You know you’re becoming the best version of yourself if you’ve made peace with these 11 truths

Eliza Hartley by Eliza Hartley | October 16, 2025, 9:06 pm

There’s an old saying that goes, “The only constant in life is change,” and truer words were never spoken.

As we journey through life, we’re constantly evolving, growing, and becoming better versions of ourselves. But how do we know when we’re on the right track? Well, it all boils down to recognizing and accepting a few fundamental truths.

In our fast-paced world where communication is key and clarity is a virtue, it’s crucial to understand these truths to better ourselves and our interactions with others.

Buckle up, grab your favorite brew, and let’s journey together through these 11 truths. Once you’ve made peace with them, you’ll know you’re well on your way to becoming the best version of yourself.

This isn’t about perfection, but progression. It’s about making small improvements every day and being a little better than you were yesterday. It’s about being patient with yourself during the process because personal growth is a journey, not a destination.

And it’s about understanding that every day is a new opportunity for learning and self-improvement.

Are you ready to take that first step towards becoming the best version of yourself? Let’s dive in!

1) Failure is part of the process

Let’s kick things off with a big one – failure.

Yes, you heard that right. Failure.

It’s something we all dread, but it’s also something we all experience at some point or another.

The truth is, failure isn’t the end of the world. In fact, it’s often a stepping stone to success.

Think about it: every time you fall, you learn something new. You figure out what doesn’t work and that brings you one step closer to finding out what does.

So, accept that failure is part of the process.

It doesn’t define you or your worth. It’s just a lesson in disguise.

Embrace it, learn from it, and then pick yourself up and keep going. That’s how growth happens.

2) You can’t please everyone

This is a tough one for many of us to accept, but it’s a crucial truth: you can’t please everyone.

No matter how hard you try or how good your intentions are, there will always be someone who isn’t happy.

And that’s okay.

Because you’re not living your life for them, you’re living it for you.

It’s important to be kind and considerate, of course. But at the end of the day, your happiness and peace of mind matter too.

So don’t be too hard on yourself when someone isn’t pleased with your actions or decisions.

It’s your life. Live it on your own terms.

3) Perfection is a myth

Here’s something I’ve learned from my own life: perfection is a myth. It simply doesn’t exist.

I used to strive for perfection in everything I did. Whether it was a project at work, a hobby, or even a simple task like cleaning the house, I wanted it to be flawless.

But all this did was put an enormous amount of pressure on me. I was constantly stressed and never truly satisfied with my efforts.

Then one day, it hit me: no one is perfect. Not me, not you, not anyone. And that’s okay.

What matters most is doing our best and learning from our mistakes along the way. That’s how we grow and improve.

So don’t beat yourself up trying to attain perfection. Instead, strive for progress and give yourself credit for every step forward, no matter how small.

4) Change is inevitable

Change: it’s a part of life that’s as certain as the sun rising every morning.

Here’s an interesting fact: scientists have found that the cells in our body are constantly changing and regenerating. In fact, it’s estimated that 98% of the atoms in your body are replaced each year.

Just as our physical selves are constantly evolving, so too are our lives. Relationships, careers, lifestyles – nothing stays the same forever.

And while change can be scary, it’s also an opportunity for growth and new experiences.

So instead of resisting change, try to embrace it. You never know where it might lead you.

5) Self-love is essential

Self-love, dear reader, is more than a buzzword. It’s a fundamental truth that we often overlook.

In a world where we’re constantly bombarded with messages about what we should be, it’s easy to lose sight of the incredible person we already are.

But you, yes you, are worthy of love and respect just as you are. You don’t have to earn it or prove it. You are deserving simply because you exist.

Loving yourself doesn’t mean you think you’re perfect. It means you accept yourself as you are, while striving to grow and improve.

Take time for self-care, set healthy boundaries, and speak kindly to yourself. Trust me, you’re worth it.

6) It’s okay to say no

This one took me a long time to learn, but it’s been a game-changer: It’s okay to say no.

I used to be a ‘yes’ person. Whether it was taking on extra work, helping a friend move, or attending an event I wasn’t interested in, I’d always say yes.

Over time, I realized that saying yes to everything was leaving me drained and stressed. I was neglecting my own needs to accommodate others.

So, I started practicing saying no. At first, it felt uncomfortable and I worried about letting people down.

But then something amazing happened. I found that I had more time for the things that truly mattered to me. I felt less stressed and more in control of my life.

Your time and energy are precious. It’s okay to protect them by saying no when you need to.

7) Not everyone is going to like you

Here’s a raw, unfiltered truth: Not everyone is going to like you.

And that stings, doesn’t it? We all want to be liked, to be accepted. But the reality is, no matter what you do or how hard you try, there will always be people who just don’t click with you.

Maybe it’s a difference in personality, values, or simply a misunderstanding. But whatever it is, it’s important to remember that it’s not a reflection of your worth.

You are not for everyone and that’s okay. You were not put on this earth to win a popularity contest.

So stop trying to fit into everyone else’s box and just be unapologetically you. The right people will love and appreciate you for it.

8) Money doesn’t buy happiness

Here’s an interesting fact: Studies have shown that once your basic needs are met, additional income does not significantly increase happiness.

Money can buy comfort and security, and it can certainly make life easier in many ways. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t buy happiness.

True joy comes from things that money can’t buy. Things like love, friendship, family, purpose, and fulfillment.

So while it’s important to strive for financial stability, don’t let money become the sole definition of your success or happiness. There’s so much more to life than what’s in your bank account.

9) Everyone has their own journey

I’ve learned this one through years of comparing myself to others: Everyone has their own journey.

There was a time when I’d look at someone else’s life and wonder why I wasn’t where they were. Why didn’t I have what they had? Why wasn’t I as successful or happy as they seemed to be?

But then I realized that I was only seeing a snapshot of their life. I didn’t see their struggles, their failures, or the hard work they put in behind the scenes.

And most importantly, I realized that their journey was not mine. We each have our own paths to walk, our own lessons to learn.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own journey. It’s unique, it’s beautiful, and it’s yours.

You’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

10) You’ll outgrow people and that’s okay

Here’s a hard truth: as you grow and evolve, you’re going to outgrow some people.

Friends, family members, partners – sometimes the people we care about just don’t grow with us. And that’s okay.

It hurts to let go, but remember, not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. Some people are there for a reason, some for a season.

Keep growing, keep evolving. The right people will either grow with you or they’ll meet you along the way.

11) You’re stronger than you think

Finally, and perhaps most importantly: You’re stronger than you think.

Life is tough. It throws curveballs and it knocks us down. But every single time, you get back up.

You may have scars. You may have been hurt. But you’re still here, still standing, still moving forward.

You are resilient. You are strong. And whatever life throws at you next – you can handle it.

So embrace these truths, my friend. They’re part of your journey to becoming the best version of yourself. Keep in mind, you’re doing just fine.