subtle behaviors that could be preventing you from experiencing the true richness and joy of life.

1) Pursuit of perfection

Perfection is a myth, yet many of us are caught up in its relentless pursuit. We often believe that happiness will come once we achieve this elusive state of flawlessness, whether in our work, relationships, or personal growth.

Perfectionism not only sets unrealistic standards but also prevents us from embracing the beauty of our imperfections. It convinces us that we’re never good enough and that our happiness is perpetually one accomplishment away.

As a society, we’re conditioned to equate perfection with success. Yet, my journey has shown me that true success lies in the messy and imperfect process of exploring, failing, learning, and growing.

It’s time to let go of the idea of perfection as a prerequisite for happiness. Embrace your imperfections. They make you uniquely you, and that’s more than enough.

Perfection isn’t a requirement for happiness. Start celebrating your human imperfections. Begin now.

2) Comparing yourself with others

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of comparison. With the advent of social media, we’re constantly exposed to the highlight reels of other people’s lives, which can make us feel like we’re falling short.

I’ve been there, too, measuring my worth based on how I stack up against others. The truth is, comparison is a zero-sum game. It breeds resentment and insecurity, overshadowing our unique strengths and achievements.

Each of us is on our own journey. Your path will look different from mine, and that’s okay. It’s more than okay—it’s beautiful and necessary.

As Theodore Roosevelt wisely said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Don’t let comparison rob you of your happiness. Celebrate your journey and honor your unique path.

3) Being trapped in societal conditioning

We’re all born into a world with pre-existing norms and expectations. These societal conditionings can become invisible cages, limiting our potential and keeping us from truly being ourselves.

I’ve experienced this firsthand, and I’ve also seen the transformative power of breaking free from these constraints. This is why I’m so passionate about the “Free Your Mind” masterclass with the shaman Rudá Iandê.

It’s a journey that I had the privilege to co-produce, aimed at helping you transcend these limiting beliefs and societal expectations.

Rudá guides you through exercises that dismantle common myths and pitfalls, promoting a shift from frustration and guilt to love and acceptance. By aligning your thoughts and actions with your personal values, you’ll gain improved mental clarity and emotional resilience.

This masterclass is more than just learning; it’s about experiencing a profound transformation.

So, if you’re ready to break free from societal conditioning and embrace your true nature, I invite you to join us. Start your journey towards mental and emotional liberation with the Free Your Mind masterclass.

4) Ignoring your inner voice

In our quest to fit into societal norms, we often silence our inner voice. We repress our authentic feelings and desires, conforming to what we believe is expected of us. In my own journey, I’ve learned that this is a surefire path to discontentment.

Your inner voice reflects your true self. It’s your compass, guiding you towards what truly matters to you. When we ignore it, we’re denying ourselves the opportunity to live authentically.

The process of listening to and honoring your inner voice isn’t always comfortable. It may challenge societal expectations or the image you’ve cultivated of yourself. However, it’s an essential step towards personal freedom and happiness.

Ask yourself: Are you honoring your inner voice? Or are you silencing it in the pursuit of external validation?

5) Believing happiness is a destination

We’re often sold the narrative that happiness is a destination, something we’ll reach once we achieve certain milestones. But this belief can turn our lives into a never-ending chase, always striving for the next thing without ever truly enjoying the present.

In reality, happiness isn’t a destination—it’s a journey. It’s found in the small moments of joy, the connections we make, the challenges we overcome, and the personal growth we experience along the way.

It’s about aligning our actions with our values, embracing our imperfections, and celebrating our unique journey—regardless of where we are on that path.

Happiness isn’t somewhere you arrive at—it’s how you travel. Embrace your journey. Experience your happiness now.

6) Resisting change

Change is an integral part of life.

Yet, many of us resist it, clinging to the familiar out of fear of the unknown. This resistance can keep us stuck in patterns that no longer serve us, preventing us from experiencing true happiness.

Embracing change involves acknowledging that everything is temporary and that growth often comes from discomfort. It means stepping out of our comfort zones, challenging our fears, and opening ourselves up to new possibilities.

In my own journey, I’ve found that when we stop resisting and start embracing change, we allow ourselves to flow with the natural rhythm of life. This doesn’t mean the journey will be easy, but it does mean we’re moving forward, towards a life that aligns with our true selves.

Change is a natural part of life. Embrace it and you embrace growth. 

7) Neglecting self-care

In a world that often values productivity over well-being, it’s easy to neglect self-care. We push ourselves to the limit, ignoring our body’s signals for rest and rejuvenation until we’re running on empty.

But self-care is not a luxury—it’s a necessity for happiness. It’s about honoring our physical, mental, and emotional needs, creating space for rest, and nourishing ourselves in a way that enables us to show up fully in our lives.

It’s important to remember that self-care isn’t just about bubble baths and spa days—it’s about setting boundaries, saying no when you need to, and taking care of your mental health.

I’ve learned through my own experiences that when we make self-care a priority, we’re not only taking care of ourselves but also creating a foundation for happiness and well-being.

Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Honor your needs. 

Embracing authentic happiness

Understanding and addressing these behaviors is not just about achieving temporary happiness—it’s about aligning our lives with our deepest values, breaking free from societal conditioning, and cultivating a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

For those who are ready to take this journey to the next level, I highly recommend the “Free Your Mind” masterclass with Rudá Iandê. This masterclass, which I had the honor of co-producing, is designed to help you transcend limiting beliefs and societal expectations.

Guided by Rudá Iandê’s wisdom, you’ll embark on a transformative journey towards personal liberation. You’ll learn how to dismantle common spiritual myths and develop a personal cosmovision that aligns with your true self.

Joining this masterclass is more than just a learning experience—it’s an invitation to a profound transformation towards authentic happiness. 

Now, if you’re ready to embrace this journey and start living in alignment with your true self, I invite you to join us in the Free Your Mind masterclass.

Remember: Happiness isn’t just a state—it’s a journey. Embrace your journey. Start now.