There’s a fine line between a good woman and an extraordinary one.

This distinction, my dears, is what gives spice to our lives. Who doesn’t want a woman that truly adds value to their existence?

I’m Tina Fey, founder of the Love Connection blog, and I’ve spent years decoding what makes a woman stand out. I’m not just talking about the usual sparks, but also the subtle signs that psychology suggests are evidence of a truly good woman.

In this article, I’ll explore the 8 signs that show you have an incredibly good woman in your life, according to psychology. 

Let’s get started. 

1) She’s your biggest cheerleader

Every one of us needs a cheerleader in our lives. You know, that one person who believes in you, even when you’re finding it hard to believe in yourself.

This is where the beauty of a good woman shines brightly.

A good woman, according to psychology, isn’t just there for the good times. She’s by your side during the tough moments, offering support and encouragement. She genuinely believes in your dreams and aspirations, even when they seem unattainable.

She doesn’t just passively stand by. Instead, she actively helps you reach your goals. She’s your personal cheerleader, your source of inspiration.

And not forgetting, she celebrates your victories as if they were her own.

It’s not about blind faith or unrealistic expectations. It’s about having someone who sees your potential and isn’t afraid to push you towards achieving greatness.

Now that’s a sign of a truly good woman!

2) She’s a master of empathy

Empathy, my friends, is a powerful thing. It’s the ability to truly understand and share the feelings of another. And believe me, when you have a woman in your life who is a master of empathy, you’re onto a winner.

As the great American poet Maya Angelou once said: “I think we all have empathy. We may not have enough courage to display it.”

A good woman has that courage. She is not afraid to put herself in your shoes, to feel what you’re feeling. It’s more than just sympathy; it’s about connecting on a deeper level.

She’s there to listen when you need to talk, and she understands without you needing to explain everything. Her compassion is authentic and genuine.

This ability to empathize is not only rare but also truly beautiful. So if you have a woman who can feel with you and for you, hold onto her. She’s absolutely golden!

3) She values your independence

Independence is a quality that we all cherish. It’s what makes us feel strong, capable, and self-reliant. But when you’re in a relationship, maintaining that independence can sometimes feel like a delicate dance.

I’ve always believed that the best relationships are those between two independent individuals who choose to share their lives. Not out of necessity, but out of desire.

And in my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve deeper into this concept.

A good woman understands the importance of this independence. She doesn’t try to control you or make you feel guilty for wanting time for yourself. Instead, she appreciates your individuality and encourages you to pursue your passions.

She respects your space and understands that time apart doesn’t mean love is diminishing. Quite the opposite, it can strengthen the bond.

4) She’s not afraid to disagree with you

Now, this one might sound a bit counterintuitive. Shouldn’t a good woman always agree with you? Well, not necessarily.

Disagreements are a natural part of any relationship. They can even be healthy when handled correctly. A good woman isn’t scared to voice her opinions, even if they clash with yours.

Instead of always nodding along, she challenges your ideas and stimulates your thinking. She values open and honest communication, and she believes that diversity in thought can strengthen the bond between you two.

She pushes you to see things from different perspectives, helping you grow as an individual. It’s not about winning an argument; it’s about mutual understanding and respect for each other’s viewpoints.

As they say, iron sharpens iron. So if your woman isn’t afraid to lock horns with you occasionally, it’s a sign that she truly values the relationship. 

5) She appreciates the little things

As someone who has been in the love game for a while, I can tell you that it’s often the little things that make a huge difference.

A good woman doesn’t just live for grand gestures and big moments. She finds joy in the small, everyday things. A shared joke, a quiet evening in, a thoughtful text message – these little gestures mean the world to her.

She also appreciates your efforts, no matter how small they may seem. She values your time together and cherishes the simple moments. It’s not about what you do but the love and thought behind it.

A woman who appreciates the little things understands that life isn’t always about grand adventures and epic love stories. Sometimes, it’s about quiet contentment and shared smiles.

6) She’s not perfect, and she knows it

Let’s get real for a moment. No one is perfect, and a good woman knows this all too well.

She understands that she has flaws, and she doesn’t try to hide them. Instead, she embraces her imperfections and strives to learn and grow from them.

She doesn’t put up a facade or pretend to be someone she’s not. She’s genuine, honest, and real. And she expects the same from you.

She’s not afraid to admit when she’s wrong, and she takes responsibility for her actions. It’s this humility and authenticity that make her truly special.

It’s not about finding a perfect woman; it’s about finding a woman who’s perfect for you. 

7) She inspires you to be better

In the words of Oprah Winfrey, “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” And, my dear readers, this couldn’t be more accurate when it comes to a good woman.

A good woman doesn’t just accept you for who you are; she inspires you to become the best version of yourself. She sees your potential and encourages you to reach for the stars.

She’s not just your partner; she’s your motivator, your coach, and your biggest fan.

In her company, you find yourself wanting to learn more, do more, and be more. You’re not changing for her but for yourself because she makes you want to be better.

8) She loves you, in spite of everything

This one might seem obvious, but it’s worth mentioning because it’s one of the most important signs of a good woman.

She loves you – in all your flawed, imperfect glory. She sees your weaknesses, your mistakes, your quirks, and yet, she chooses to love you anyway.

She doesn’t just love the best parts of you; she loves the whole package. The good, the bad, and everything in between.

This kind of unconditional love isn’t about overlooking your flaws. It’s about accepting and embracing them as part of who you are.

She’s there for you in your darkest hours, offering comfort and understanding. She sticks around even when things get tough because she genuinely cares about you.

Real love isn’t about perfection. It’s raw, it’s messy, and it’s honest. And if you’ve got a woman who loves you like this, then my friend, you have a really good woman in your life. 

Conclusion

That wraps up our exploration of the signs of a truly good woman. Remember, every woman is unique, and these signs might manifest differently in each one. The key is to appreciate her for who she is and the value she brings into your life.

If you’re looking for more insights on building healthy and fulfilling relationships, be sure to check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s packed with practical advice and strategies to help you navigate the complex world of love and relationships.

In the end, if you’ve got a woman who ticks even a few of these boxes, hold onto her. She’s truly special. And remember, it’s not just about finding a good woman, but also being the right partner for her. After all, it takes two to tango!