It’s one of the most difficult challenges you can face:

You’re not a parent yet, but you think about it a lot. Maybe you even have a partner who’s just as excited about the idea as you are.

You’ve read all the books, you’ve done all the research, but still, there’s this nagging doubt in your mind.

Often it’s not even a specific worry.

You just have this lingering feeling that you might not be cut out for this parenthood thing, despite all your heart, head, or gut telling you otherwise.

Here’s how to know for sure that you’re going to be an amazing parent, even if right now, you’re plagued with doubts.

1) You have a deep care for others

Empathy is an essential trait in raising children.

Being a parent means putting another person’s needs before your own, time and time again.

If you’re someone who naturally shows concern for the feelings and well-being of others, chances are you’ll do the same for your future child.

So, if you often find yourself going out of your way to help someone, or if you’re always the person your friends turn to for advice or support, then these are clear signs.

Your innate ability to care for others will not only make you a wonderful parent, but it will also help your child to grow into a compassionate and understanding individual.

So even if you have doubts, remember that this trait is a strong indication that you’ll be amazing at parenthood.

2) You understand the power of patience

I’ll be the first to admit, patience isn’t my strongest suit.

But over the years, I’ve come to realize just how important it is. Not just in life, but in potential parenthood as well.

Children are notorious for testing boundaries and limits. They’re curious, they’re learning, and they’ll make mistakes.

If you’re like me, and you’re working on your patience, that’s a good sign. It means you’re willing to grow and adapt for the sake of your future child.

The journey towards patience can be a tough one, but it’s a journey worth taking. And trust me, your future self will thank you for it when those inevitable parenting challenges come around.

3) You’re not afraid of a little mess

A few years back, I was babysitting my niece. She was just a toddler then, full of energy and curiosity.

She found a box of glitter in my craft drawer and before I knew it, there was glitter everywhere. On her, on me, on the furniture, on the dog.

At first, I was horrified. But then I saw the joy in her eyes, the pure happiness that something as simple as glitter could bring.

And in that moment, I realized something. Parenthood is messy. It’s glitter on your favorite couch and spilled milk on your new rug.

But if you can find the joy in these messy moments, if you can laugh instead of cry, then you’re well on your way to becoming a great parent. Even if right now, you’re doubting yourself.

4) You value learning and growth

Did you know that the human brain continues to develop until around the age of 25?

It’s true. And this constant development means that we, as humans, have an incredible capacity to learn and grow.

The same is true for parenting. No one is born knowing how to be a parent. We learn it, we grow into it.

If you’re someone who loves to learn, who seeks out new knowledge and experiences, then you’re likely going to be a fantastic parent.

You’ll learn from your mistakes, you’ll grow with every challenge, and you’ll pass on this love for learning to your child. You might not feel like an expert now, but remember this: The best parents are those who never stop learning.

5) You’re adaptable in the face of change

Life, as we know it, is full of unexpected twists and turns.

I’ve had my fair share of surprises, some good, some not so good. But each one has taught me to be adaptable, to roll with the punches.

And there’s no greater test of adaptability than parenthood.

From sleepless nights to sudden illnesses, from first steps to first heartbreaks, parenthood is a constant journey of change.

If you’re someone who takes changes in stride, who can adapt and adjust to new situations, then you’re well equipped for the journey of parenthood.

Even if you’re doubting yourself now, remember that adaptability is a sign of strength. And it’s this strength that will make you a wonderful parent.

6) You can communicate effectively

Communication is the backbone of all relationships. It’s how we understand and interact with the world around us.

From explaining why we don’t touch the hot stove, to discussing why sharing is important, effective communication is a cornerstone of parenting.

I’ve had my moments of miscommunication, times when I wished I had said something differently. But each of these moments taught me a valuable lesson about expressing myself clearly and listening with intent.

If you’re someone who understands the value of clear, compassionate communication, then you’re already on the right path.

Even if you don’t have all the answers right now, your willingness to communicate will guide you through the uncertainties of parenthood.

7) You know the importance of self-care

In all the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to forget about taking care of ourselves.

I’ve been there, caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities, forgetting to take a moment for myself. But over time, I’ve learned that self-care isn’t just important, it’s essential.

As parents, we often put our children’s needs before our own. And while that’s part of being a parent, it’s also crucial to remember that we can’t pour from an empty cup.

If you’re someone who understands and practices self-care, be it through exercise, meditation, reading, or anything else that recharges you, then you’re setting a great example for your future child.

Remember, taking care of yourself doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you a parent who understands the importance of balance. And that, my friend, is a sign of a wonderful parent.

8) You feel the fear but do it anyway

I won’t lie to you, parenting can be scary. The responsibility, the unknowns, the sheer magnitude of it all.

But here’s the thing: feeling scared doesn’t mean you won’t be a great parent. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.

Feeling scared means you’re taking this seriously. It means you understand the enormity of bringing a life into the world and raising them to be a kind, compassionate individual.

So if you’re feeling scared, but still willing to take on this incredible journey, then trust me, you’re going to be a wonderful parent.

The final thought

If you’ve found yourself nodding along to these signs, it’s clear that you possess many of the traits needed to be a wonderful parent.

But it’s important to remember, doubts and fears are normal. They don’t undermine your potential, but rather, they indicate your deep care and commitment.

Embrace this journey of self-discovery as you prepare for parenthood. It’s okay to stumble, to question, to learn. Parenting isn’t about being perfect, it’s about growing alongside your child.

Pay attention to these signs within you. They’re not just indicators of your potential as a parent, but also reminders of your own strength and capability.